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Honestly... the age difference is a huge thing.. I would never be comfortable dating anyone more than 5 years older than I am or else that's always going to be at the back of my mind. Reason being, too much of an age difference means different maturity levels which in your case is a huge difference.... however I am not against love so if you love her and she loves you.. why not? Just... be careful and open about your goals/wishes etc for this relationship.
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I agree, TV and many modern technology distracts us from getting closer to God. To many TV has become a god and idol. I believe in holiness, because without it no man can see God! Disney is just something 90's baby's like and their are some wholesome ones, but many have witch craft and things in them that aren't good for Christians to watch.
I used to say that I would go 20 years older (not younger. I won't even go a day younger than I am...but that's another tale for another thread) and then I realized that that would make the man a few years younger than my father and the same age as my mother! Trauma! So, yeah, five years is my cap, too. Older, again, not younger. 
The man of God I marry has to be older than me...otherwise I won't listen to him...since, you know, I'm older and wiser. I am a complicated person.
The man of God I marry has to be older than me...otherwise I won't listen to him...since, you know, I'm older and wiser. I am a complicated person. well, just keep in mind one more thing:
while an 18 year old may be attractive to you because she's young, you might want to think about the girl who wants to be with a man twice her age at such a time of being unformed and (is traditionally looked at as) a time of expression, learning about/finding one's self, developing independence and lots more milestones. milestones that have much to do with being free of expectations/commitment.
what does (or should) it tell you about the fact that she wants to be with you? in every situation that i'm aware of that resembles what you're describing has turned out to be a very young woman looking for a guy to be her dad. someone to protect her from what she's afraid of, or to escape from where she is. not a partner, but a parent.
i'm not saying that ALWAYS happens, but it's rather common.
and why is it that you "need" to feel young? what are you trying to escape from (or run towards)?
that feeling of youth is something that you never have to surrender, unless you choose to. you don't need a 18 year old gf for that....
i speak from experience on that one. : )
while an 18 year old may be attractive to you because she's young, you might want to think about the girl who wants to be with a man twice her age at such a time of being unformed and (is traditionally looked at as) a time of expression, learning about/finding one's self, developing independence and lots more milestones. milestones that have much to do with being free of expectations/commitment.
what does (or should) it tell you about the fact that she wants to be with you? in every situation that i'm aware of that resembles what you're describing has turned out to be a very young woman looking for a guy to be her dad. someone to protect her from what she's afraid of, or to escape from where she is. not a partner, but a parent.
i'm not saying that ALWAYS happens, but it's rather common.
and why is it that you "need" to feel young? what are you trying to escape from (or run towards)?
that feeling of youth is something that you never have to surrender, unless you choose to. you don't need a 18 year old gf for that....
i speak from experience on that one. : )
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Sorry but I just can't understand why a 35 year old would want to date an 18 year old specifically. It sounds wrong. Most of the times people who date much younger people have deep immaturity issues or lust issues. Think of Charlie Harper, or Hugh Hefner. Is that love? No, it's immaturity and lust. Your motives are very questionable.