Lies! Lies! Lies!

[kairiskywalker]

Well, here we are. I have a problem with lies: I suppose my life IS full of lies. All my friends have a boyfriend, I don't. I have never gone out on a date with a boy, never kissed one. And at my age, when all teenagers are so in love and are carefree I just sort of... Invented that I have a guy who is in love with me. I know it sounds very pathetic and I'm so embarrassed...I tell my friends that we go out on dates and all the things he says everytime we meet...

I don't know why I lie, maybe I want to be like the others and not the "girl who never dated". I already know that dating is no good, God has his perfect timing and he is preparing the right guy for me. I just want to stop lying and I don't know how! Do you know some passages of the Bible which can help me with this problem?
i live the life of another person, I talk about things which don't exist! Any suggestions?

 

[levi85]

you want not to lie but never taken a step for this , you can pray and tell the truth you will get peace and happiness more

 

[ji]

Well, here we are. I have a problem with lies: I suppose my life IS full of lies. All my friends have a boyfriend, I don't. I have never gone out on a date with a boy, never kissed one. And at my age, when all teenagers are so in love and are carefree I just sort of... Invented that I have a guy who is in love with me. I know it sounds very pathetic and I'm so embarrassed...I tell my friends that we go out on dates and all the things he says everytime we meet...

I don't know why I lie, maybe I want to be like the others and not the "girl who never dated". I already know that dating is no good, God has his perfect timing and he is preparing the right guy for me. I just want to stop lying and I don't know how! Do you know some passages of the Bible which can help me with this problem?
i live the life of another person, I talk about things which don't exist! Any suggestions?

"I already know that dating is no good, God has his perfect timing and he is preparing the right guy for me." - if God has planned a man for you,then he will come to you in time.Yes,dating is not good,that's true.So now you got one less burden to carry...and enjoying freedom from that bondage..
The loneliness you feel is there to make us come out strong in adversities,so our future in Christian walk will be easier..
All the lies you have is because of the influence of world and media that spreads lies in society.
Take a desperate struggle to walk with God.A baby first crawls,then sits,and then learns to stand up before staggering to walk..and its guided by the parent with Love and Care.So is Christian walk.
To those whom you lie to are also not perfect people(give it a thought),its just they know how to imitate being smart according to the trend today...
'trends of the world' varies according to time,..
God's words do not change.
He will carry you till your life ends,...
That's How deep God Loves us..He will never forsake you because you are not smart.
Jesus came for the weak and lost,...to make such perfect in Him and become Glorious like Him.

Start trusting in Jesus.The very conscious pricking you feel that 'you are lying and it makes you feel bad' is the beginning steps of Salvation.Yield to Jesus,a life exciting in God is kept ahead..do not miss it for the filth of the world..

There will be struggles,but God will pull you through..
He will teach you how to become strong in Faith and Prayer.

Taste and see that the Lord is Good
"O taste and see that the Lord is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him." Psalms 34:8 kjv

 

[kairiskywalker]

The fact is that I feel very bad: I got saved almost three years ago.
Lately I've been feeling really down and I'm afraid that I will not respect what is said here:
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!" 2 Corinthians 5:17

 

[posthuman]

The fact is that I feel very bad: I got saved almost three years ago.
Lately I've been feeling really down and I'm afraid that I will not respect what is said here:
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!" 2 Corinthians 5:17

it's not up to you to re-create yourself -- God does that, and it's a continual process our whole lives, until that day when Christ returns and makes all things complete. the fact that you feel bad about it is evidence of the Holy Spirit in your heart convicting you of sin and righteousness.
of course lying is wrong, but it's very good that it's laid on your heart that it is. now the Lord has forgiven all your sin, so don't despair, but move on from here trying to walk in truth

God has someone He's preparing for you, just like He's preparing you for someone too. things will happen on God's time. just trust Him, as well you can!

