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1 Corinthians 7 talks about seeking a wife... not a girlfriend. Maybe that is what you are asking?
Honestly Luke, maybe you should give up looking. Just concentrate on God's will for your life, and see what happens. "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness. And all these things shall be added unto you."
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lukemission
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well the gf I was with left me and had cheeted on me so and all the girls I find and like they end up nt wanting to know me
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iTOREtheSKY
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Maybe that's exactly what God's trying to show you..."what's the point?"
Seek First His Kingdom. God knows what you need. focus on Him..pray for strength & lay all your desires at his feet.
Maybe the perfect woman for you isn't ready yet..maybe God is preparing her for you & you for her. Yer' only 25...enjoy this alone time with you & God...because if he does have a future wife and/or family in store for you,you'll never have a better opportunity than now to seek him wholeheartedly. may God continue to strengthen & bless you. Hold fast to his word dude & you WILL be blessed!
Seek First His Kingdom. God knows what you need. focus on Him..pray for strength & lay all your desires at his feet.
Maybe the perfect woman for you isn't ready yet..maybe God is preparing her for you & you for her. Yer' only 25...enjoy this alone time with you & God...because if he does have a future wife and/or family in store for you,you'll never have a better opportunity than now to seek him wholeheartedly. may God continue to strengthen & bless you. Hold fast to his word dude & you WILL be blessed!
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lukemission
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I have felt like giving up but I thought I would get some encouragement but not get told to give up 
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Ugly
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1st, you have to get over the fact that you were cheated on. Yes, its rough. But it happens. I've had a lot of bad things happen to me through relationships. But i get over it.
And as far as all these girls 'not wanting to be with you', do you know this because you're running around asking every girl out? That may be one reason no one wants to be with you.
Or are you just assuming?
The point in finding a girlfriend is to lead to marriage. If you want to be married, you'll have to take the risk of being hurt. If you don't care about being married, then there is no reason to date. But it sounds to me like you're a bit angry and bitter, between being cheated on and not being able to snag any woman you want. Dating takes time. Some people have it easy, others have to try harder.
But, as itore stated, ideally singleness is the way to go, if you can handle it. Even Paul stated this in the bible.
And as far as all these girls 'not wanting to be with you', do you know this because you're running around asking every girl out? That may be one reason no one wants to be with you.
Or are you just assuming?
The point in finding a girlfriend is to lead to marriage. If you want to be married, you'll have to take the risk of being hurt. If you don't care about being married, then there is no reason to date. But it sounds to me like you're a bit angry and bitter, between being cheated on and not being able to snag any woman you want. Dating takes time. Some people have it easy, others have to try harder.
But, as itore stated, ideally singleness is the way to go, if you can handle it. Even Paul stated this in the bible.
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lukemission
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im not angry and bitter the main reson girls end up not want to be with me and go out with me then end up marrying me is that when they find out that I am a carer for my mum they just don't want to know me and I try to exsplan to them about it and they just dont want to know me
I think that those of us who are single need to stop thinking about finding "the one" "a wife/husband" "a girl/boy friend" and work on BEING the kind of person that person would want to date/be with/spend time with/marry.
Maybe -- just maybe -- we are getting in the way of finding the right person. Maybe, without knowing it, we come across as arrogant, sad, over zealous, whatever...and therefore not the kind of person someone wants to spend time with. Maybe we are not right with God. Maybe He doesn't want us married/dating/spending time with someone special right now. Maybe we are not ready to find that special someone. God does know best!
Maybe -- just maybe -- we are getting in the way of finding the right person. Maybe, without knowing it, we come across as arrogant, sad, over zealous, whatever...and therefore not the kind of person someone wants to spend time with. Maybe we are not right with God. Maybe He doesn't want us married/dating/spending time with someone special right now. Maybe we are not ready to find that special someone. God does know best!
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arwen83
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That it will increase the potential for procreation, and isn't that the goal of every marriage?? I kid, I kid.
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Relena7
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lukemission
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Buff_Old_Guy
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The point... is companionship in my book.
To get married and have the closest friend you'll ever have.
To wake up every morning so I can turn and kiss her beautiful face.
There's also... sexual immorality... Paul says its good for a man to marry to avoid sexual immorality
Kids, those cute little boys and girls running around will be awesome to have.
Those are some reasons I'd want to marry.
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Ugly
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im not angry and bitter the main reson girls end up not want to be with me and go out with me then end up marrying me is that when they find out that I am a carer for my mum they just don't want to know me and I try to exsplan to them about it and they just dont want to know me
You should be thankful for this, not bothered. This is showing you what type of person you're dealing with. This could either be a sign of bad character, or at the very least shows shes not compatible for your lifestyle. I wouldn't waste my time trying to explain anything. If she is that turned off over something like that, then just move on. You will eventually find a woman that appreciates your actions. The problem isn't you. It's them.. or just incompatibility.
Just stop being in a hurry. It's not a race to get a girlfriend. If it happens, good, if not, that can be good too.
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Relena7
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You said you can't find a GF. So let the potential GF find you instead. Many great relationships start on accident, as friends first. Just be the best version of yourself and you may get noticed by someone. It is kind of like giving up, except that you're not. Because you stop trying but you are still open to dating....if that makes sense.
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arwen83
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I've been single for 6 years, and stopped looking for a mate. I'm trying to find fulfillment in other ways. It may be helpful for you to explore other areas of your life in which you can develop.
I have been single my entire life.
thats 31 YEARS,
when you get to 31 years single then come back and post this.
thats 31 YEARS,
when you get to 31 years single then come back and post this.
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Ariel82
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never saw the point in "looking" for a girlfriend or boyfriend in the first place. Just thought it better to look for true friendships and people you would want to know the rest of your life. The focus of life should not be on your spouse but upon God and His will for you. Marriage is just one relationship God wants you to have with someone else. He also expects you to love your parents, siblings, strangers and the whole world who is NOT your spouse. God calls for a deeper love from His children. So I don't see the point in trying to find someone whom God will place in your life when HE decides you are both mature enough to handle it.
Hmm... you may be somewhat on to something here...
"Be fruitful and multiply."
Unless God was talking about accounting, you just might be on to something here.
