Needing some encouragement

[Duckies]

Hi Moose brother

As many have mentioned here before, this is never easy; and i as i mentioned before this will shape you.

Giving things up for him is super super hard because of how things work on this world and because of our inner fights with our selves. Showing him a change for him (not a sacrifice), but a willing to just choose him over anything else is always rewarded by him (not necessarily material, but spiritually). Remember he says that he knows your needs and "Nothing" will ever be lacking of your life. Just follow him.

When i have issues about choosing and find my self in a rough spot that tells me my life is having a hard time and may be nothing fun... i try to remind me that this is not easy and i have already made a choice, now i must make good on it... i should do as the master did for he told us the following..

"[Luke 9:23] Then he said to them all: "Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me."

I hope you find the encouragement from everyone here and that you stay strong brother, life takes a few swings at us and what matter is how strong we stand as it will shape us into becoming the person that will come out on the other side of the issue.

God Bless You!!

 

[MooseAura]

Hi Moose brother

As many have mentioned here before, this is never easy; and i as i mentioned before this will shape you.

Giving things up for him is super super hard because of how things work on this world and because of our inner fights with our selves. Showing him a change for him (not a sacrifice), but a willing to just choose him over anything else is always rewarded by him (not necessarily material, but spiritually). Remember he says that he knows your needs and "Nothing" will ever be lacking of your life. Just follow him.

When i have issues about choosing and find my self in a rough spot that tells me my life is having a hard time and may be nothing fun... i try to remind me that this is not easy and i have already made a choice, now i must make good on it... i should do as the master did for he told us the following..

"[Luke 9:23] Then he said to them all: "Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me."

I hope you find the encouragement from everyone here and that you stay strong brother, life takes a few swings at us and what matter is how strong we stand as it will shape us into becoming the person that will come out on the other side of the issue.

God Bless You!!

Thanks to you as well for returning.

This response really said a lot for me, and that verse will probably be a key verse for me for the next while in my life.

Also, I found these meaningful verses to read and be encouraged by as well.

John 8:31-32
31 Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed;
32 And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

Those mean a lot and will mean a lot to me as I fight my flesh to get into God's Word more so that I can both create good Christian habits to replace my old ones, and so I can learn much from His Word consistently.

 

[Duckies]

Thank you for sharing those

Keep up the good work brother, we are all here to help each other go through this rough path... only a few more pushes left before we reach our eternal peace with him!

God Bless!

 

[BarlyGurl]

bottom line... you have a bond with this girl... it's painful to break it off. That demonstrates a tender heart and it's really sweet and in no way weakness... yet the devil will try to USE your tender heart against you. You already KNOW what is right... now you must settle in your heart to do it and BELIEVE God will bring you thru it. The prayer is "THO I walk thru the shadow of death...you are with me" not "as I walk thru this sunny field of flowers you will keep me from any pain". The victory comes on the other side of obedience not before. YOU took a wrong turn a year or so back and the turn around makes for a rough ride... it will get better... be strengthened in HIM.

 

[Outsider]

The level of dedication you have for God is very high.

Seeing as to how you handled the previous situation, and how you're handling the breakup now, I'm certain you'll sacrifice more for God than probably anyone else in this thread.

Moose, the path you have chosen will be full of moments such as this. It will be hard for you to find a woman who meets your incredibly high and specific standards. Are you sure this is what you want? If this is the path you choose, you need to always look forward to the future and never let past regrets get a hold of you.

bottom line... you have a bond with this girl... it's painful to break it off. That demonstrates a tender heart and it's really sweet and in no way weakness... yet the devil will try to USE your tender heart against you.

Essentially, the devil will use your tender heart to try and make you love a good Christian girl who had a few differing opinions than your own. I didn't know the devil dabbled in the art of spreading love between Christians!

You already KNOW what is right... now you must settle in your heart to do it and BELIEVE God will bring you thru it. The prayer is "THO I walk thru the shadow of death...you are with me" not "as I walk thru this sunny field of flowers you will keep me from any pain". The victory comes on the other side of obedience not before.

If you hold the high standards you've presented us, these words will be true. As I said, you're going to sacrifice a lot for God if you continue down your current path. Make sure it's what you really want.

It might be a good idea for you to look at other happy, Christian, couples. Figure out what differences they had to put aside for one another so they could be happy together.

YOU took a wrong turn a year or so back and the turn around makes for a rough ride... it will get better... be strengthened in HIM.

Essentially, Barlygurl is saying you shouldn't have fallen in love with this girl in the first place. This is what makes Barlygurl such a strong Christian, preaching love in every post... (hopefully you caught the sarcasm).

