thoughts on...purity

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christan_blondie_14

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heyy, i just recently got a bf (well not recenily, like 6 moonths ago) and we are like exteremly close, hes my beft friends and i know im his, we talk all the time and hes the sweetest guy ever, hes also a strong crhistian. my parents dont want us to kiss so we dont, even thou we both really want to, and its hard for him. but its got me thinking, what does everyone think about purity? is making out okay? whats too far? lemme kno what yall think!! =)
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Baptistrw

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christan_blondie_14 said:
heyy, i just recently got a bf (well not recenily, like 6 moonths ago) and we are like exteremly close, hes my beft friends and i know im his, we talk all the time and hes the sweetest guy ever, hes also a strong crhistian. my parents dont want us to kiss so we dont, even thou we both really want to, and its hard for him. but its got me thinking, what does everyone think about purity? is making out okay? whats too far? lemme kno what yall think!! =)
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Your first kiss should be at the alter. Aint no sense in lighting the oven when you can't cook with it. I honestly think you're way too young to be dating but that's another story....
 
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goth4god

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I totally agree with baptist on this. I personally have never kissed and dont plan to until my wedding day! lol and a funny thing is my lips are missing a muscle so i can't pucker, so i dont even know if i can kiss, so thats another reason for me to wait! lol marry the guy and then he can find out if i can kiss or not and its too late for him! lol
 
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christan_blondie_14

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well thanks for your comments! =) i have a few friends who would both completely agree with you. i personally think that kissing is fine, for me its not really that much different from hand holding or a hug. i mean there are deffently things that are way too far, but for me kissing wouldn't be one of them. thanks so much for ur replies! =)
 
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Once you start down the path it is so hard to know where to stop. All of these urges and emotions are so new.....and so powerful. But, when you think you really love someone, you want to express that love in more than a handshake. I think it is easier when both are true christians and understand the vows of purity. There is so much more pressure from guys when they don't understand.
 
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Leilanii

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..... hang around smelly trash cans.. or dirty diapers..... your boyfriend wont wanna kiss you, there fore.... problem solved
 
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christan_blondie_14

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first of all, thanks to all who poasted!
little lisa: we both are ture christians actually, i met him through my youth gruop, and we are probably the only ppl in our school like that, at least the ones going out. i know what you mean thou, and ive felt that before, but we both have stopped ourselves before we kissed. also, we both have made promises to ourselves, God, and our familes to wait for anything more than kissing, if ya know what i mean.
leilianni: haha, u serisouly made me lol. but i don't want him to not want to kiss me, im glad he does lol. and actually i have been around him on my smely, huge zit on my nose, hair is messy days, and he doesn't care he still holds my hand and gives me hugs. he honestly doesn't care what i look like
missy2shoes: i don't get it. how will you know the oven is ready to cook if you don't turn it on? =) (my own little quote)
 
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Baptistrw

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christan_blondie_14 said:
missy2shoes: i don't get it. how will you know the oven is ready to cook if you don't turn it on? =) (my own little quote)
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Um, how do you know a bullet will hurt if you don't get shot with one? Common sense. Same thing here.
 
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christan_blondie_14 said:
heyy, i just recently got a bf (well not recenily, like 6 moonths ago) and we are like exteremly close, hes my beft friends and i know im his, we talk all the time and hes the sweetest guy ever, hes also a strong crhistian. my parents dont want us to kiss so we dont, even thou we both really want to, and its hard for him. but its got me thinking, what does everyone think about purity? is making out okay? whats too far? lemme kno what yall think!! =)
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Sweetheart, I say this with all sincerity, I personally would go no further than holding hands. Anything beyond that point will only lead to temptation. The last thing you want to do is to awaken your sexuality before mariage much less at such an early age. To do so would only open yourself up to things that have made some of the greatest men in the bible mess up. Both King David and King Solomon are prime biblical examples.
 
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KingdomGeneration said:
Sweetheart, I say this with all sincerity, I personally would go no further than holding hands. Anything beyond that point will only lead to temptation. The last thing you want to do is to awaken your sexuality before mariage much less at such an early age. To do so would only open yourself up to things that have made some of the greatest men in the bible mess up. Both King David and King Solomon are prime biblical examples.
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i know this is teens forum and im married been married over 20 yrs but i hafta say i totally agree with kingdongeneration on this one , waiting is the most precious gift u can give your spouse :)
 
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Leilanii

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I had a pure bread ferrett once..... he stunk really bad....
 
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msstardust

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There is nothign wrong with kissing, in my opinion. I couldn't imagine waiting until my wedding day to kiss my boyfriend. Physical affection is almost as important as non-physical affection.
 
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christan_blondie_14

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okay okay okay this is NOT what i meant at all!!!! i very much intend to wait for marriage! as does my boyfriend!! as do ALL of my best friends! we do not put ourselves in these situations, we check up on eachother every now and then to even make sure that we're keeping ourselves pure. i was asking what YOU guys thought, i didn't not want a lecture on something i've had to given to past friends that haven't waited, ive seen the crud that can bring.
 
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KingdomGeneration

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msstardust said:
There is nothign wrong with kissing, in my opinion. I couldn't imagine waiting until my wedding day to kiss my boyfriend. Physical affection is almost as important as non-physical affection.
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While the last thing I want to do is to start an argument over this issue, I can tell you from personal experience that kissing does indeed lead to arousal which leads to temptation which leads full blown compromise. An innocent peck on the cheek is one thing however, making out is a completely different animal. It is a compromise that while only lead to larger compromises down the road.

King David had an adulterous affair which lead to murder of the woman's husband as well as the death of innocent child conceived out of wedlock. It all begin which a simple glance from a rooftop...
 
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While the last thing I want to do is to start an argument over this issue, I can tell you from personal experience that kissing does indeed lead to arousal which leads to temptation which leads full blown compromise. An innocent peck on the cheek is one thing however, making out is a completely different animal. It is a compromise that while only lead to larger compromises down the road.

King David had an adulterous affair which lead to murder of the woman's husband as well as the death of innocent child conceived out of wedlock. It all begin which a simple glance from a rooftop...
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I think kissing is fine before your married for some people... others it may not be, Depends on if you can handle it or not.. for some it doesnt lead to any type of temptation, for others it does. Now you cant be so non chalant with king david... he had an adulterous afair because there was a woman butt naked on top of her roof taking a bath, and of course that would have been hard for him to resist looking at!...Just proves sin will take you farther than you wanna go
 
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missy2shoes

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....maybe hold hands with a chaperone present......*goes back to knitting*
 
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christan_blondie_14

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okay i really do appreicate all the comments but this is a teen forum and i came for teen advice, because i have heard all the adult stuff already so i was trying to get another opionon. i've herad what all the dults thing, and still in my opion if you try and pretend that there is nothing more than friendship than it just hurts becaues you never know where you stand with someone, ive found this out the harder way. also, thank you so much jaylynn, thats an awesome point about how king david had probluems with that. both my boyfriend and i don't. we all know peopel that do and as a result they have given away they're virginity, but that isnt the crowd i hang around, and ALMOST everyone of my friends is able to handle tempation very well.
 
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goth4god

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my question is; why did you ask for advice if you are set with your own answer? it sounds like you just want the OK to kiss. and I think that lots of girls your age [teens that you want advice from] would say its fine to kiss.
 
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