So my older sister is going to graduate high school this spring and is still unsure where she wants to go to school. She has narrowed it down to 3 schools, two of which are Christian schools. She also wants to play basketball for one of these schools, and has an offer on one of the Christian schools. But unfortunately that one school giving her basically a full ride to play basketball, is the one school she doesn't want to go to. Just yesterday she decided on the one school that is Not A Christian college, but has a great youth group of Christians. I was all on board with her decision, but my parents aren't. They want her to go to the school that she doesn't want to. So now she is changing her mind and thinking about going there. I guess what I need some advice on is how do I help her make a smart decision? Should she go where she wants to go or where my parents want her to go?
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hmmm we do need to respect our parents, however, were is the free will? Has your sister prayed for God's wisdom? has your sister prayed For God's will in the matter? and has your parents explained why they don't want her to go to which ever school your sister has picked? I think your Sister needs God wisdom in the matter, and at the same time compromise with parents with God's final decision.
That way all can be happy in what ever decision has been made. some people may say your sister should do what she wants and go ahead and choose without the parents help. some may say your sister should just listen to herself. Well she does have the free will. But to do what God has told us to do, and respect our parents, I think we should include them in the decision making. and learn to compromise so that everyone will benefit peace of mind. that way no, bitterness, no arguments, and no regrets. And the best part is involving God thru prayer for his right will and wisdom in the matter...
That way all can be happy in what ever decision has been made. some people may say your sister should do what she wants and go ahead and choose without the parents help. some may say your sister should just listen to herself. Well she does have the free will. But to do what God has told us to do, and respect our parents, I think we should include them in the decision making. and learn to compromise so that everyone will benefit peace of mind. that way no, bitterness, no arguments, and no regrets. And the best part is involving God thru prayer for his right will and wisdom in the matter...
Yes she has prayed and continues to. The reason my parents want her to go to one school rather than the other is because it is closer to home and she gets a full ride for playing basketball. Plus it is a Christian college. The one she wants to go to is probably and hour away and she would not be playing basketball (which in my family is a big deal) but she has weighed the pros and cons and still wants to go to that college.
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I feel it her her, big decision, to listen to her parents or go it alone on her own decision. All I can suggest, is ask your sister to pray Matthew 7: 7. and just trust in God for his will and wisdom. I hope and pray that things will turn out good for her in her final decision. so she and all be more a happy person before she goes to which ever school or college. Something she dont need before she goes to school/college is guilt, discomfort, and unhappiness before she even step into a school/colege. So I hope and pray that all this will be sorted on a happier note. God bless
As your parents and your sister pray together the answer will come 
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One warning about secular colleges....they can teach some REALLY STRANGE THINGS...some very ungodly and immoral things. For a young inexperienced person, this can be very harmful. A Christian group can really help, but the course requirements for classes can be really hard for a Christian to handle. My daughter has attended a secular college majoring in English. A short story she was required to read was about a guy having sex with a barbie doll. Truly trash.
.One warning about secular colleges....they can teach some REALLY STRANGE THINGS...some very ungodly and immoral things. For a young inexperienced person, this can be very harmful. A Christian group can really help, but the course requirements for classes can be really hard for a Christian to handle. My daughter has attended a secular college majoring in English. A short story she was required to read was about a guy having sex with a barbie doll. Truly trash.