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Restraining orders, aka Protections From Abuse (POF's) are commonly used to prevent direct unsupervised contact from a person or persons. POF's are a written document registered with the court and approved by a judge in the case of fear from bodily harm. In most cases abuse is culminated in but not limited to physical abuse, and a simple PFA can be acquired within 24 hours of an act of abuse (in cases which the police become involved and it's proven that battery took place the perp will automatically be held for 48-72 hours after the incident of battery). Note: a PFA can be acquired before actual battery takes place if the judge discerns that the victim of emotional or mental abuse is in imminent danger of bodily harm.
In my case I've taken out two PFA's in the past on my husband which lasted for 6 months before I was required to go back to court and get it reinstated for 1 year. The Lord blessed both times, however, by healing my husband from his mental issues and showed him his error in heart... and now, after two bouts in divorce court, our marriage is that of joy, commitment, and continual encouragement. I pray that the Lord will bless you in such a way... regardless of whatever attachments you might make during your estrangement. It is well worth such submission before God.
In my case I've taken out two PFA's in the past on my husband which lasted for 6 months before I was required to go back to court and get it reinstated for 1 year. The Lord blessed both times, however, by healing my husband from his mental issues and showed him his error in heart... and now, after two bouts in divorce court, our marriage is that of joy, commitment, and continual encouragement. I pray that the Lord will bless you in such a way... regardless of whatever attachments you might make during your estrangement. It is well worth such submission before God.
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Mammachickadee, I am aware of what a restraining order or protective order is and how one works since I had one against an ex boyfriend when he punched me in the face resulting in an orbital fracture. I am also a former licensed security officer with many friends and family members in local and state law enforcement. So unfortunately, I'm no stranger to this stuff. I was actually asking her more specifically what he did and whether he had harmed the children. I'm not saying one is any worse than the other though.
JayyCeeLove93: Any man who hurts a woman unprovoked or harms a child deserves no less than a solid prison stay and mandatory counseling. I am so sorry to hear you are going through this hardship. It's perfectly normal to still care about a person while in the pursuit of a divorce. You have to do what is best for your kids. It's nice to see that Mammachickadee's situation resolved happily but not all have such a happy ending. Divorce should be a last resort. If you're unable to solve the problem and this man poses a credible threat to you or your children, then he does not need to be in your life. I will pray for you.
JayyCeeLove93: Any man who hurts a woman unprovoked or harms a child deserves no less than a solid prison stay and mandatory counseling. I am so sorry to hear you are going through this hardship. It's perfectly normal to still care about a person while in the pursuit of a divorce. You have to do what is best for your kids. It's nice to see that Mammachickadee's situation resolved happily but not all have such a happy ending. Divorce should be a last resort. If you're unable to solve the problem and this man poses a credible threat to you or your children, then he does not need to be in your life. I will pray for you.
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In order for us to have a full love tank, there is no other choice but to connect to its source, the Author of Love, the Love itself, Jesus Christ. As long as we depend on our own strength to love, our effort will remain in vain. Our love is so limited. Humanly love is undoubtedly conditional. But God's love is entirely different. There is nothing that you can do to make Him love you more and there is nothing that you can do to make Him love you less. His love does not depend on your performance. His love is entirely conditional.
"But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" -Romans 5:8
God chose to love and even die for you when you did not even bother His existence.
"And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ and to know this love that surpasses knowledge -that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God." -Ephesians 3:17-18
God is waiting for us to sow seeds of love in stony hearts of men. God is waiting for us to remove the stone of unforgiveness and fear. Before He makes His miracle, He makes sure His sons and daughters have grown. Because what is a miracle (a circumstance to be changed) without a change of the core of our hearts?
"I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh [heart of obedience to God]. Then they will follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. They will be my people, and I will be their God." -Ezekiel 11:19-20
"Go again, love a woman who is loved by a lover and is committing adultery, just like the love of the Lord for the children of Israel, who look to other gods and love the raisin cake of pagans" -Hosea 3:1
God shows us that no hard is to hard to be soften. As long as the seeds of unconditional love are planted, He can make a miracle. Because love cannot fail. And love never fails.
So let His love completely fills your love tank. Fill it with a greatest weapon of all to win back God's people. It is always easy to love when we remember that it is God's in us who wants and enables us to do so. Our part is to sacrifice our ego and pride, remove stone of unforgiveness and fear, and get into a reckless abandon to His righteous ways.
