Oh boy, I don’t know what I did today. Ok, so I work for a bank and I want to transfer to another branch because well, I’ve been having issues with my current manager. The problem is I guess, I shouldn’t have specified exactly why I wanted to transfer to this other manager, because I was put in a very embarrassing situation. Let me give you some background info first.
Basically my current boss has been asking me out probably ever since I started working there but he always said it jokingly, matter of fact he says everything jokingly so most of the time ppl can’t really tell whether he is serious or not; He has a lot of sex jokes that make me feel very uncomfortable as a Christian and as a person, but everybody else usually laugh at it. I’m the one that’s “too serious” according to all my coworkers but really, I’ve never worked with somebody like that before. However, about a month ago, he definitely went too far with me.
He followed me to my car and as I got inside, he jumped in on the passenger side and startled me. I was really in shock, so I finally told him yes we can go out to a restaurant but it had to be right at the moment; he wasn’t ready so he asked me to text him my address later that night. I did agree, so that he could get off my car. To my huge surprise, he texted me with an interrogation mark about an hour and a half after, he was waiting for me to send my address. I realized this man is REALLY serious. I didn’t sleep that night and that was the turning point for me. The next day I told him not to text me anymore otherwise I am calling HR on him. And I said that in front of everybody because they KNOW what is going on (mind you none of my coworkers reacted to that-this is another subject I will talk about separately). He got mad and told me he was joking with me- (I didn’t buy it of course). I was in an abusive relationship before and feel like I have to defend myself now if I feel threatened like that, so I guess people may feel like I overreacted. This happened over a month ago. Since then we don’t talk to each other at work and the situation is very tense. I just can’t stand him anymore
So I asked to transfer to this other branch two days ago, and I really couldn’t find anything else to say than the truth to this other manager. It really just came out. I told him my manager asked me out. I didn’t go into the details but he asked me to talk to HR, I said noway. But I would have never thought that he would take it to the district manager. So this morning, he came to our branch and called me to the office; I was in shocked when he asked if it was true, so I first said no, and then I said yes. He got mad coz I lied in to him in the first place but really I didn’t mean to throw the guy under the bus. I just wanted a transfer, OMG! He asked me to write a statement basically explaining what I said earlier. I didn’t lie but I Really didn’t want to take it this far. I did tell him the guy stopped harassing me when I told him I was gonna call HR. I don’t want him to lose his job because of me.
I really don’t feel good about all this I don’t know what I should do. The DM also told me somebody will contact me to investigate this. Any advices for me???
Thanks a lot!
