Is being homosexual a choice?

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Loved

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Drunkenness is not predestined by genetics.
neither is homosexuality, it is the "you" you create by increasing in stature, a combination if your family, society, friends, circumstnaces, and many other factors

It is not something that you get to blame God. It is not a handi-cap, or are they wanting that privledge now?
 
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inaweirdplace

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but it does play a role. There was a baby that was taken away from its alcoholic parents, he grew up never knowing them. He was adopted by a middle classed couple and was not exposed to over-drinking, but when he got to his teens he still ended up going through problems with alcoholism.
 
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jimmydiggs

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Drunkenness is not predestined by genetics.
Seems rather irrelevant.


Romans 9 said:
14 What then shall we say? Is God unjust? Not at all! 15 For he says to Moses,

I will have mercy on whom I have mercy,
and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion
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16 It does not, therefore, depend on human desire or effort, but on God’s mercy. 17 For Scripture says to Pharaoh: “I raised you up for this very purpose, that I might display my power in you and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth.”[g] 18 Therefore God has mercy on whom he wants to have mercy, and he hardens whom he wants to harden.
19 One of you will say to me: “Then why does God still blame us? For who is able to resist his will?” 20 But who are you, a human being, to talk back to God? “Shall what is formed say to the one who formed it, ‘Why did you make me like this?’”[h] 21 Does not the potter have the right to make out of the same lump of clay some pottery for special purposes and some for common use? 22 What if God, although choosing to show his wrath and make his power known, bore with great patience the objects of his wrath—prepared for destruction? 23 What if he did this to make the riches of his glory known to the objects of his mercy, whom he prepared in advance for glory— 24 even us, whom he also called, not only from the Jews but also from the Gentiles? 25 As he says in Hosea:
 
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camragirl73

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#24
Read romans
 
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LovingtheLord

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#25
Here is a the fix;
Go back to the Creator and he WILL fix you; supposing you want to be fixed.
 

jandian

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Homosexuality is a spirit. It can be spiritually inherited, or developed through trauma and or exposure.
But it is nothing- compared to the power of God. In Jesus name, anyone who really wants to, can be delivered

wrestling with it is not a sin, yielding to it...is

we all wrestle with things in our lives, but by making a choice to live by God's principles, He then empowers us to defeat the devil's principles; which we should not seek to forget, is to oppose every order of God.
 
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Is being homosexual a choice or is it the way God made them?
Look at it this way. Did you one day just suddenly decide to be attracted to the opposite gender or was it something that came naturally? Or better yet when did you decide to like any of the things you enjoy? Or was it something that just came to you naturally? People don't decide what they're drawn to, they just are.
 

G4JC

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Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

- 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (New King James Version)
Seems pretty clear.
 

sweetnshy

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I don't think that it's a conscious choice--I don't think gay people consciously decide "I think I'll be gay!" Just like heterosexuals don't consciously choose to like the opposite sex. However, I do think there is a subconscious choice that is made. I knew a girl in high school who was a lesbian, and she had been sexually abused by her father growing up, then she dated a few different guys who were also abusive--some physically, some sexually. Then she met a girl who was a lesbian, became friends with her, and next thing the two of them were dating. At that point, she started saying that she had always been a lesbian and was just now coming out about it. I don't believe that though. I think that she had some very traumatic experiences occur with men, and as a result learned not to trust men and to associate them with bad things, and that led to being attracted to women. And from what I've heard from other gay people, this is a very common story--many of them have been abused or gone through other sorts of trauma that lead to them being gay, and then they just claim that this is who they are and who they've always been, when the reality is there's pain in their hearts and unresolved emotional damage that needs to be dealt with.
 
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hislastwalk

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gay people decide to sleep with people tho (same for straight people) but here is an earlier forum I posted.

After coming out of homosexuality, I realized my biggest, and main struggle, was other Christians. It is very hard to go into a religion, that you felt so bashed by. One of the main things that always made me detest Christianity and God was when I would hear other CHRISTIANS say “Dude, your a faggot!” “Ewww, your gay?” GREAT REFLECTION OF GOD? NO! I am not here to judge, I am just trying to make a point. I think most Christian’s act this way because they have not taken the time to understand homosexuality to it’s fullest. They say “your not born that way” and this confuses a lot of homosexuals, because a lot of them HAVE had homosexual temptations since they were younger. The thing to understand, as a Christian, is we we are all born into sin… so in a way, yes you are born gay (as far as your mind goes), but doesn’t the bible say we need to be born again? If your born again, the old is gone, and you have became a new creation! And also, it is also a theory that there might be chemicals in your brain, that make you gay… well since only 6% of the worlds population is gay (yes they re-did the statistics) maybe it is a illness, and we as Christians should stop putting God in a box, if he can heal cancer, let him heal this too! Disease? Possibly. In a spiritual sense though, yes, all sin is a disease.
Now I am talking directly to homosexuals: Understand homosexuality! HOMOSEXUALITY is a choice, as far as your actions, you CHOOSE your actions. The feelings, you may have been born with, but we all choose to act on our temptations. Wouldn’t it be so much better to live a celibate life and live forever in love with the creator of the universe? I believe so. I also have recently read a passage that spoke to me, and God has given me this word.. now understand, aids is not God’s curse, bad stuff happens because of curse of sin, all b/c of Adam and Eve.. but here is the verse:
In the same way, the men turned away from their natural love for women. They burned with sexual longing for each other. Men did shameful things with other men. They suffered in their bodies for all the twisted things they did. -Romans 1:27
Notice the last sentence, “They suffered IN THEIR BODIES for all the twisted things they did.” (This chapter also talks about ALL sexual perversion, so straight people, this is for you too.”) Different translations say “they received punishments in their bodies” etc, etc. Is it possible this verse is referring to aids and other STD’s, or even unwanted pregnancies? IDK, this is just something God has been laying on my heart, and I believe a lot of people over look this verse a bit.
 
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purity

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:) i believe its demonic spirit and that one has to be delivered from that spirit its like a drunkard or an addict who just cant stop there habit although god gave us a choice and we choose at times to do things or to try things or at times not their own doing maybe they were rapped etc and many other reason why they are caught up in these things. there are times when people experiment by trying new things and they do things like that and get caught up in and the enemy has taken residence in their life where that habit has become a strong hold in our life and one must be delivered from that bondage that homosexual is in bondage needs to be set in Jesus name and only Jesus can set them free the bible says whom the son sets free is free indeed and that homosexual can and will be set m free but it can only be done in Jesus name only Jesus can set the free from that homosexual tendency