 

[kairiskywalker]

I wish I was able to serve Him with all my heart )

 

[posthuman]

I wish I was able to serve Him with all my heart )

me too !

 

[jogoldie]

Hey kido....my question to you is...do you have a church...if you do im thinking maybe you should join the youth
group...if we surround ourselves with "like minds"....that might take off the pressure of feeling like your missing out...
You will find that your not the only one and please...stop lying....
You should be proud that you are an honorable woman...one to be admired ....the sins of our past usually wind up
Kicking us in the butt later...these girls who are dating around probably regret more than half the stupid decissions they
have made ...and when they do find someone to really love them like God wants a man to love you...then your past will come to the
Light....so hold your head high ...I have a daughter who is 18 and she is like you...if you need someone to talk to I would be honored ito help...stay strong....remember who you are ....not what others want you to be.....peace.... stay focused on God....

 

[kairiskywalker]

Hey kido....my question to you is...do you have a church...if you do im thinking maybe you should join the youth
group...if we surround ourselves with "like minds"....that might take off the pressure of feeling like your missing out...
You will find that your not the only one and please...stop lying....
You should be proud that you are an honorable woman...one to be admired ....the sins of our past usually wind up
Kicking us in the butt later...these girls who are dating around probably regret more than half the stupid decissions they
have made ...and when they do find someone to really love them like God wants a man to love you...then your past will come to the
Light....so hold your head high ...I have a daughter who is 18 and she is like you...if you need someone to talk to I would be honored ito help...stay strong....remember who you are ....not what others want you to be.....peace.... stay focused on God....

Thank you for your kind words yes, in church we do have a youth group, but unfortunately some people that are there are even worst than people from school
we have a chat group and every Sunday before church the only think they ask is "what can I wear?!"

...you serious?!

 

[jogoldie]

That is soo sad.... my daughter tells me the same thing....trust in God......as a matter , of fact. She is going to prom...
Her first date....he is from the church ....and they decided to follow God ...He will bless them and they will have that
Relationship we all desire...I asked her if it was worth the wait....she said definately.....last year she was saying the same thing you
are.....so my young sister...its not that far away...patience builds faith...

 

[kairiskywalker]

I hope your daughter will be happy with this guy )

 

[miss_eden]

I had a problem with lying in my teenage years. For me it was before I was Christian, but as Christians we all have things we struggle with. For me, a lot of was about trying to impress others, escapism from a troubled home etc. You say that you maybe want to be like the others-I think it's important to pray for God's help to understand the reasons clearly why you feel driven to lie so that you can deal with that. If you don't even have a desire to date then that's great because it should make stopping the lying about having a guy even easier. It may feel like you'll be odd for being different but the truth is teenagers will respect others their age who do their own thing and *don't* try to impress. Also, even though it may not feel like it in the moment, teenagers actually have a short attention span when it comes to caring what one person is getting up to!

Don't beat yourself up about this, instead pray about it that God will change you give you the strength not to lie “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the body is weak”-Matt 26v14. Have quality quiet time daily studying the Bible, this will also help with this issue of lying as well as cause growth spiritually in general. "I have stored up your word in my heart, that I might not sin against you." (Psalm 119v11)- doing things in a way that is pleasing to the Lord will come more naturally.

Its sad that some of the people in your church group are overly concerned with worldly things but remember that is one of *their* personal struggles, pray for them and encourage them-you'll probably find they can build you up in ways too. Spend as much time around the young people at your church who aren't like this as you can. I've found that friendship of older Christian women who are mature in their faith an essential blessing too.

 

[ji]

The fact is that I feel very bad: I got saved almost three years ago.
Lately I've been feeling really down and I'm afraid that I will not respect what is said here:
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!" 2 Corinthians 5:17

we all have tough times,...me too...

But its not our strength that lead us Home to Heaven..

Jesus called you first and you realized His existence and you knew what He did to free us...
When we decide to follow Jesus and Trust Him,rest is done by Him..