What a wonderful world will be. When hatred ceases and ego dies, truth and love lives. A heaven on earth. A sweet reality that can come true.
-be blessing-
cilla
"But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us" -Romans 5:8
God chose to love and even die for you when you did not even bother His existence.
"And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ and to know this love that surpasses knowledge -that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God." -Ephesians 3:17-18
God is waiting for us to sow seeds of love in stony hearts of men. God is waiting for us to remove the stone of unforgiveness and fear. Before He makes His miracle, He makes sure His sons and daughters have grown. Because what is a miracle (a circumstance to be changed) without a change of the core of our hearts?
"I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh [heart of obedience to God]. Then they will follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. They will be my people, and I will be their God." -Ezekiel 11:19-20
"Go again, love a woman who is loved by a lover and is committing adultery, just like the love of the Lord for the children of Israel, who look to other gods and love the raisin cake of pagans" -Hosea 3:1
God shows us that no hard is to hard to be soften. As long as the seeds of unconditional love are planted, He can make a miracle. Because love cannot fail. And love never fails.
So let His love completely fills your love tank. Fill it with a greatest weapon of all to win back God's people. It is always easy to love when we remember that it is God's in us who wants and enables us to do so. Our part is to sacrifice our ego and pride, remove stone of unforgiveness and fear, and get into a reckless abandon to His righteous ways.
What a wonderful world will be. When hatred ceases and ego dies, truth and love lives. A heaven on earth. A sweet reality that can come true.
-be blessing-
cilla
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I do still love him I got a restraining order because he put his hands on me infront of my children but this is where it started, for the past 5-6 months he has been on and off jobs and from what he says he got off at 3 from his last job but he would get home at 7 so that was odd but I let it go but then he would come home acting wierd not spending time with me or the kids and at the time we only had 2 but I was pregnant, now u can imagine I have 2kids I am home alone taking care of them and im pregnant and I have to cook , clean, go food shopping, wash dishes, do laundry all on my own I need help but no he wouldnt help he would come home eat shower and sleep I would have to practicly beg him or argue with him just to go get us some food at times because there would be no food in the house and I just cant go to the store alone pregnant and two kids with no car, on top of that we survived of WIC for a good 3months because he wouldnt buy food, so it starts there but then he starts coming home with scratchs on his back and tells me I dont know where it came from I didnt feel it then another day he comes home with bruises on his thighs and says it was a ladder,. Still I let it be, but I start finding porno in his phone and him flirting with women thru internet, and not only that but he stopd being sexually active with me and blamed it on work that made him tired so one day he came home starting an arguement with me as an excuse for him to leave so he plans to leave me im fed up so I say hey im leaving too he goes where u going ur not going no where ur pregnant u stay home, so I respond by saying yea im pregnant but apparently u dont care because im home alone 24-7 with the kids and when u come home you dont even help u dont so much as greet me and ur kids, and I begin to tell him all he has been doing and how im tired of it and then I showed him this book from the christian movie fireproof wich I was reading and taking notes showing him that ive been fighting for a mariage he keeps destroying and so he gets pissed off y I really dont understand locks me in the room and starts yelling and cursing my kids are there so I tell him stop and let me out he doesnt let me leave so I threatend to call the cops wich pissd him off more and I dialed because he had my kids screaming and crying and when I dialed he grabd me and banged me against a wall and bit my hand and took the phone so I went to the window opend it and yelled for help and he grabd me slamed the window shut and banged me against the wall again then I tried grabing my phone back and he pushed me on the bed grabing my arms and I started to kick him off me and slapd him until I finally managed to get away when he took my phone and walked out of the room I ran out with my kids when the cops came he refused to come out so the cop said lets get u safe ill come back for him and he took me to my parents I got my police report and then the cop went back come to find out my husband gave the apt in and moved to another state the very same day, I feel it was all planned by him because how can u leave the same day so quickly he had to have had it planned to leave with someone that stuff doesnt just happen so he left me and my kids with no home no food no shelter in wich I was taken to a womans shelter and am now getting gov help, now why I want a divorve simply because he has flirted with other woman and seen porn and I have no proof he has physically had sex with another woman but from what he shows he is capable and has seen porn and all thatso I think he has even sexually cheated on me and no t only that but the bible says so much as looking at a woman is sexual immorality so I feel I have the right to a divorce but I want to do things right by God.
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Yeah, I'm just interested how she is. I want to interview her because I have website Young Married Couple – Build growth and successful relationship for people like her or people with relationship. But unfortunately she will not be here anymore.