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So even though we were broken up, my ex girlfriend went and did something I don't wish to mention with who was my best friend. Now I don't really hate her for it because I was not in a relationship with her at the time and also the fact that the guy used her. He brought her to a point of tears and anger at me by lying about me and when she was weak he took advantage of her even against her various protests. He's going around school now bragging about it and lying about it and it's killing both me and my ex. He has however done it to multiple girls one of which told me not to blame my girlfriend because he did it to her and she wouldn't explain how exactly but he apparently has a way of forcing girls into things without physically forcing them. I believe it involves threats but I do not know. Anyways me and the girl were on good terms till now of course. I have prom with her tomorrow but it's going to be very hard because I can't think about her without that coming to mind. It's killing me and destroying my life. I've prayed for peace but I can't bring myself to get rid of her so I can't find peace. All I want to know is should I forgive her and let her back into my life like before we broke up or get rid of her after prom. My main fear is that if I don't keep her in my life she will fall into a bad lifestyle and I can't bear to live with that after how much I love and care for her. I'm just stuck and need advice, maybe a friend to help me through all this, considering my "friend" is the reason for all this /: and now I have no one physically to turn to because he's gone and she's gone and it took me 16years for a girl to take interest so I'm not planning on that being a possibility quite yet. All I can do is pray right now and hope someone will help me or talk to me or something. PM me if your interested. God bless!
 
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You can't live your life and make choices about your life for fear of the choices another will make. You are not going to be her savior that keeps her from making bad choices, either. If she's going to make bad choices she's going to make them with or without you.
She is not your responsibility. She has parents, and you are not one of them. She has herself. She made her choice, now she has consequences of her choice by ending things with you. I get it's sad to consider, but if you live your life making choices for yourself based off of what you assume others will do, you will not have a happy life.

As far as what this guy is doing, it is technically rape. Rape doesn't mean to use physical force, it means to have sex with someone against their will. If he finds ways to make them feel they have to do it, though they don't want to, he is still committing rape and someone needs to speak up.

And took you 16 years for a girl to get interested in you? Really? Are there a lot of 1 year olds dating? 5 year olds? Don't exaggerate your circumstances to justify your bad choices. You aren't even old enough to get married yet you're making a huge issue out of the idea that you will never meet anyone else.
 
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Good point on the 16years thing lol. I more or less have that as an inside joke with a buddy from the youth group. And I do understand what you mean about not marrying yet
 

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So even though we were broken up, my ex girlfriend went and did something I don't wish to mention with who was my best friend. Now I don't really hate her for it because I was not in a relationship with her at the time and also the fact that the guy used her. He brought her to a point of tears and anger at me by lying about me and when she was weak he took advantage of her even against her various protests. He's going around school now bragging about it and lying about it and it's killing both me and my ex. He has however done it to multiple girls one of which told me not to blame my girlfriend because he did it to her and she wouldn't explain how exactly but he apparently has a way of forcing girls into things without physically forcing them. I believe it involves threats but I do not know. Anyways me and the girl were on good terms till now of course. I have prom with her tomorrow but it's going to be very hard because I can't think about her without that coming to mind. It's killing me and destroying my life. I've prayed for peace but I can't bring myself to get rid of her so I can't find peace. All I want to know is should I forgive her and let her back into my life like before we broke up or get rid of her after prom. My main fear is that if I don't keep her in my life she will fall into a bad lifestyle and I can't bear to live with that after how much I love and care for her. I'm just stuck and need advice, maybe a friend to help me through all this, considering my "friend" is the reason for all this /: and now I have no one physically to turn to because he's gone and she's gone and it took me 16years for a girl to take interest so I'm not planning on that being a possibility quite yet. All I can do is pray right now and hope someone will help me or talk to me or something. PM me if your interested. God bless!


what i don't quite understand is since you're broken up with her, why on earth are you going to prom with her?? Your relationship with her is over. Leave it that way. Forgive her for what she did and wish her the best. You're 16 and too young to be dating anyway. You have the rest of your life to find someone. For now, enjoy being a kid.
 
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what i don't quite understand is since you're broken up with her, why on earth are you going to prom with her?? Your relationship with her is over. Leave it that way. Forgive her for what she did and wish her the best. You're 16 and too young to be dating anyway. You have the rest of your life to find someone. For now, enjoy being a kid.
I agree with Lady Blue,enjoy being a kid,life goes by too fast,you might as well enjoy being young.