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Ok so I have this huuuuuuuuge mahooooooosive problem in my life that's just really making me fume. Basically to cut a long story short. Just when my sister had gone 15 she started going out with this boy who was around 18 and a half at the time.....they're still together now but constantly this boy has just done my head in, sometimes where I'm to the point of tears or even shouting out stuff at them because I'm so annoyed with him. For a start I don't agree with their age gap...she's now 16 and he's going on 20. It's not realistic at such a young age...it's a bit different at an older age. For a start both my mum and his dad said nothing could happen until my sister was sixteen....they chose to disobey both of them and were almost a year younger than what they'd agreed on. He treats her like a child and it really hacks me off, it's like he's her dad! Last night he came to help her sort her wardrobe out and he were saying here name (not posting their names just incase anyone in my family tries to search for this) but he said to her "right where's this going?!" "just take it downstairs" and I really wanted to go into that room and just scream at him. That's not the first time he's done that, it's just constantly!
The other month, around about June I were out babysitting and just playing around on facebook when I got a message on their pretty much asking what my problem was so I said to my friend "I'm not replying" so up until the other week, about four week ago I just left it. However, one day after college I knew my sister posted questions on this forum thing and shed been saying that they were going to get engaged.......next year! Well that was it for me, I felt so angry inside. I sent him a reply straight away asking him what the heck he was thinking. He replied asking me why I thought that and I replied to him saying that they're both waaaay too young and that he treats her like a child. That they argue way too much....because they see each other too much. Anyway I got a reply pretty much denying everything I'd said and because Im living back in my hometown during term time I could only go by what I knew from the past. He said they hardly ever saw each other....I wasn't going to call him a liar because I couldn't say whether he was around much. But in the past he'd been around every day of the week sometimes. Not for just half an hour or so or for even a couple of hours. Generally from 9am/10am going on 10pm/11pm and then once he'd gotten home they'd ring each other! He'd just swan in whenever he wanted and expect my mum to make his meals! Anyway....I didn't say anymore about the fact I thought they saw too much of each other and I just left it at that. I came back to my mums a week on Thursday ago (17th) and at 7pm he was around for the whole evening. The next day he was around for the majority of the day. On the Saturday he were here for the whole day and because Church had been cancelled because of snow on Sunday he came around then too and spent the whole day. Now in the first few initial messages I'd sent to him I'd said that I was sick of him coming around so much because I never got time with my sister....we don't....she never speaks to me. If she does she's usually having a go at me. Anyway on Christmas eve he was around for the whole day and during the afternoon a couple of my friends came around and they know that he does my head in so we were talking about the fact it's ridiculous how much he comes round and I said "if he comes round tomorrow at any point. I'll go flippin mental!" anyway that night we had a Christmas carol service and they'd been together all day, the service finished at midnight, I went back at about half 12 to find he was still there. For another twenty minutes or so he was still there. On Christmas morning just after the service at church he was around for a good 45 minutes and then at night he was there from 7pm til around 11. Then yesterday he came too....all day!! Church has been cancelled today too because we've had quite a few meetings this week so I'm guessing he'll be around today until around 11 tonight. When they're not together, they're on the phone....for three or four hours at a time. It's like an addiction! Please just tell me that I'm not being completely unrealistic when I say they spend way too much time together and that he completely lied when he said they spend hardly anytime together!
It's driving me nuts....the fact he lied to me! The fact that everytime I get frustrated because of him that my sister and my mum have a go at me. All I want is my family to have some time together! My sisters way too young to think about getting engaged or married! Am I going crazy or are they being absolutely ridiculous?!
The other month, around about June I were out babysitting and just playing around on facebook when I got a message on their pretty much asking what my problem was so I said to my friend "I'm not replying" so up until the other week, about four week ago I just left it. However, one day after college I knew my sister posted questions on this forum thing and shed been saying that they were going to get engaged.......next year! Well that was it for me, I felt so angry inside. I sent him a reply straight away asking him what the heck he was thinking. He replied asking me why I thought that and I replied to him saying that they're both waaaay too young and that he treats her like a child. That they argue way too much....because they see each other too much. Anyway I got a reply pretty much denying everything I'd said and because Im living back in my hometown during term time I could only go by what I knew from the past. He said they hardly ever saw each other....I wasn't going to call him a liar because I couldn't say whether he was around much. But in the past he'd been around every day of the week sometimes. Not for just half an hour or so or for even a couple of hours. Generally from 9am/10am going on 10pm/11pm and then once he'd gotten home they'd ring each other! He'd just swan in whenever he wanted and expect my mum to make his meals! Anyway....I didn't say anymore about the fact I thought they saw too much of each other and I just left it at that. I came back to my mums a week on Thursday ago (17th) and at 7pm he was around for the whole evening. The next day he was around for the majority of the day. On the Saturday he were here for the whole day and because Church had been cancelled because of snow on Sunday he came around then too and spent the whole day. Now in the first few initial messages I'd sent to him I'd said that I was sick of him coming around so much because I never got time with my sister....we don't....she never speaks to me. If she does she's usually having a go at me. Anyway on Christmas eve he was around for the whole day and during the afternoon a couple of my friends came around and they know that he does my head in so we were talking about the fact it's ridiculous how much he comes round and I said "if he comes round tomorrow at any point. I'll go flippin mental!" anyway that night we had a Christmas carol service and they'd been together all day, the service finished at midnight, I went back at about half 12 to find he was still there. For another twenty minutes or so he was still there. On Christmas morning just after the service at church he was around for a good 45 minutes and then at night he was there from 7pm til around 11. Then yesterday he came too....all day!! Church has been cancelled today too because we've had quite a few meetings this week so I'm guessing he'll be around today until around 11 tonight. When they're not together, they're on the phone....for three or four hours at a time. It's like an addiction! Please just tell me that I'm not being completely unrealistic when I say they spend way too much time together and that he completely lied when he said they spend hardly anytime together!
It's driving me nuts....the fact he lied to me! The fact that everytime I get frustrated because of him that my sister and my mum have a go at me. All I want is my family to have some time together! My sisters way too young to think about getting engaged or married! Am I going crazy or are they being absolutely ridiculous?!
