how do you know.....?

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how do you know that men who want to get closer with you are not serious and just want to play your feelings, then take advantage of you.
 
You don't let them take advantage of you.

Then only time will tell.
 
You can't. The only thing you can do is protect yourself and if he tries anything tell him to put it back in his pants or take a hike with his hiney hanging out.
 
Pray to God that he will match make you with the right person.
 
To be honest you can't. its the same other way round that us men can't tell if a woman us messing with the heart. all you can do, is to protect your heart, as you have only one. and share little bit of your love each day, many women and men they go in all blazes with there hearts, then something happens then they split. then heart broken. Let your hear grow for each other little by little each day. that way you won't get hurt as much if the big split is on the cards. But you can rely on God to be your match maker? he knows the right one for you. Just trust in him. God bless
 
Instinct, intuition, God trying to get your attention...call it what you will, but sometimes you get the feeling that a guy is not quite what he's portraying himself to be.

Don't ever disregard those feelings.

Other than that, yeah, what they said ^^^
 
First, try getting to know them slower.

Next, try getting to know their friends, and their church community... get to know others who know them.
 
People are getting really good at taking advantage of others now days... as many have said, get to know them as best as you can!
 
"Actions speak louder than words." Know your boundaries and keep them. Have fun and ask questions, watch and listen. Other than that, you don't know for certain. No one does. You make the best choices and decisions you can based on knowledge and experience. Pray, worship and ask forgiveness for failings. That's it. Good luck.
 
Look for those subtle signs that he's just in it for you know what.
 
Learning to recognize the Holy Spirit certainly helps. Being the part of the trinity living in you, it can and does direct your feelings and thoughts. It's not easy, I haven't come close to perfecting it, but there is endless power within you. Learning to listen to it, letting it guide you, will help you in all aspects of life.
 
The closer you are to the Lord, the less likely it will happen. If you're praying about it from the beginning, God is faithful to give you an answer. Strange how I hear some of these answers from Christians who talk like God doesn't even exist.:rolleyes:
 
How Will I Know - Whitney Houston

How will I know if he really loves me
I say a prayer with every heart beat
I fall in love whenever we meet
I'm asking you what you know about these things

[video=youtube;m3-hY-hlhBg]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m3-hY-hlhBg[/video]
 
Only way to tell is time. The longer he has to wait, the pushier he will get.
Or, you could avoid men you know nothing about so you don't have to wonder about their motives.
I like observing people i take interest in, maybe find out a little about them from others, see how others speak about her. That way, before i even get invested, i've done some 'homework' and have, at least an idea, of what her reputation is. And then i still take it slow and become good friends before dating. A user will earn a reputation most of the time, and won't take time to be friends first.
 
trianiqi said:
how do you know that men who want to get closer with you are not serious and just want to play your feelings, then take advantage of you.
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You have to learn to watch for little red flags..


- Is he always considerate of your feelings or does he seem to not care about how you feel, or is he always apologizing for hurting you (which is bad too)?

- How does he treat other people, especially when you are in public. Is he rude?

- How does he treat his mother?

- How often does he go out of his way to make you feel special, or does he even do that at all?


That should give you an idea of whether he might be worthy of your love or not.
God bless.
 
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maxwel said:
First, try getting to know them slower.

Next, try getting to know their friends, and their church community... get to know others who know them.
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This is great advice. I learned this lesson the hard way in my last relationship. If I had paid attention to his friends, the people in his life... I could have saved myself some serious heartache. But praise God because he works all things out for good.
 
thanks all, but i was do all like all you said be his friend, praying, know each other, etc, but man still play with my felling and take advantage too....
 
i would google him. Just kidding! Well, the only way is to pray about and and ask God for his direction. If it's wrong for you, you will definitely won't have the peace of God.
 
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