I am a 18 year old female with a too high sex drive

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troubledgirl, maybe you should do some research as to whether there's a link between autism, bipolar syndrome, and a high sex drive. I agree with Timmaayy, rebuke the thoughts of masturbation and pornography. Lean on Jesus to help you overcome it. Get rid of any pornographic movies or content that you may have. Try going to webmd.com, and mayoclinic.com. Type in what you're searching for, something like "causes of high sex drive" or something like that. Try to focus your mind on other stuff, like hanging out with friends, or being with family, etc. Good luck.
In general I think it is rather inappropriate to link a person's disability to masturbation, whether or not this young woman has autism or anything else is really no one's business. However, having autism is a condition where the person likes to stimulate differently than others who are not autistic. For example autism shows itself by stimulation to touch, visuals such as lava lamps etc. So sexual stimulation may be a link to autism. However, this young lady also states that at best she does it only a few times per month. How many times would the average married Christian wife have sex. Would that mean she is autistic too?
 
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Is this part of development because I am young or is this some kind of curse or demonic oppression? I really don't want to be a nymphomaniac so much... I feel a bit bad for having a too high sex drive... Or is this too high sex drive related to any attention deficiency symptoms, Autism spectrum, or learning disabilities what I have? I have some bipolar symptoms too...

And again, I am serious and honest, so don't ever accuse me of trolling because I am not a troll.
Troubled girl's central question relates to the sexual drives of the average young woman her age, so this is what will be answered. The facts are that we each have different drives whereby some are more strong than other sexual drives, and vice versa. If a person is married the likelihood is their sexual drives will be satisfied. For a young woman such as troubled-girl, this is not the case which leads to compensation, ie compensating for something she doesn't have, ie compensating for not having sex. The bible does say do not sin against your own body, which is taken by modern Christians to include masturbation. I am not condoning masturbation but i am questioning the validity of modern interpretation by moral Christians who are likely married where the issues does not affect them personally. If you were to ask the average teen-ager her age, or even the average single mom in internet land or even CC, this very place, if they were truthful they would say that they too masturbate. However, if this stimulation is taking over your life, troubledgirl, then it is a problem and needs to be dealt with. The best thing to do is keep busy, do not look at porn images as this will affect your sexual desires, ie sexual drives. The bible says that actions first start out as thoughts. The bible says we're to reject thoughts so that they do not result in actions which enslave us. So, prayer is likely the answer that you need, as Christians were to raise one another where a person falls into temptation so as to guard from the attacks of the enemy.
 
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Is this part of development because I am young or is this some kind of curse or demonic oppression? .

I really don't want to be a nymphomaniac so much... I feel a bit bad for having a too high sex drive... Or is this too high sex drive related to any attention deficiency symptoms, Autism spectrum, or learning disabilities what I have? I have some bipolar symptoms too....
Sex is normal, troubledlady, masturbation is not demonic or any type of curse. As i explained in an earlier post, you stimulate yourself because your body wants sexual intercourse and as, I assume, that you're not having sex, you are in fact compensating for it as though you were. If masturbation were demonic or a curse so in fact would sex be as those drives which lead to sex are also responsible for personal stimulation, ie masturbation. Try not to give yourself a hard time but you won't help yourself if you let your mind wander off or it will go somewhere you don't want. The mind is like a television. The tv picture comes from signals emitted from sources such as cable tv or dvd player. The body, in the same way sends signals to the mind. We can picture images in the mind from memory stimuli, ie things we either liked or disliked from past events which are stored as memory in the brain. We can also imagine things that haven't happened, so think of the mind like a TV. What do you ant projected on your tv? Well, you can turn the tv over to a different channel. With lustful thoughts, we can rebuke them ie tell them to go in Jesus name as we can with other negative thoughts. So, rebuking lustful thoughts has the same effect as controlling our mind's tv. We can in fact turn the tv off.
 
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pastac

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@christianuk13 when you post it in real time on a public board and put it out there for the world you better have thick skin! When you talk scattered or post scattered people will respond hoping to help. And not always quoting scripture or even saying what the Bible says to do here is my suggestion.Maybe she should drive her sex drive over to 123 Jesus Lane go into the building ask to see Jesus I hear he is there 365/24-7 with overtime as requested! Or since you have such a firm knowledge on female issues of young women you can direct her to your resources.
 

