I am a christian teen age 14. Pregnant. Need advice and prayers?
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J
Oh, PennEd.... Thank you for bringing this over. I have been pro life for years,
but never have I heard a testimony of a woman who killed that many babies,
not to speak of the damage done to the physical body of the pregnant one.
To know the one girl bled to death, horrible. The 12 yr old slitting her wrists
2 weeks later. The baby whose head would not crush ? Oh what agony that
mother has lived with for 20 years.
I was aware of some horror stories, such as the babies being put into bucket
alive. I never realized what a 'business' it is. The sales pitch, I had not heard
of. I learned a lot from this ladies experience as the one who helped do the
murders of the baby.
I hope more people will watch this. You can't watch it without your mouth
dropping open with disbelief. Thank You for taking time to bring this to the
board. It is a must see. God bless you..
I have a song I would like to bring over to go with this. The baby hears
its mommy making plans to abort it. I have it on CD.... I wept when I heard it.
Again... God bless.... maybe a baby will be saved.
Hi.
Ok, so this is a long story, so thank you if you take the time to read this
My name is Annelies. I am 14 years old. I am a Christian. And I am pregnant.
Now, I am fully aware that the last two contradict one another. But let me explain.
I took a vow of chastity (waiting until marriage) when I was 13. I fully intended to wait.
However, I got pregnant. I slept with one of my best friends who is 15. We both realised that it was a mistake and a sin a little too late. And I am fully aware that I brought this onto myself.
But I don't know what to do. My parents have told me in the past that if I ever got pregnant, they would kick me out. This happened to a teenage cousin of mine. My family disowned her.
I estimate that I am around 5-6 weeks pregnant, but it could be more/less. I have been considering abortion. I am and have always been anti-abortion. But, when you are put into this position (or put yourself into it) you start to see the other side of it. I just can't think of this pregnancy as a 'child'. It just doesnt seem right, but I am scared that I could never love it if I kept it.
Adoption is sort of out of the question. My parents probably consider adoption even more of a sin than abortion (makes no sense)
I guess that right now my choices are:
1) Keep it. But then my parents would most certainly throw me out and that would mean that the kid would never have a good life.
2) Adoption, but my parents would also disown me and I would be left on my own with nothing.
3) Abortion. My parents would never know. I would probably feel guilty forever, but it is starting to seem like a better option.
Please, if anyone has been in a similaar situation, what did you do?
And as for my friend, he is really freaked out. Says he will give me money for an abortion but will not get involved if I have the kid.
Please, no criticism. I fully understand how much I am in the wrong. But I don't need to be berated further. And please keep me in your prayers if you can.
-Annelies
Ok, so this is a long story, so thank you if you take the time to read this
My name is Annelies. I am 14 years old. I am a Christian. And I am pregnant.
Now, I am fully aware that the last two contradict one another. But let me explain.
I took a vow of chastity (waiting until marriage) when I was 13. I fully intended to wait.
However, I got pregnant. I slept with one of my best friends who is 15. We both realised that it was a mistake and a sin a little too late. And I am fully aware that I brought this onto myself.
But I don't know what to do. My parents have told me in the past that if I ever got pregnant, they would kick me out. This happened to a teenage cousin of mine. My family disowned her.
I estimate that I am around 5-6 weeks pregnant, but it could be more/less. I have been considering abortion. I am and have always been anti-abortion. But, when you are put into this position (or put yourself into it) you start to see the other side of it. I just can't think of this pregnancy as a 'child'. It just doesnt seem right, but I am scared that I could never love it if I kept it.
Adoption is sort of out of the question. My parents probably consider adoption even more of a sin than abortion (makes no sense)
I guess that right now my choices are:
1) Keep it. But then my parents would most certainly throw me out and that would mean that the kid would never have a good life.
2) Adoption, but my parents would also disown me and I would be left on my own with nothing.
3) Abortion. My parents would never know. I would probably feel guilty forever, but it is starting to seem like a better option.
Please, if anyone has been in a similaar situation, what did you do?
And as for my friend, he is really freaked out. Says he will give me money for an abortion but will not get involved if I have the kid.
Please, no criticism. I fully understand how much I am in the wrong. But I don't need to be berated further. And please keep me in your prayers if you can.
-Annelies
As a Christian we always have the responsibility to do our best to do what's right.
So here is what I would do: (although i'm a boy
)Tell your parents immediately and show that you are very sorry and ready to take responsibility for your actions, that is to raise a child. Ask them for forgiveness and ask them if they could help you raise the child. Go to a minister you think you can trust first (or one that doesn't know you) and ask him for some good bible verses you could show your parents. If they'd really kick you out (Trust me if your Parents really know Jesus they would NEVER do something like that, and if they did, you'd be better off without them anyways)
Pray,pray,pray
Next, Is your boyfriend a Christian? If he is, go ask him if he is ready to do god's will and help you raise the child, ask him to come visit and play with the child once it's born, ask him to get a job once he's 16 or so, even though your still living with your parents they should understand (that is if they are also good Christians) If he's your best friend, that sounds like a good husband to me
I lived in Latinamerica for a number of Years and I know a lots of women who have kids at the age of 16 and have a 17 year old husband who work their but off to support the kid.If your Boyfriend is not A Christian, and shows no sign of responsibility what so ever, just forget about him.
I'm personally so SICK of Men who watch porn all day and then think they need a girlfriend and get one pregnant, then I hear them joke about it in bars and stuff, SICK. I have the feeling it's all this Hollywood-media programming on TV that want people to have sex without the responsibilities that come with it. Sex is one of the most common things there is between a man and a wife and it shouldn't be treated is if it's "dirty" or "sinful" I grew up on a animal farm so I see it all the time.
