IS GOD PUNISHING ME FOR CHEATING

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leonard

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av been dating this girl for 5yrs am 26 she 23.we loved each other very much.she has never cheated me .she wos even telling me if somebody tried to disterb her.we lived together when she wos in collage 4yrs this is her final year.i left her for 3months when i came back she acted weardly as if she is seing someone else.i dd my resarch and founf that she is sleeping with her clasmate.she says she is a friend and thea is nothing going on bt i know thea is.i love this girl so much we had even plan to get married.now the problem is thea wos a time i slept with 3girls in different occasion.and thea wos a time she used to tell me that she dreamnt of me having sex with a girl .thea wos a tine she would wake up at night and she woul wake me up telling me that she has dreamn of me having sex.am willing to do anything for me not to lise her.all that happened when i wos not born again.now am a born again christian 9mnths now.she is a christian bt not a born again.is God punishing me.dd God forgiv me when i woz born again.or is God telling me i should repent to her.why wos she dreaming maybe it wos God telling her.am i surposed to repent and God will forgive me.i am aftraid of losing her for good if i tell her.please help.av asked God for forgivness.because i dd those things before i wos born again
 
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kenisyes

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God forgives you of anything you repent of. That includes all of this. But it sounds like your own guilt and your girl friend have not forgiven you yet. It is your guilt and confusion that is punishing you, not God. You need to talk to your girlfriend about this, and find out what is true and where you stand with her.
 
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rustysgirl08

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My honest opinion is that some relationships just weren't made to last. Do you really love each other or are you just comfortable with each other? If you're cheating on someone, that's not love. I'm not saying this to offend you, I just learned this the hard way. I married my first boyfriend because I thought it was what I was supposed to do. We cheated on each other and we never really understood each other either. When I finally got the courage to leave God brought a man into my life who changed my perspective on everything. I didn't realize that there could be a love like the love that we have and he's the one I should've been with all along.
 
rachelsedge

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God does not punish us for sin. That is what Jesus died on the cross for. However, that does not mean that there are not consequences for our sin. Our sin hurts ourselves and others. It can have lasting effects.

I'm a little confused by your post, though. You cheated on her and she does not know it, and you're still together and contemplating telling her?
 
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Repentance

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No!
Are you serious? She'll forgive you if you become transparent and open. You'll be forgiven if you repent. Both of you have to repent together!
 
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thimsrebma

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God is not punishing you for cheating. Your sin has come full circle. You are in a sexual relationship with a young woman that God cannot honor. Both of you have been committing sexual sin with each other as well as with other people. Tho u repented for your cheating if you are still in sin with her this relationship will not be repaired by God unless you flee from temptation and He wants you to be together.
 
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CHRISTENE

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Leonard, if someone sees a dream that doesn't mean the person is evil or bad. I disapprove of homosexual relations and bible says the same.You need to have valid reason's to break relations , I mean in case you were planing to get married or so. I believe in making decision's based on truth and not lies. Bible doesn't approve of premarital relations and I stand by it. But I believe you need to clarify it whether she is truly wrong.
 
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Exoaria

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rachelsedge said:
God does not punish us for sin. That is what Jesus died on the cross for. However, that does not mean that there are not consequences for our sin. Our sin hurts ourselves and others. It can have lasting effects.

I'm a little confused by your post, though. You cheated on her and she does not know it, and you're still together and contemplating telling her?
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2 Corinthians 5:19
that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation.

He's not punishing you. He never counted your sin against you— how could he possibly punish you for something He never had against you in the first place?

As rachelsedge said, it doesn't mean we don't have consequences. Even the unbelievers know that.
 
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