Life is hard.

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amberlynlover7

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Ok I don't know what to do with my life so far. I feel like a failure and haven't accomplished anything. I'm in college and I think my grades aren't that good. Even though I try to study hard. I feel like I'm not the smartest person in the class. I don't have any friends or someone to talk. I'm also trying to look for a job and plan to move out my mom home. Since I feel like a burden to my mom. I don't know what else to do. I wish there could be some changes in my life. I sometimes wish I have life like the celebrity such as the Kardashian since they have money clothes a house food car everything they can support themselves as a family.

I tried practicing the law of attraction and mediation but I'm not seeing any results.
 

Subhumanoidal

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Sounds to me like you're too hard on yourself. You don't need to be the smartest. Or popular. You just need to find what it is you want and go after it.

Being rich doesn't solve problems. For every problem you don't have from being rich you have a bigger problem to take it's place. Don't look to plastic people as something to strive for. Rich and famous people still get depressed, many celebs are drug addicts and we still see them killing themselves sometimes too. So clearly fame and money didn't make things easier for them.

Changes in your life, like you want, don't happen to you, but because of you. You want to see change, then change what you're doing since it's obviously not working. Don't sit around waiting for things to happen or you'll die disappointed one day.

The law of attraction and I'm sure what you mean by meditation are occult in nature and go against God. No wonder they aren't working.

Does your mom say you're a problem for her, or is that what you say to yourself?
It sounds like you spend a lot of time feeling sorry for yourself while waiting for good things to fall in your lap, and no time trying to change anything for the better. Only you can fix that, no one else.
 
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amberlynlover7

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Sounds to me like you're too hard on yourself. You don't need to be the smartest. Or popular. You just need to find what it is you want and go after it.

Being rich doesn't solve problems. For every problem you don't have from being rich you have a bigger problem to take it's place. Don't look to plastic people as something to strive for. Rich and famous people still get depressed, many celebs are drug addicts and we still see them killing themselves sometimes too. So clearly fame and money didn't make things easier for them.

Changes in your life, like you want, don't happen to you, but because of you. You want to see change, then change what you're doing since it's obviously not working. Don't sit around waiting for things to happen or you'll die disappointed one day.

The law of attraction and I'm sure what you mean by meditation are occult in nature and go against God. No wonder they aren't working.

Does your mom say you're a problem for her, or is that what you say to yourself?
It sounds like you spend a lot of time feeling sorry for yourself while waiting for good things to fall in your lap, and no time trying to change anything for the better. Only you can fix that, no one else.
Well I heard the law of attraction and mediation does work. I saw so many people on YouTube give testimonials about themselves and how they manifested a particular thing they want to the universes. I also been listening subliminal on YouTube hoping things could change or work for me. I think the reason why isn't it working due to the lack of negativity and doubt. While not taking action or nor showing restiance of a particular thing I want.

Yes I am a problem to my mother. Since she expects more from me. She say that I'm too lazy and I don't clean the house and I should try to look for a job to move out her house. She always said to me that I don't do anything. Even though I sometimes help out the house even though I am busy most of time because I have lots of homework and study to do from college.

I think being smart and popular does matter. After all people judge everyone's appearance. If you're smart, pretty, outgoing social confident or cool then people would like you and they are interested in hanging out with you. However if ur like me dumb, stupid, ugly, not sociable not likeable then no one would like be interested in hanging out or be ur friends.
 

Subhumanoidal

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Well I heard the law of attraction and mediation does work. I saw so many people on YouTube give testimonials about themselves and how they manifested a particular thing they want to the universes. I also been listening subliminal on YouTube hoping things could change or work for me. I think the reason why isn't it working due to the lack of negativity and doubt. While not taking action or nor showing restiance of a particular thing I want.

Yes I am a problem to my mother. Since she expects more from me. She say that I'm too lazy and I don't clean the house and I should try to look for a job to move out her house. She always said to me that I don't do anything. Even though I sometimes help out the house even though I am busy most of time because I have lots of homework and study to do from college.

I think being smart and popular does matter. After all people judge everyone's appearance. If you're smart, pretty, outgoing social confident or cool then people would like you and they are interested in hanging out with you. However if ur like me dumb, stupid, ugly, not sociable not likeable then no one would like be interested in hanging out or be ur friends.
Well, those things Are occult still. The idea removes God as a being and turns him into 'the universe' which is not self aware, thinking, knowing, acting. 'The Universe' is seen as nothing but a cosmic mirror, of sorts. So if you insist on continuing this you are required to give up the notion of a living entity known as God, and pretty much everything in the bible. The two teachings are incompatible. And such things are actually against the bible.
And strangers on youtube hardly qualify as reliable sources. Also you don't know what other things they have done to obtain such things. Did things magically happen and appear? Did a car just show up at their house with no explanation other than the law of attraction? Or did they work for it and credit the law of attraction?