Anyway PM me if you want some advice. I'll pray for you!
Remember that this world is just a sort of testing ground were god sees who is willing to walk the walk with him. Pray with your parents about it, but tell them right away and trust your parents, they know what's best for you (If their good Christians)
I hope you do what's right! It's your choice.
Simon
F
I read this post and then I simply let my day go on. You know I don't know where you are spiritually and can't imagine all that you are going through. But you came to the right place. I think that you know what the right answer is. Go to someone older you can trust maybe a member of the church and get them to sit down with your parents so you are not alone. That video changed my life and I hope you took the time to watch it.
Quite a tricky situation here, but not uncommon in this day and age (or in the days of olde.)
First off understand Jesus doesn't hate you, technically the only place you have wronged is disobeying your parents.
My advice would be to tell your parents, ask them for forgiveness and patience when you are ready (doesn't have to be too soon, but also do not put it off.) You also have to get this young man involved in the picture it is his child too. All is not lost either, it is still possible for the two of you to make right this situation, but I'm not gonna lie, it will be tough.
Ideally I would say you two should stay together to raise this child, it'll be very rough, but it is possible and I have seen such scenarios work out before. A similar thing happened with my paternal grandparents when they got pregnant with my dad in highschool and they are still loyally together to this very day. I would recommend you two staying together and undergoing the wedding ceremony when you turn 18 (not sure if minors are allowed to undergo the wedding ceremony.) Until that time just do what is best for your child first and foremost.
I send out my hope to you, may Jesus protect and comfort you.
First off understand Jesus doesn't hate you, technically the only place you have wronged is disobeying your parents.
My advice would be to tell your parents, ask them for forgiveness and patience when you are ready (doesn't have to be too soon, but also do not put it off.) You also have to get this young man involved in the picture it is his child too. All is not lost either, it is still possible for the two of you to make right this situation, but I'm not gonna lie, it will be tough.
Ideally I would say you two should stay together to raise this child, it'll be very rough, but it is possible and I have seen such scenarios work out before. A similar thing happened with my paternal grandparents when they got pregnant with my dad in highschool and they are still loyally together to this very day. I would recommend you two staying together and undergoing the wedding ceremony when you turn 18 (not sure if minors are allowed to undergo the wedding ceremony.) Until that time just do what is best for your child first and foremost.
I send out my hope to you, may Jesus protect and comfort you.
heh, I don't know you nor your parents. and I'll be honest if I had a daughter id prob. tell her if she got knocked up id toss her out of the house. BUT.
If you was my daughter and came to me and said dad I screwed up I had sex and now I am prego. it is my fault I did it I screwed up. ( ie. take accountability for your actions ) I still wouldn't be happy about it but I wouldn't toss you out. Of course I would tell you it is your responsibility don't look at me as a babysitter. ( ie If you do the crime you better not cry about the time) I would also be having a nice long talk with this so called boy.
Now I can tell you for sure beating around the bush, trying to hide, being deceitful will only make things worse.
So best bet. own up to your actions, accept the consequences
If you was my daughter and came to me and said dad I screwed up I had sex and now I am prego. it is my fault I did it I screwed up. ( ie. take accountability for your actions ) I still wouldn't be happy about it but I wouldn't toss you out. Of course I would tell you it is your responsibility don't look at me as a babysitter. ( ie If you do the crime you better not cry about the time) I would also be having a nice long talk with this so called boy.
Now I can tell you for sure beating around the bush, trying to hide, being deceitful will only make things worse.
So best bet. own up to your actions, accept the consequences
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J
So she has not been back to let us know her decision. I was thinking
as I read through, it is like a little girl.. and she is... scared to tell her
parents she did wrong. I can understand that too. We all were young
once. But, she has a baby growing inside her as you already know, and
we can pray for the baby. The longer she waits the more the baby matures.
A late term abortion is horrendous.
Remember some of the stories we have heard through the years when
a teen hid her pregnancy then give birth and throw it away in dumpsters,
or if premature, trying to flush them down the commode. This is not an
unusual situation. I am praying she was not really pregnant for her sake
and also that she might learn a lesson from this whole thing. Please let
us pray for her and hope she can let us know what she did decide .... She
is just a child herself. Dear Lord, please intervene on her behalf... In Jesus
name I pray. Amen
as I read through, it is like a little girl.. and she is... scared to tell her
parents she did wrong. I can understand that too. We all were young
once. But, she has a baby growing inside her as you already know, and
we can pray for the baby. The longer she waits the more the baby matures.
A late term abortion is horrendous.
Remember some of the stories we have heard through the years when
a teen hid her pregnancy then give birth and throw it away in dumpsters,
or if premature, trying to flush them down the commode. This is not an
unusual situation. I am praying she was not really pregnant for her sake
and also that she might learn a lesson from this whole thing. Please let
us pray for her and hope she can let us know what she did decide .... She
is just a child herself. Dear Lord, please intervene on her behalf... In Jesus
name I pray. Amen
T
I'm in no way qualified to advise on this topic, but I have a friend on Facebook who is a former prostitute and drug addict, but is now fully given over to Christ. She has a little boy, and I've never seen her say it, but I get the feeling her son might be from one of her clients and doesn't know who. It suck that the father doesn't want anything to do with it, and don't let his offer to fund the abortion sway you at all; as others have said, abortion is not God's will for this child. My friend has managed with God's provision, and you will too. It won't always be easy, but trusting him is absolutely the best option available.
Whatever you choose, own it, and God be with you.
Whatever you choose, own it, and God be with you.