what to do about sexual immorality within a family

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asamanthinketh

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i am 30 years old and still live my mother. I have always lived with her and her man. Which is now her husband through a legal marriage. But in this house he thinks of me and treats me as if I am his wife or his "girl". And anytime I say something or speak what is inapporiate I get criticism, hurtful comments, and sometimes physical abuse.

I cannot call the police because he has commited no legal crime. But in the eyes of God he is commiting a crime. He is molesting me and using me for his purposes because he is not happy with my mother.

I have talked to friends and asked for prayer, but nothing seems to change this man and his evil ways.
If anyone wants to pray for him his name is Ralph Shephard. He is about 74 years old, does not work, and sits around the house all day and all night. Maybe he has nothing better to do with his time than to make my life miserable.

I am my mother's daughter. I am not her husband's wife, servant, slave girl, I am not his female to do as he wishes with. And my mother doesn't intervene. Can't anyone see why I keep writing on here and saying why life is so horrible and why death is always on my mind. Their grotesque sin makes life unbearable for me. I think I could handle a murderer better than this sin.
 
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Demeter

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asamanthinketh said:
And anytime I say something or speak what is inapporiate I get criticism, hurtful comments, and sometimes physical abuse.

I cannot call the police because he has commited no legal crime. But in the eyes of God he is commiting a crime. He is molesting me and using me for his purposes because he is not happy with my mother.

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no legal crime. . .
 
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Wug

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If it's anything unvoluntary, then it is a legal crime. If the police won't even intervene, I would move out.
 
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Sharp

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What do you mean he is molesting you?

Go to the police.

Get help - your situation won't change, no matter how many threads you start. Go to a hospital - they will have information to help you.
 
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michiru_maeda

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i advise u to get out of the house and live on ur own. praying alone wont help. u must act something to help urself
 
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michiru_maeda

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a person at his age wont change his behavior. he's expecting u to follow his desire. live move out from ur mother's house and u'll be free.
 
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carpetmanswife

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what he is doin IS a crime....leave
 
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slumdog

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I recommend you to go to the police and file a case. This should be done soon before it is late.
 
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specialguest

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I think you should find a friend, a mature friend who you could really trust, tell your secrets and get advice. You have friends here, but I think it would be better if you find someone you can look eye to eye and open your heart. And, as everyone is saying, leave your mom. God said in Genesis that man would leave his father and mother and join his wife. The opposite is truth. You are in good age to leave your mother. Consider the people of Israel before leaving Egypt. The closer the time of release got, the more things became difficult, and then God gave the escape. God will do nothing to change it, because He is in control and using it to push you to a marriage...and to happynes. I clearly see that she may think that you do not really mind of how her husband treats you, or you would have already left. You are probably sexually atracting him (even if you do not want to do it), and perhaps your mom does not know how to stop his natural desires, or impulses. If you won't leave, he possibly will possess you, soon or later.
 
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specialguest

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Something more: above all, that was MY opinion. Ask God for direction. Be sure He is in control. Your life is too precious to be lost. Just trust on Him, who can deliver you. Read Romans chapter 8 and verse 28. I'm gonna pray for you.
 
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asamanthinketh

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i have asked God for direction. I've asked friends, pastors, strangers. And I get nowhere.
I know no one believes me, but I have nothing left to speak the truth and hope that it changes these people that i have lived with for 30 years.

My mother is a bad mother. She has only wanted what she wanted me to become rather than loving me for what the Lord created me to be and understanding development and what I have gone through. I've worked so hard for certain things in my life, and because of her will, her thoughts, and her desires, she is able to have an influence in this community and in the hearts and minds of those who live here. I don't know if it is even possible for me to be happy anymore. I get happy and then something comes along to take it away. How is anyone going to want me to be their wife when I am damaged goods. My mother is a stupid woman and doesn't understand these times and how things work now and she refuses to listen. She is very prejudice. And she has not loved me. She thinks she has, but she has not.

So, because of her I am not even sure that I am strong and healthy enough to go live out on my own. Because this world is not a friendly place. And if anyone notices one little weakness in me, they will throw me under the bus.

i've wanted to be married several times, but something about me was not good enough for them. I guess it is my fault, but I also blame it on my mother for never accepting me or anyone that I have been with. She always finds fault and makes everyone feel uncomfortable and unworthy.

She thinks if someone does not look, act, behave, and talk like her there is something wrong with them.
She wanted a child, she got one, ME, if she wasn't prepared to love me through life and let me have a safe place to live until i did leave then she should have never had sex, gotten pregnant, or even brought me home from the hospital.

I have been healed in this lifetime. But I'm not sure this is healable. There is only so much that can be done. The other times I fought to maintain the healing because she always takes it away from me.

specialguest said:
Something more: above all, that was MY opinion. Ask God for direction. Be sure He is in control. Your life is too precious to be lost. Just trust on Him, who can deliver you. Read Romans chapter 8 and verse 28. I'm gonna pray for you.
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Texas_Christian

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My dear sister, I pray for you and your trial. Have you told your mother? I would tell others, your friends, other family members. If not, then you need to tell your pastor and see if your church knows of a shelter. GET OUT! Do not stay for you do not know if things will escalate to violence. My heart breaks for you. I know what you go through, I have suffered through abuse and there is no good thing to come from suffering in silence. Your weapon is your voice, use it.
 
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