If your mother talks to you that way have you considered that it's your mother with a problem, and not you? It's difficult to say for sure, on my side, because i don't see it all. But it sounds as if your mother is at least part of the problem.

Really? So when a nerd (before that term was considered a good thing, back when it was a genuine insult, therefore not a popular person, nor sociable, nor attractive) started a computer company out of his house (when no one really had home computers yet) and is now one of the richest, most well known people in the world, what's your excuse for his success? By the way that person is Bill Gates, the owner of Microsoft.
How about a similar experience for Steve Jobs who founded Apple?
How about Tyler Perry, the write of the Madea movies? He was living in his truck behind his job and managed to become a wealthy screen writer and actor. If he was homeless you think he had a lot of friends?
Your outlook on the world is quite shallow and superficial and more than naive. You tell yourself you have all the answers and know all the facts, when you clearly are unaware of what the real world is like. Yes, there are shallow people focused on less important things, but there are also better people who are not.

At the end of the day you and you alone are responsible for what happens. You can sit around and do nothing while trying to find short cuts, or you can stop making excuses and go do the work. There are All Kinds of people that had all sorts of things working against them that managed to become successful and happy.
It may be time to reevaluate your priorities, stop thinking you know and get a Real understanding of the world and change your outlook. Because right now the only thing holding you back is you.
 
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amberlynlover7

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Yes people who actually use law of attraction see things have magically appeared to their life which was unexpected and they did give credit. People were able to think more positive about themselves. They use vision board, mediation, scripting and bunch of other stuff to achieve their goals. I also heard people have a huge success in listening to subminial on YouTube. They were able to change eyes color, nose, and make different kind of stuff they manifested in their life.

I don't have anything against with famous people. I'm saying how society judge people outer apperance and personality.

Well mom will always blame he how I am a huge problem in her life.

I not sitting around. I am actually expected too see some changes by listening to subminial, mediation, scripting, affirmation, law of attraction, spell and magic.

Well, those things Are occult still. The idea removes God as a being and turns him into 'the universe' which is not self aware, thinking, knowing, acting. 'The Universe' is seen as nothing but a cosmic mirror, of sorts. So if you insist on continuing this you are required to give up the notion of a living entity known as God, and pretty much everything in the bible. The two teachings are incompatible. And such things are actually against the bible.
And strangers on youtube hardly qualify as reliable sources. Also you don't know what other things they have done to obtain such things. Did things magically happen and appear? Did a car just show up at their house with no explanation other than the law of attraction? Or did they work for it and credit the law of attraction?

If your mother talks to you that way have you considered that it's your mother with a problem, and not you? It's difficult to say for sure, on my side, because i don't see it all. But it sounds as if your mother is at least part of the problem.

Really? So when a nerd (before that term was considered a good thing, back when it was a genuine insult, therefore not a popular person, nor sociable, nor attractive) started a computer company out of his house (when no one really had home computers yet) and is now one of the richest, most well known people in the world, what's your excuse for his success? By the way that person is Bill Gates, the owner of Microsoft.
How about a similar experience for Steve Jobs who founded Apple?
How about Tyler Perry, the write of the Madea movies? He was living in his truck behind his job and managed to become a wealthy screen writer and actor. If he was homeless you think he had a lot of friends?
Your outlook on the world is quite shallow and superficial and more than naive. You tell yourself you have all the answers and know all the facts, when you clearly are unaware of what the real world is like. Yes, there are shallow people focused on less important things, but there are also better people who are not.

At the end of the day you and you alone are responsible for what happens. You can sit around and do nothing while trying to find short cuts, or you can stop making excuses and go do the work. There are All Kinds of people that had all sorts of things working against them that managed to become successful and happy.
It may be time to reevaluate your priorities, stop thinking you know and get a Real understanding of the world and change your outlook. Because right now the only thing holding you back is you.
 

Marcella

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I am stunned. You have been warned repeatedly that these things you are relying on for answers are dangerous, anti-biblical, anti-God, and that people on youtube dont have all the answers. You have come for advice, because obviously things you are doing aren't working, but you stubbornly refuse to see what is being placed right in front of you as an answer.

Just as an example, those people on youtube with different noses are probably getting plastic surgery, but you can't see that, because you are only seeing what they show you in the video. Do not believe everything you read as truth. Do not believe everything that YouTubers say, they are entertainers, making money from your views.

The Scripture is reliable to tell you how to live. God gives you the option of life or death, blessings or curses but you have to choose. You can not mix other spiritual ideas with those of God, because he abhors it, and they are opposites.

I think I need to stop here because I'm afraid that you will just repeat, once again, that the law of attraction works, and I will just be wasting my time. I can only hope that you will see the error in your judgement, be humble enough to admit it, and make a change in your life. Good luck.
 

breno785au

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You think life is hard now? Wait until you move out of home. Do not do that, you won't be able to take it and are not ready to leave the nest.