 

[BarlyGurl]

stuff it outsider... inserting yourself into the dialogue, hacking my post to pieces and attempting to discredit me because you disagree with my position demonstrates a severe lacking on your part. I'll overlook this time because you are 23 and obviously think you have it all figured out.
He knows what I meant...as we have conversed previously... you are just being a fly in the ointment

 

[Outsider]

stuff it outsider... inserting yourself into the dialogue, hacking my post to pieces and attempting to discredit me because you disagree with my position demonstrates a severe lacking on your part. I'll overlook this time because you are 23 and obviously think you have it all figured out.
He knows what I meant...as we have conversed previously... you are just being a fly in the ointment

The greatest mistake of the youth was to never question their elders.

The greatest mistake of the elders was to underestimate the intelligence of the youth.

All I'm saying is that love between two human beings is something that is very special. It may not be anything compared to the love one has for God, but it's easy for people to neglect their bond with other human beings and to live in isolation with their God.

You called OP's relationship with this girl a mistake, saying he took a "wrong turn" when he went out with her. Nobody should ever regret a relationship that's built on love, even if it doesn't work out in the end. I hope OP can at least cherish the time he had with his girlfriend, and that he won't regret a single moment.

 

[BarlyGurl]

The greatest mistake of the youth was to never question their elders.

The greatest mistake of the elders was to underestimate the intelligence of the youth.

All I'm saying is that love between two human beings is something that is very special. It may not be anything compared to the love one has for God, but it's easy for people to neglect their bond with other human beings and to live in isolation with their God.

You called OP's relationship with this girl a mistake, saying he took a "wrong turn" when he went out with her. Nobody should ever regret a relationship that's built on love, even if it doesn't work out in the end. I hope OP can at least cherish the time he had with his girlfriend, and that he won't regret a single moment.

nice turn around... but it would have been wiser to just say THAT (points up to bolded phrase) and to have skipped the sacrastic diatribe...ya know?

 

[MooseAura]

Outsider, I do appreciate the miniscule amount of actual advice you gave me, but please take the sarcasm and indirection to another thread...

I will, though, ask various couples (i.e. the couples that compose my youth leaders) at church, and see what all a variety of similar situations they have been through.

Also, do note that differences are one thing, but the basis of one's beliefs is another thing, Outsider.
I may be young, but I'm wise and attentive enough to notice the past failures of myself and others that I may spectate, and take note of what is to be learned of said mistakes.

And BaryGurl does have a point. I SHOULDN'T have fallen in love with her. But then again, maybe I should have.
Even if this girl is not who God has for me, God may have set me and her up to teach me this large variety of lessons and morals that I am STILL learning from this/these situation(s).
And all the same, if she is the one the Lord has planned for me, I will come out of the situation with these lessons still learned!

 

[Outsider]

Outsider, I do appreciate the miniscule amount of actual advice you gave me, but please take the sarcasm and indirection to another thread...

I will, though, ask various couples (i.e. the couples that compose my youth leaders) at church, and see what all a variety of similar situations they have been through.

Also, do note that differences are one thing, but the basis of one's beliefs is another thing, Outsider.
I may be young, but I'm wise and attentive enough to notice the past failures of myself and others that I may spectate, and take note of what is to be learned of said mistakes.

And BaryGurl does have a point. I SHOULDN'T have fallen in love with her. But then again, maybe I should have.
Even if this girl is not who God has for me, God may have set me and her up to teach me this large variety of lessons and morals that I am STILL learning from this/these situation(s).
And all the same, if she is the one the Lord has planned for me, I will come out of the situation with these lessons still learned!

I gave you plenty of advice, it's just not what you were wanting to hear. But, regardless, I understand what you're wanting to hear and it would be foolish of me to keep pressing you with stuff I know you won't agree with.

The basis of you and your girlfriends beliefs differed? I thought the basis was your love for Christ, not hatred or disdain towards homosexuals and atheists. But you're right, you can't go out with someone who's core principles you disagree with. I'm just questioning whether your core principles are logical, and more importantly, if your core principles will leave you lonely.

In the end, I just hope that you'll learn that it's you will who will ultimately decide your future.

I'll back out of these threads.

 

[MooseAura]

Thank you.

You may have been trying, but I just don't think we were flowing the same direction.
No hard feelings, but thanks for being cooperative!

 

[Duckies]

If i may add, love is never a choice of wrong doing, love is a good thing, and sometimes we fall in love with things that don't turn out to be ok, but don't live in regret, instead take what good you can from the experience.

Sometimes in order to maintain a balance in our lives we must make choices, you were not married which is a good thing, this was just a friendship that turned into love... due to the differences between the two of you this love could have been seriously damaged, so instead, a friendship remains... my 2 cents.

God Bless You all !

 

[MooseAura]

If i may add, love is never a choice of wrong doing, love is a good thing, and sometimes we fall in love with things that don't turn out to be ok, but don't live in regret, instead take what good you can from the experience.

Sometimes in order to maintain a balance in our lives we must make choices, you were not married which is a good thing, this was just a friendship that turned into love... due to the differences between the two of you this love could have been seriously damaged, so instead, a friendship remains... my 2 cents.

God Bless You all !

In reply to this, and if Outsider is still reading, I don't regret my time with her at all. And I'm glad I'll be able to look back and remember them.

