Theres This Guy . . .

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Talia_Pana

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Okay...uhmm..theres this 19 year old guy...that i really like but i'm only 13 years old & my parents don't even trust my BEST FRIEND let alone trust a 19 year old boy.
The reason he likes me back is probly bcuz im a little mature minded for my age & i relate better to older guys..
& for some reason i have really strong feelings for him but...i just dont know!...i know its wrong to even have a bf at my age let alone a 19 year old one.

I just don't know.
 
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grace

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Uhm....ok, I can imput here because I was in a similiar situation...*cough* when I was 14 lol

I am sure you are mature for your age.....I was too @ that point in my life. BUT..........

well, I will just tell you how it went for me.

I was 14, and he was my first boyfriend. He was 19. My parents on the other hand did not even bat an eye when he asked me out. They did not seem concerned @ all....so I am impressed that your parents are helping you learn how to guard your heart. :)

He was a great guy! (and still is) But we were just at different stages of life....I was just a freshman in high school!! He had been out of high school for nearly two years! I think that what I learned the most from that relationship is that.......although I was mature for my age....in the area of (romantic) relationships...I was NOT very mature @ all. I was devastated when we broke up. Thought my world was going to end lol Also I analized every day of our relationship wondering what I could have done differently so he did not break it off. That is just not a healthy viewpoint to take on a break-up.

I know that parents can seem like a downer @ times.....BUT....just remember that we were 13-14 at one point too. Sure things are different than when we were your age....but some things just don't change.

If I had it to do over again....knowing what I do now..I wish someone would have been there helping me guard my heart too.

I pray the best for you. Obey your parents wishes and rules...they love you and care about you....AND....on a side note...if this is the the guy for you...God will see fit for it to happen in time. :)

 
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Leilaii425

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Once again i will refer back to your picture on your profile, more than likely thats why a 19 year old wants to date you.
 
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grace

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Leilaii425 said:
Once again i will refer back to your picture on your profile, more than likely thats why a 19 year old wants to date you.
Click to expand...

Hmm.....did not even look @ her profile before I posted my reply.

My reply still stands.....but I TOTALLY see your point, and can agree.
 
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Zalen

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There is a huge difference between 13 and 19. Six years is not so important when you are 40, but when you have yet to live out almost all of your teenage years there is a huge difference between you and him, even if you are mature for your age. The teenage years do so much to define you, and I don't think you should be dating someone so old if you don't have a sense of who you really are.

I don't mean to insult this 19-year-old, but i am worried that he may try to take advantage of you. Someone once said, "I trust in God, but I tie up my sheep." That is to say, he may be a good guy, but he is a 19-year-old guy, and that makes him more likely to commit some sort of sexual crime.

My advice to you is to like him, you can't deny that, but don't try to date him.
 
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Like Zalen said there is a big differance between 13 and 19 yrs. Any deccent, good ,careing and normal 19 yr old would not ask out a 13 yr old. Not because your too young but because he knows he is too old. Hugs and Godbless, pickles
 
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iraasuup

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In my opinion 13 is too young to even be dating.

I mean what would one do if they were 13 and on a date? They can't drive, they can't do... well anything really? I really think it's dangerous getting yourself too emotionally involved with someone at such a young age. You shouldn't date until you are of an age where you are ready to pursue a serious relationship or marriage, otherwise what is the point?

At 13 you can still go out and do fun stuff, even in groups of mixed gender friends. But I think its much too young to be dating. Just go out, enjoy life, focus on school, and wait until you're older.
 
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Garrison

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Thirteen vs. 19? That's a little too bizarre, even for a "mature minded" person.
 
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Talia_Pana

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Ok, uhm...its not only him that likes me.
4 others guys did,AT THE SAME TIME & 3 of them i know really well.
& OMGOSH I DONT KNOW!
i said no to all of them, but theres just something about 2 of them that just makes me feel so....happy.
 
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Leilaii425

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its not all about feelings......
 
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