You think having all the money is the answer? The more money you have, the responsibility there is, more that can go wrong. Money requires maintenance.

You don't know what life is yet to call it hard. Have you been drowning in debt and watch God bring you out of it? Have you lost all you've had and had to do whatever it took whatever the day brought you to get to a job?
Have tried raising any children?
Have you tried to lead insubordinate people?

I know things things seem stressful for you now but you need to toughen up in your mind and start thinking differently. You're only at the beginning, you can do it.
 
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I'm in a similar boat to you in a few regards, however the difference I feel is that you need rely and trust on Christ do deliver you in all situations. I'm also struggling at college and trying to find a job to move out, but in Christ I trust and therefore simply wait on him and his actions and trust all is to his plan. Rather than thinking in negatives, imagine God has you on the grindstone. It's loud, sparking and rough but through it God is making you perfect for what he has planned for you.
 
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amberlynlover7

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I am never been warned using those things many time. I only been warned once and no I'm not stubborn. Yes I try prayer and fasting but nothing seem to work which you are right.

I also heard mind power who was exposed for putting demonic or dangerous thing in her subliminal which affected people life.

People actually post a before and after pictures of themselves.

I also use a subliminal once to make my hair growth. I see a ton a rapid hair growth.

Ya I agree I think I should stop using those things since they are an idol that I am worshipping as God.
 
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amberlynlover7

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I never said that having money is the answer of my problem. However in today world people actually need money to survive. How else are they going to pay their food and home which are their necessity.

YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW MY LIFE AND HOW MANY OBSTACLES I HAVE GONE IN MY LIFE. SO THINK MORE CAREFULLY BEFORE JUDGING MY COMMENT.

I know what it like being homeless. I know what it like for people to be admitted in the hospital who actually need doctor to rely on their health and medication. I know what it like to be a LGBT where people think they aren't born with as the right gender.

Ya I could tell you many list and things that I have struggled just like many human beings on this world.
 

CherieR

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I thought I would share this song and music video with you. It is a good and encouraging song. 😺

 
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amberlynlover7

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I thought I would share this song and music video with you. It is a good and encouraging song. 😺

Oh ya I remember this song. I use to listen to it.
 

Miri

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Hi amber,

I have to warn you that if you are delving into the occult then life
is going to get even harder. Satan will woe you to make it seem attractive.
But then cause catastrophic mental and emotional problems for you.

I know of people who have ended up hearing voices, cutting themself,
suffering from depression and anxiety after dabbling in the occult.

In fact I was speaking to someone at work a couple of weeks ago. She tried to
jump off the top of the building a few years ago because voices told her to.
She was sectioned for a while then come back to work. She seemed to be
doing ok but she confided in me that she still felt like cuttin herself and was
hearing voices. I urged her to go see her doctor, I’m certain this is satanic
because of other things she has said in the past.

Don’t think it can’t happen to you.

Honestly you need to repent and surrender up your life to Christ while you
still can. I’ve seen Satan in dreams how he stalks and targets people.
The ugly awfulness of Satan. He is stalking you.

As for not having good grades, you can only try your best, it doesn’t mean you
are any less of a person. A piece of paper with scores does not define who
you are as a person or what life will be like.

Society doesn’t just need maths professors, or baseball players. It doesn’t just need
medical staff or teachers, or lawyers. It also needs builders, plumbers, farmers,
artists, musicians, carers, receptionists and a whole mix of different people with
different skill sets.

Think about what you are good at and enjoy doing, then see what is available.
What qualification you may need, what experience you may need, is there a way into
it via voluntary work. Can you start low and work your way up.

There will be something there just for you and your skills, your enthuasiam.
Don’t write yourself off and put yourself down. Lift your head high and look to
Jesus, don’t look down and listen to the other guy.
 

Ellorah

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I'm in a similar boat to you in a few regards, however the difference I feel is that you need rely and trust on Christ do deliver you in all situations. I'm also struggling at college and trying to find a job to move out, but in Christ I trust and therefore simply wait on him and his actions and trust all is to his plan. Rather than thinking in negatives, imagine God has you on the grindstone. It's loud, sparking and rough but through it God is making you perfect for what he has planned for you.

Life is hard !!

But the rewards we have in heaven are abundantly worth it. If I could offer encouragement. I’m finished with college. Two degrees. I earn a pretty good living but at times life is still hard. Don’t be overly hard on yourself. Keep climbing up and trusting God in all things. You got this 🙏
 

mar09

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For you, amber:

Jeremiah 14:22
Are there any among the idols of the nations who give rain? Or can the heavens grant showers? Is it not You, O LORD our God? Therefore we hope in You, For You are the one who has done all these things.

Psalm 130:5
I wait for the LORD, my soul does wait, And in His word do I hope.