But if my obligations are to change, I must be able to change my life in order to meet those goals.

Its just like me and my educational-life. I'm a biiiiig time procrastinator (average teen. lol), but I learned quickly that I need to step it up and put forth the effort and time to sacrifice my entertainments in life in order to better meet my goals in school. I'm now a junior who is taking 2-3 college classes whilst still in high school. Upon graduating school, I'll begin college a whole year ahead my class and for a 1/5th the normal cost.

That is in no way bragging, just an example that I've already learned in one area of my life that rewards come from sacrifice, and that I need to be able to sacrifice things for God if they don't line up. Just as sitting around playing games, or forgetting homework consistently got in the way of good grades and excelling in school.

I will miss the times, just because love is love. But I'm sure God has things in control, and will bring much greater things in the future.

 

[Duckies]

Good for you brother You keep up that good work! I am sure many things are to come for you in life. God Bless You and keep walking strong!

 

[MooseAura]

Good for you brother You keep up that good work! I am sure many things are to come for you in life. God Bless You and keep walking strong!

I will most definitely try!!

Quick question:
Do you read your bible habitually?

 

[Ariel82]

I'm just questioning whether your core principles are logical, and more importantly, if your core principles will leave you lonely.

In the end, I just hope that you'll learn that it's you will who will ultimately decide your future.

WHAT???!??!!

We do not decide our future GOD does. this constant encouragement for youth to rebel against "authority" is not Biblical because the ULTIMATE authority is GOD and we should NOT rebel against Him. The Bible tells us to respect authority and to give honor where honor is due. Sometimes we have to stand up for higher principles but that does not mean we lightly reject what our elders tell us. We respectfully voice what God places in our hearts to say for the wisdom that comes from above is expressed with peace and love.

Your core principals are what makes you lead by God's Holy Spirit or lead by your flesh. I applaud you MooseAura for being clear minded enough to understand the God's words and His will.

Just remember you are never alone, God is always only one prayer away and He always gives us just what we need to overcome temptations and/or despair. Just remember God loves you and that is more than enough.

 

[MooseAura]

WHAT???!??!!

We do not decide our future GOD does. this constant encouragement for youth to rebel against "authority" is not Biblical because the ULTIMATE authority is GOD and we should NOT rebel against Him. The Bible tells us to respect authority and to give honor where honor is due. Sometimes we have to stand up for higher principles but that does not mean we lightly reject what our elders tell us. We respectfully voice what God places in our hearts to say for the wisdom that comes from above is expressed with peace and love.

Your core principals are what makes you lead by God's Holy Spirit or lead by your flesh. I applaud you MooseAura for being clear minded enough to understand the God's words and His will.

Just remember you are never alone, God is always only one prayer away and He always gives us just what we need to overcome temptations and/or despair. Just remember God loves you and that is more than enough.

Thank you for this!

I do understand that God is always there for me, and I pray to Him constantly for help, but personally, I still feel discouraged by the lack of people to talk to in person of my situations and for help as a Christian. For that is what helps me and strengthens me the most in life. I do rejoice greatly and give thanks all the time for God's blessings, but I just want someone to talk to about it. That's one reason why this forum is so helpful to me! I rarely am able to voice my desires and situations and ask for help, so this all means alot to me! Outsider wasn't exactly as some might would say, "helpful," in my last thread either, but this is not the place for bickering. Actually, the Bible says to AVOID strife (which means stress, arguments, problems, trouble, etc.), so we shouldn't talk in ways that'd inspire argumentation. Especially among us Christians!

 

[SeekingJC]

Moose at 17 you have more guts and courage than many adults that I know. Your thirst for Christ and you concern for your spiritual well being is amazingly inspiring. I'm usually saddened by your generation but you give me hope. I'm not sure if you realize this but you're unique as the platypus brother. Keep on walking in faith and doors will be thrown open for you.

God Bless Brother

 

[SeekingJC]

PS I broke a bone in my foot and its killing me

 

[MooseAura]

Moose at 17 you have more guts and courage than many adults that I know. Your thirst for Christ and you concern for your spiritual well being is amazingly inspiring. I'm usually saddened by your generation but you give me hope. I'm not sure if you realize this but you're unique as the platypus brother. Keep on walking in faith and doors will be thrown open for you.

God Bless Brother

This made me feel good about myself.
Thanks a lot for thinking that.

I too, am ashamed at the "future" of America.... Boy is this world just going down the toilet....
I'm just glad and thankful God placed me in the Christian home I was fortunate to be raised in, a good KJV bible believing and Hell preaching church that I've attended my entire life, and for the people he's placed in my path.

It blesses me to amazing extents to know I'm encouraging you!!

All I am doing in my life, is trying to become a good Christian, for I am farrrr below par right now, but I am definitely trying! And me encouraging you encouraging me encourages me!!! (If that makes any sense haha)


And I'm sorry to hear about the foot.