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peacewillovercome

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I need some opinions........im 17/f. Today was the first ever bible study I went to. It was me, my grandmother and her two friends. The bibly study was in a loft space of the church. There were about 9 people altogether. I was wearing a very uncomfortable pair of high heels. My grandmother could tell they were hurting me. However, she made me set-up and clean before and after which took about an hour. While we are walking back to the van, I had to sit down and take the heels off. When we got back to one of her friends' houses, while my grandmother was napping, her friend whom I,ve never met before offered to give me a foot rub because she saw how sore my feet were. So, the question is, is it okay to stand my ground even though I'm 17 and next time just tell my grandmother "no".? Or at least take the heels off at bible study?
 
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zai

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maybe next time, it would be a lot better to wear things that you are really comfortable with, so you may be able to enjoy things you are doing, and of course, you could concentrate to your fellowship because you are not worrying about your sore feet..

and if you would tell your grandmother a NO next time, say it in a mature manner, and explain it elaborately so she may understand what you are going through with your heels. im sure your grandma would understand and give you some consideration :)

i hope this helps.. God bless you..
 
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hattiebod

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I think its wonderful you went to a Bible study...I think its wonderful you helped clean and set up too, thats really kind. As for the heels? I think its hard to separate a young lady from shoes!! :) It probably did not enter your grandmothers head you were in pain...did you tell her? could you have slipped the shoes off? some older folks think its important to be 'dressed right' but mean no harm. Next time? think about where you are going...the park....a hike :) and wear those fashionable sneakers instead :) I bet you will still look gorgeous! :) God Bless, <><
 
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FAITHFULGILLIAN

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It seems odd to me that your grandmother insisted you wear the shoes even though you say she knew they were hurting you. Maybe she didn't realise how uncomfortable they were. In your situation, I would have explained the situation, but if she still said no , then unless there was a genuine health issue or the pain was severe, I would have obeyed her.
 
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MissCris

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I used to wear horribly uncomfortable shoes to school and church. Neither place was very appropriate for running around barefoot, so I assumed that once I put them on for the day, they were staying on til I got home. I also assumed it was probably my own fault if my feet hurt by that time for choosing to wear those shoes in the first place.


 
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Ugly

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FAITHFULGILLIAN said:
It seems odd to me that your grandmother insisted you wear the shoes even though you say she knew they were hurting you. Maybe she didn't realise how uncomfortable they were. In your situation, I would have explained the situation, but if she still said no , then unless there was a genuine health issue or the pain was severe, I would have obeyed her.
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That's not what she said. "I was wearing a very uncomfortable pair of high heels. My grandmother could tell they were hurting me. However, she made me set-up and clean before and after which took about an hour."
 
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Ugly

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To the OP. Stand your ground? Now that you know what is expected of you, you should dress more appropriately. To keep dressing in a manner that would make it difficult for you to do what's asked of you, then look for support to 'stand your ground' sounds somewhat defiant and a bit self absorbed. Why not show yourself, your grandmother and the others at the study some appreciation and respect by coming dressed in a manner that is suitable for you to be able to assist them? It is, after all, a bible study, not a fashion show. And part of the bibles message is respect and serving others. Not you always getting your way. I imagine you are there to learn, being a newer Christian. So what is wrong with you doing your part by helping with the set up, so the older people, and/or the leader can sit down or focus on the study? If you want to wear heels, that's your choice, but do it knowing you you may be expected to help, and that you choose to, in the future, wear heels, that you'll have to deal with the problems that arise. Seems so much simpler to just wear something different, though.
 
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FAITHFULGILLIAN

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Ugly said:
That's not what she said. "I was wearing a very uncomfortable pair of high heels. My grandmother could tell they were hurting me. However, she made me set-up and clean before and after which took about an hour."
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So what was stopping her taking off the heels?
 
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