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there's a difference in wanting to be with someone just to be with someone ..I think it's wise to ask yourself .. Am
I looking to get or looking to give .. If youre looking to get I would reconsider .. If your looking to give at the risk of getting nothing on return .. You may be ready... I would look at this closely .. God may still be prepare you or preparing a Partner for you... I Pray for both .. I pray God prepares me to be a great partner .."make me useable" " and is preparing someone for me... don't look for it .. But keep your heart open for God to bring them ..
I didn't think I would EVER get into another relationship .. but I listen for His voice (gods) in a person .. That is who I'm listening for .. I think this is important when keeping your heart open..
God is triune in nature .. So it is good for there to be god you and another ..that is a covenant also ..,
I believe we can bless God in many ways being in relationships .. It is written : it is not good for man to be alone ..
I'll be praying for you in this .. Blessings in Christ over you in it ..
I looking to get or looking to give .. If youre looking to get I would reconsider .. If your looking to give at the risk of getting nothing on return .. You may be ready... I would look at this closely .. God may still be prepare you or preparing a Partner for you... I Pray for both .. I pray God prepares me to be a great partner .."make me useable" " and is preparing someone for me... don't look for it .. But keep your heart open for God to bring them ..
I didn't think I would EVER get into another relationship .. but I listen for His voice (gods) in a person .. That is who I'm listening for .. I think this is important when keeping your heart open..
God is triune in nature .. So it is good for there to be god you and another ..that is a covenant also ..,
I believe we can bless God in many ways being in relationships .. It is written : it is not good for man to be alone ..
I'll be praying for you in this .. Blessings in Christ over you in it ..
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Ugly puts it into perspective here, quite well.
You're only 25, man. I know it seems like forever...but you still have forever to go. God's concept of time and our concept of time are completely different. I get impatient too, but in the end, HIS will will prevail, and there's nothing any of us can do about it. Have faith! Serve Him and trust in His providence! He hears our pleas and He knows any loneliness we might feel...but He knows what He needs from us, and we have to trust that His plan is in our best interest. Because...it is. ^_^
You're only 25, man. I know it seems like forever...but you still have forever to go. God's concept of time and our concept of time are completely different. I get impatient too, but in the end, HIS will will prevail, and there's nothing any of us can do about it. Have faith! Serve Him and trust in His providence! He hears our pleas and He knows any loneliness we might feel...but He knows what He needs from us, and we have to trust that His plan is in our best interest. Because...it is. ^_^
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Luke, I know you are seeking comfort during this time. Don't be frustrated or insulted by the responses you get here. Many, if not all of us are single and we are all at different stages in our singleness and we are all single for different reasons. None of us can tell you what to do and no one here will sugarcoat anything for you either. Honesty and bluntness may come off as rude and uncaring but no one here can say with confidence "Don't worry, bro! You'll find the right girl one day and get married and be happy forevz". I'm not sure what kind of a response you are looking for, but know that we all share singleness in common and we all want and pray for the best for each other. Luke, I pray that you do begin to feel content with where your life is at right now and bask in being single. This time is precious and you have so much to learn before you make the next big step in your life.
Luke, don't like ignore girls completely, or announce your intention to remain single, or anything like that. Just try not to focus on girls so much. If a girl stays on your mind, maybe you should pursue her, but just don't try too hard. God always comes first.
And don't forget, there are many men your age who are in a relationship or marriage who want to be where you are. If two people are not meant to be together, you labor in vain. -JIM
And don't forget, there are many men your age who are in a relationship or marriage who want to be where you are. If two people are not meant to be together, you labor in vain. -JIM
I always worry that I am about to sound brutally harsh but I do not mean anything I say in a horrible way. Please remember that.
In general (as in not specifically aimed at anyone in particular) people who really really want a gf/bf get to a stage where they don't really care who it is as long as it is someone. That is not the road to happiness. I also don't think we should rely on others for our happiness so my advice here and to anyone else is probably this, learn to live with yourself before thinking about living with someone else.
If you have problems or issues that you need to work on then do that, of course couples grow together but it is good to start with a solid base. If you are unhappy with yourself or your life then work towards changing it, yourself.
Basically, if you are in a good place then you are able to give more, as I think powemm said, if you just want to get then now is maybe not the right time.
Again I hope this whole reply didn't sound horrible, if so please re-read in Smurfettes voice and it will sound better.
In general (as in not specifically aimed at anyone in particular) people who really really want a gf/bf get to a stage where they don't really care who it is as long as it is someone. That is not the road to happiness. I also don't think we should rely on others for our happiness so my advice here and to anyone else is probably this, learn to live with yourself before thinking about living with someone else.
If you have problems or issues that you need to work on then do that, of course couples grow together but it is good to start with a solid base. If you are unhappy with yourself or your life then work towards changing it, yourself.
Basically, if you are in a good place then you are able to give more, as I think powemm said, if you just want to get then now is maybe not the right time.
Again I hope this whole reply didn't sound horrible, if so please re-read in Smurfettes voice and it will sound better.
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Luke, I know I said nobody can tell you what to do but since you are insisting answers I'll give you my thoughts on what to do... even though I don't know you or know your dating history.
Now is the time as a single young man to use your "solitude" and singleness to your advantage. Go to church (if you don't already go) because the church needs more single young men. I made a post about the lack of single men in the church a few weeks back addressing this and some of the guys here had some great input. If you don't go to church then read that thread.
Read the bible. If you have already read it then study it. Get involved in a small group and study it with other young men. Surround yourself with lots of young men and older men to (they could mentor you).
Give yourself quiet time to talk to God, express your feelings and desires to Him and don't expect instant answers, but if you ask questions you WILL 100% get answers even if it takes longer than you expect.
I guess in short... don't actively "seek" women to date right now. Do as much as possible to focus on where your relationship is with God at this point because when you are in a relationship things will change and it may get a little more complicated to get closer to God (for some it's the opposite but that is few). If you're too caught up with chasing skirts then you will meet all sorts of girls who just aren't right for you. Don't date for the sake of dating. Be a man of integrity! There are a lot of women out there but not all of them are right for you... and you only want one, so make sure she's not just anybody.
Now is the time as a single young man to use your "solitude" and singleness to your advantage. Go to church (if you don't already go) because the church needs more single young men. I made a post about the lack of single men in the church a few weeks back addressing this and some of the guys here had some great input. If you don't go to church then read that thread.
Read the bible. If you have already read it then study it. Get involved in a small group and study it with other young men. Surround yourself with lots of young men and older men to (they could mentor you).
Give yourself quiet time to talk to God, express your feelings and desires to Him and don't expect instant answers, but if you ask questions you WILL 100% get answers even if it takes longer than you expect.
I guess in short... don't actively "seek" women to date right now. Do as much as possible to focus on where your relationship is with God at this point because when you are in a relationship things will change and it may get a little more complicated to get closer to God (for some it's the opposite but that is few). If you're too caught up with chasing skirts then you will meet all sorts of girls who just aren't right for you. Don't date for the sake of dating. Be a man of integrity! There are a lot of women out there but not all of them are right for you... and you only want one, so make sure she's not just anybody.