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side note life and death are in the power of the tongue right! Well trouble girl calling herself trouble girl is a red flag for me. Names are very important!
 

troubledgirl

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side note life and death are in the power of the tongue right! Well trouble girl calling herself trouble girl is a red flag for me. Names are very important!
What you mean with red flag? Because I am seriously a troubled girl...
 

troubledgirl

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Well, I am not a nymphomaniac anymore. Masturbation and dirty sexual things gross me out nowdays. I am not sure if I am able to have sex with my future husband either... Sex scares me too...
 

pastac

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What you mean with red flag? Because I am seriously a troubled girl...
And the more you say it the more you become it! that is what I mean red flag if someone called themselves porn star or babykiller Id respond the same way troubledgirl. Question when you are no longer troubled will you change your name? Food for thought.
 

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And the more you say it the more you become it! that is what I mean red flag if someone called themselves porn star or babykiller Id respond the same way troubledgirl. Question when you are no longer troubled will you change your name? Food for thought.
Sure, I can change my username someday when I am no longer troubled.
 

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Hi. I know that lust is a sin and sex is only for marriage, and I will save the sex for marriage, but I think about sex everyday... And my sex drive is too high... And I am just a 18 year old female. And I masturbate at least a couple times a month, but during masturbation I just think about myself and my body only. I tend to also imagine pornographic stuff about myself sometimes...

Is this part of development because I am young or is this some kind of curse or demonic oppression? I really don't want to be a nymphomaniac so much... I feel a bit bad for having a too high sex drive... Or is this too high sex drive related to any attention deficiency symptoms, autism spectrum, or learning disabilities what I have? I have some bipolar symptoms too...

And again, I am serious and honest, so don't ever accuse me of trolling because I am not a troll.


In general I think it is rather inappropriate to link a person's disability to masturbation, whether or not this young woman has autism or anything else is really no one's business. However, having autism is a condition where the person likes to stimulate differently than others who are not autistic. For example autism shows itself by stimulation to touch, visuals such as lava lamps etc. So sexual stimulation may be a link to autism. However, this young lady also states that at best she does it only a few times per month. How many times would the average married Christian wife have sex. Would that mean she is autistic too?
ChristianUK, obviously you did not read the OP before posting your reply, or you would have seen that the OP asked the question HERSELF of whether or not her sex drive could be linked to some of her disabilities. Which is why I recommended she do some research on it!! So no, it's NOT inappropriate to link a disability to a condition such as masturbation, because the OP herself asked the question.
 
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And again, I am serious and honest, so don't ever accuse me of trolling because I am not a troll.
Well, I am not a nymphomaniac anymore. Masturbation and dirty sexual things gross me out nowdays. I am not sure if I am able to have sex with my future husband either... Sex scares me too...
Oh cool, problem solved.... in a week no less. :rolleyes:


 

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Well, I am not a nymphomaniac anymore. Masturbation and dirty sexual things gross me out nowdays. I am not sure if I am able to have sex with my future husband either... Sex scares me too...
based upon your radical shift in "attitude", i would HIGHLY encourage you to seek further care for your bi-polar disorder (if you aren't already). what you're describing, shifting from one extreme to the other is almost the textbook definition of bi-polar disorder.

praying for you.

​Dont you mean estrogen, and not testosterone? Men have testosterone, women have estrogen. :)
actually, that's a misnomer, blue_ladybug. women actually produce testosterone, along with estrogen, and progesterone, all of which help to regulate many things.

while women have much less testosterone than men, there reasons why women might have a higher levels of testosterone, some perfectly healthy, and some that are indicative of disease and can be problematic.

oh, and yes, men do produce estrogen too. : )
 
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blue_ladybug

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Originally Posted by blue_ladybug

​Dont you mean estrogen, and not testosterone? Men have testosterone, women have estrogen. :)



actually, that's a misnomer, blue_ladybug. women actually produce testosterone, along with estrogen, and progesterone, all of which help to regulate many things.

while women have much less testosterone than men, there reasons why women might have a higher levels of testosterone, some perfectly healthy, and some that are indicative of disease and can be problematic.

oh, and yes, men do produce estrogen too. : )

gypsygirl, wow that's cool..I think lol..i will add this to my list of things that i have learned today.. :eek: ​LOL. :)
 

2Thewaters

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Go work and volunteer in a nursing home, help the homeless, work for the shelter, do something useful to take your mind off self.
it takes about 3-4 months to overcome sex thoughts with prayer but keep it up
turn off TV
hang out with parents
read the bible
and think of Jesus and tell him all the time your problem and ask him to remove it.

the enemy is shamed when you give up sexual perversions and HE will have to pay for all the times you fell into it he will have a hot time in hell when you are saved from self abuse.
 
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nice answer you shared here I like this as Satan always attempt us towards sins making but if we get the god grace then we can live goodly. As John Donner says that women beauty is the most potent instrument in the hand of demon.