Yes became No..

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zai

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3 weeks ago, my friend invited me to join their Church Summer Youth Camp.. i told my friend that i'd ask my parents about that..
and when i consulted my mom about that, she told me to ask permission from my dad, but she would permit me if she would be the only one to decide. but she made it clear that i SHOULD ask permission from dad first.

yesterday, my friend and mom met. and opened a topic about the camp. my mom told my friend that she would permit me to go, unless my dad wont let me.

the camp will start tomorrow. so i did ask permission from my dad awhile ago. my dad said yes.. happily, i went to my room to pack up my things. while packing, my mom entered my room and asked what am i doing. so i told her that i am getting ready for the camp tomorrow. then she went to my dad and asked if i was permitted.. my dad said yes.. then my mom started to say things that means a NO and my dad should say NO, too.. and dad said NO.. so it really broke my heart, excitement lost..

why? why would she say yes earlier, and a NO now?
 
zeroturbulence

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You should ask her why she changed her mind and I'm sorry that you didn't get to go.
 
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gideon007

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that's also one thing i want to know . . .hmmp..., but seriously zai there are times [most of the times]

that we don't understand our parents all we have to do is follow and obey them; like my mom she

always tells us that we may not understand her now 'cause we are not parents yet and added

that wait 'til we become parents and we'll understand why.. . . .
 
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dashadow

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Good communication is very important to maintain positive relationships. There are a lot of parents that feel they don't have to explain their decisions to their children. And that's their right. But I like to explain to my children. They are often still upset with the decision. But I think it still makes for a better relationship in the long run.

However, my wife doesn't feel compelled to do the same. And I have to explain to the kids that it isn't their right to get an explanation. My daughter understands this. And she has always been more accepting of this fact, even when she was younger. My son wants to have a complete debate about any disagreements. And even though he often pushes it to the point of losing certain privileges, he continues to have trouble taming his tongue. I suspect that comes from his mother's side of the family. :)

Anyway, as zero said, ask for an explanation from you mom. But don't demand one. If you mother doesn't mind, discuss your feelings about the matter. If she doesn't feel inclined to discuss it, let it go and pray about it.
 
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zai

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my mom told me the reason why she doesnt want me to go - is because my friend is the only person i knew in the area.. and maybe also because she doesnt want me to be endangered or something, i just dont know.. besides, i can meet some friends there, right? but i am willing to understand that.. what i dont understand is - why would she say yes from the time i told her about the said camp until yesterday, but when i was packing my things, it became a NO?
 
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Well, really you should ask her. You're asking strangers who don't know you, or your mom, to explain your moms behavior. No one here can tell you. We can only guess. But guesses aren't real answers. So if you ever want to know what someone is thinking, ask the person, not others.
 
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zai said:
my mom told me the reason why she doesnt want me to go - is because my friend is the only person i knew in the area.. and maybe also because she doesnt want me to be endangered or something, i just dont know.. besides, i can meet some friends there, right? but i am willing to understand that.. what i dont understand is - why would she say yes from the time i told her about the said camp until yesterday, but when i was packing my things, it became a NO?
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People can change their minds after due reflection. While not knowing the full background , by your account your mum didn't seem to want to sugar the pill in any way and dealt with this quite abruptly. It would of course have been easier to have been told no from the get- go. But bottom line is that we should obey our parents and show good grace in so doing. They want the best for us as they see it. We might not always agree with their decisions or how they handle it but we should not expect perfection frm them. Quite recently, I had arranged with friends to go to a concert which I had assumed could not meet with disapproval from my parents. As it happened. I was forbidden mainly I suspect because I had failed to clear it with them first rather than an misgivings hey had about he concert itself. I thought that was a bit severe but I just had to suck it up and accept it.
 
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yes we cant tell the real reasons but things like that really happens, maybe they changed their minds because of some late realizations and im sure its for ur own good sis. I know it hurts cause uve expected and was excited already and its normal, but when things like this happens to me, i just think of some positive things and tell myself these words "Maybe God is preparing something better for me!" :) God bless u and may He comfort u :D
Magandang umaga!
 
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zai

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yes.. the Lord really prepared something for me that He did not allow me to go to the camp through my mom.. it is that i think God wants me to attend this evening sessions with the theme "God's heartbeat for mission" which is held only about 2 km from our house which is safer :)
 
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zai said:
yes.. the Lord really prepared something for me that He did not allow me to go to the camp through my mom.. it is that i think God wants me to attend this evening sessions with the theme "God's heartbeat for mission" which is held only about 2 km from our house which is safer :)
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:) im happy to hear that zai.. lets continue to trust Him.. enjoy and God bless u!

Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
 
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