hi every one im new hear on this siteand im so lonly i life in a city thats kinda big kinda smaal and i want to make life long friends but im really shy when it comes to talkuin to someone face to face i dont no how tointroduce myself topeoplebut i also want to have christian friends who love God the way i do what do i do???
That is a hard question. It is difficult to make friends in the world and even harder to make
friends that are Christians. The world I expect to not care. But most Christians don't either.
I would suggest trying to find a church in your area that has a group that is composed of
Christian singles. This will give you the opportunity of meeting others. As you get to know
some of them, you'll find those that are true Christians and those that just like the
environment.
Many Christians say don't judge other Christians but Jesus said just the opposite. We are to
judge other Christians but not correct them in a pride manner. It is our responsibility as
brothers and sisters in Christ to look out for each other. If you see a Christian brother or
sister about to do something that would harm them or their Christ-like Testimony, you should
warn them just as you would if your biological brother or sister were about to do something
that may not be good for them.
I have found the church to be one of the coldest, most difficult places to find a friend. But there
are some that really want friends just like you do and are having the same problems finding
friends. Just get to know others at a church perhaps in a singles group or study group and
as you get to know them, your relationship will either grow or stagnate. If it stagnates, you
should look for others. It takes time to find those that can be a friend and not just a smiling
face.
I'm not judging the church. I'm just saying what my experience has been. If the church doesn't
want these said about them (keep in mind I'm a Christian) then they should change this.
The church does these things and these things don't change because the church is focused on
the person that had the nerve to judge them and not what was said.
The church seems to function like a duck. If someone walks up to a duck and says, "You act like
a duck", the church is too busy saying, "I can't believe they had the nerve to judge me as being
a duck!" instead of looking to see if it is true and correcting the problem.
Just give it time and you will find some great friends if you try different churches and groups.
I've been at it for over 3 years. I've only met about 5 friends but I've met hundreds of ducks.