Give your burdens to Jesus,He will carry you all the way...no matter what.
He will not fail even if at times we go through that loneliness atmosphere...
Jesus was left alone even by God the Father with whom He had a perfect relationship in His earthly life,when He was convicted and put to death for no reason of His.
Consider it a privilege when you Pray(when you come to Peace) after going through sufferings.
In the long run,God makes us Peaceful even in trouble some situations.

May God Bless you.
A broken heart God will not reject,and if you have a broken heart because of troubles in Christian walk,that means you're a Christian and that means you are headed Home.Look around you..There are people like me also carrying their cross walking towards the Eternal Light of God.
Our God is Love

 

[Animus]

Well, here we are. I have a problem with lies: I suppose my life IS full of lies. All my friends have a boyfriend, I don't. I have never gone out on a date with a boy, never kissed one. And at my age, when all teenagers are so in love and are carefree I just sort of... Invented that I have a guy who is in love with me. I know it sounds very pathetic and I'm so embarrassed...I tell my friends that we go out on dates and all the things he says everytime we meet...

I don't know why I lie, maybe I want to be like the others and not the "girl who never dated". I already know that dating is no good, God has his perfect timing and he is preparing the right guy for me. I just want to stop lying and I don't know how! Do you know some passages of the Bible which can help me with this problem?
i live the life of another person, I talk about things which don't exist! Any suggestions?

Not sure if this is the sort of suggestion that you are looking for, but it sounds like you want to know how to stop lying without telling your friends the truth. I suppose the easiest way to do this would be to just stop lying, and if they ask you about your silence regarding the mystery man, you can just tell them you don't want to talk about it, because luckily for you it just so happens to be none of their business (they'll probably just assume you two broke up). As for dating and relationships, they are overrated, even in the church. It's really not that difficult to get into one (a relationship that is), if you are content with it being with the wrong person. The important thing is to read your Bible, which should help you to remember that all this obsession with sex and dating is not Godly, and it is not good.

Someday a man will enter your life, and you'll get married, and you'll never be single again. You will live with this man until you die, and you will have all of the responsibilities of wife, and likely a mother. At this point in your life, are you really eager to start that part of your life now? Enjoy the care free nature of the single life while it lasts, because before you know it things will change forever.

 

[Elijah19]

Well... I know this sounds dry but... Lying is a sin so don't do it. Trust in God's timing. Bless you.

 

[TheAristocat]

Well, here we are. I have a problem with lies: I suppose my life IS full of lies. All my friends have a boyfriend, I don't. I have never gone out on a date with a boy, never kissed one. And at my age, when all teenagers are so in love and are carefree I just sort of... Invented that I have a guy who is in love with me. I know it sounds very pathetic and I'm so embarrassed...I tell my friends that we go out on dates and all the things he says everytime we meet...

I don't know why I lie, maybe I want to be like the others and not the "girl who never dated". I already know that dating is no good, God has his perfect timing and he is preparing the right guy for me. I just want to stop lying and I don't know how! Do you know some passages of the Bible which can help me with this problem?
i live the life of another person, I talk about things which don't exist! Any suggestions?

1. Telling the truth will probably be a relief even if people ridiculed you for it later. At least you wouldn't have to waste all that energy trying to keep your stories straight and deceive your friends. Or you could just stop talking about "him." If they ask you about him don't say anything until they stop asking about him. At least you won't be lying any more.

2. Also, you will receive the kind of person that you are. If a woman is a good woman, she will receive a good man. If a woman is a bad woman, she will receive a bad man. It's pretty simple. It's good to be a Christian, but that doesn't guarantee you a boyfriend or a spouse. The Bible teaches us that in order to have friends we must show ourselves to be friendly. So obviously much work is needed on our part to find the right one. If you want to find a loving, genuine and honest man, then show yourself to be loving, genuine and honest. Right now if a guy asks any of your friends about you the first thing he'll hear is, "Oh, she already has a boyfriend."