Someone make me change my mind and my life. I'm dunno how to tell u. But I need any advice and I know it. I have a problem with helping anyone. I have a friend, I have tried to help her. But she hates me now. Coz I have made a mistake when I help her. She won't forgive me. I have forgive her mistakes but she won't see,meet, talk, and forgive me. And talk with everyone about all my mistake to avoiding me with her friend. I have help her but she won't help me. Idk why I'm sad,and mad. I help her but I get any problems now. From this problem I already tired to help her and everyone. And i try to nvr forgive her in my life. I don't know why God allow it's happen with me. I need ur advice guys. Thanksss
im tired to help everyone.
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hi siela,
it is alright to be sad, and mad, but hope u dont stay so for long. losing a friend is hard, but ul learn n grow from that. it may evn be that she was also hurt by the mistake u talked abt, n processing things, altho not in the way u wanted or hoped. maybe keep ur distance, n yes, like u said u wanted to forgive but she wont respond by forgiving u back. we neither know why God allowed that, but it may be a chance for both u to grow. who knows, in good time she may understand n see her error too, n ask forgiveness. meanwhile, nurture ur other friendships, n just see, for a true friend is said to stick closer thn a brother.
it is alright to be sad, and mad, but hope u dont stay so for long. losing a friend is hard, but ul learn n grow from that. it may evn be that she was also hurt by the mistake u talked abt, n processing things, altho not in the way u wanted or hoped. maybe keep ur distance, n yes, like u said u wanted to forgive but she wont respond by forgiving u back. we neither know why God allowed that, but it may be a chance for both u to grow. who knows, in good time she may understand n see her error too, n ask forgiveness. meanwhile, nurture ur other friendships, n just see, for a true friend is said to stick closer thn a brother.
Hi sis 
Not everyone takes it serious to have the mind of Christ and to live like him. Dont let her take you down. Your special and shouldnt give up. Its never you that gets hated. The evil in her just hates Christ in you and wants to make you feel bad. Just accept her the way she is as you cannot change a person only God can if they WANT to. If she cared for you and would value your friendship she wouldnt let small things like that get between you anyways. My advice is to just pray for her, work on yourself for forgiving yourself and others and let God bring someone your way that will Value you the way you deserve.
God bless you sister
Not everyone takes it serious to have the mind of Christ and to live like him. Dont let her take you down. Your special and shouldnt give up. Its never you that gets hated. The evil in her just hates Christ in you and wants to make you feel bad. Just accept her the way she is as you cannot change a person only God can if they WANT to. If she cared for you and would value your friendship she wouldnt let small things like that get between you anyways. My advice is to just pray for her, work on yourself for forgiving yourself and others and let God bring someone your way that will Value you the way you deserve.God bless you sister
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This isn't being done 'to you'. This is what you allow to happen to you. You make the Choice to help. It is your decision. No one is forcing you to help anyone. So as long as you make that choice, no one is doing anything 'to you'. And if you continue helping the same person, and they continue not giving in return, then that is your Choice to put yourself in a situation where you know ahead of time, how you will be treated.
How you are to people determines how they treat you. We 'train' people how to treat us. When someone is repeatedly disrespectful to us, if we let it pass time and time again, we are telling that person 'you can treat me badly, i will let you'.
But giving shouldn't be about what you will get back. When you do something for someone, do it without any expectation of what you will get in return.
I went through a similar situation recently. I went out of my way to help someone. Over and over again. They would come to me and ask for help. And every time i ended up being mistreated. For reasons i won't get into i continued allowing this to happen for a while. But she also knew she could get away with being that way to me. By my actions i told her 'this is ok'. Just like you. But i stopped expecting anything back from her.
They may be at fault in the beginning, but the more you allow it the more the blame shifts from them, to you.
It's a wonderful trait that you have, wanting to help others. But with that comes the realization that some people won't appreciate it. Others will try to take advantage of it. While some will be grateful and express the best they can. Maybe they aren't good at helping others, so they will find other ways to show gratitude. And still another set will return the favor. But you can't expect all people to act according to how you think people should act.
These are all lessons i have had to learn, and in some ways am still learning. Hope it helps. (=
How you are to people determines how they treat you. We 'train' people how to treat us. When someone is repeatedly disrespectful to us, if we let it pass time and time again, we are telling that person 'you can treat me badly, i will let you'.
But giving shouldn't be about what you will get back. When you do something for someone, do it without any expectation of what you will get in return.
I went through a similar situation recently. I went out of my way to help someone. Over and over again. They would come to me and ask for help. And every time i ended up being mistreated. For reasons i won't get into i continued allowing this to happen for a while. But she also knew she could get away with being that way to me. By my actions i told her 'this is ok'. Just like you. But i stopped expecting anything back from her.
They may be at fault in the beginning, but the more you allow it the more the blame shifts from them, to you.
It's a wonderful trait that you have, wanting to help others. But with that comes the realization that some people won't appreciate it. Others will try to take advantage of it. While some will be grateful and express the best they can. Maybe they aren't good at helping others, so they will find other ways to show gratitude. And still another set will return the favor. But you can't expect all people to act according to how you think people should act.
These are all lessons i have had to learn, and in some ways am still learning. Hope it helps. (=
Hi sis Not everyone takes it serious to have the mind of Christ and to live like him. Dont let her take you down. Your special and shouldnt give up. Its never you that gets hated. The evil in her just hates Christ in you and wants to make you feel bad. Just accept her the way she is as you cannot change a person only God can if they WANT to. If she cared for you and would value your friendship she wouldnt let small things like that get between you anyways. My advice is to just pray for her, work on yourself for forgiving yourself and others and let God bring someone your way that will Value you the way you deserve.
God bless you sister
Not everyone takes it serious to have the mind of Christ and to live like him. Dont let her take you down. Your special and shouldnt give up. Its never you that gets hated. The evil in her just hates Christ in you and wants to make you feel bad. Just accept her the way she is as you cannot change a person only God can if they WANT to. If she cared for you and would value your friendship she wouldnt let small things like that get between you anyways. My advice is to just pray for her, work on yourself for forgiving yourself and others and let God bring someone your way that will Value you the way you deserve.God bless you sister
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