What is your opinion on gay couples adopting?

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Studentjamie

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My name is Jamie, I am in College majoring In social behavior. For one of my classes im doing a big research report about people's opinion on gay couples adopting children. I have chosen the Christian community because of the stereotypical views A majority of people have. I'm also interviewing the gay communities so I can get two different sides of the argument. Please leave your opinion or directly email me at [email protected]. Thank you for your time!
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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Hey Jamie,

My position is difficult to verbalize. A [Christian] family member of mine has chosen this lifestyle, and he and his partner recently adopted a young boy. I've no doubt they can provide a loving home for him, and after what the cute little tyke has been through with his mother and father (I use the titles loosely), it's heart warming to see that being provided.

But I still recognize the sin.

I should hope they (homosexuals in general) wouldn't impose on the child adopting a likewise sexual preference because they have. Rather, I think they should be as objectively conducive and loving regardless of what the child chooses. Therefore, I don't know that I can express that it is morally careless or abominable strictly in homosexuals adopting. My stance is akin to a heterosexual couple's influence on their offspring: Christian or not, lead by example, and let your child choose their own path. You can rebuke, you can disapprove, and you can criticize, but all can be done objectively, out of love. After all, our heavenly Father gives us the gift of His word, and of choice. I believe we can likewise provide, despite our bias or dogma.

I'm not usually that descriptive, but for the sake of your study, I hope that helps. :) God bless, Jamie.
 
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Studentjamie

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I want to thank you for you opinion! It is very well stated and descriptive. I might quote you in my studies. Thank you again.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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I want to thank you for you opinion! It is very well stated and descriptive. I might quote you in my studies. Thank you again.
You're welcome! Whether you quote me or don't, I would love to sample your work (at your discretion). Best wishes to you for delving into a sensitive topic, and I hope you find what you're looking for. :)
 
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Hey Jamie,

My position is difficult to verbalize. A [Christian] family member of mine has chosen this lifestyle, and he and his partner recently adopted a young boy. I've no doubt they can provide a loving home for him, and after what the cute little tyke has been through with his mother and father (I use the titles loosely), it's heart warming to see that being provided.

But I still recognize the sin.

I should hope they (homosexuals in general) wouldn't impose on the child adopting a likewise sexual preference because they have. Rather, I think they should be as objectively conducive and loving regardless of what the child chooses. Therefore, I don't know that I can express that it is morally careless or abominable strictly in homosexuals adopting. My stance is akin to a heterosexual couple's influence on their offspring: Christian or not, lead by example, and let your child choose their own path. You can rebuke, you can disapprove, and you can criticize, but all can be done objectively, out of love. After all, our heavenly Father gives us the gift of His word, and of choice. I believe we can likewise provide, despite our bias or dogma.

I'm not usually that descriptive, but for the sake of your study, I hope that helps. :) God bless, Jamie.
For the most part I agree with this analysis. The primary focus of my concern, however, is the unavoidable affects of growing up in such an environment. When I look at the person I've become, it was extensively influenced by my parents. Not by things they said, not by things they taught, but by things they did and by their very relationship itself. I have no doubt that they could provide for the emotional and physical needs of a child; I have some questions and some doubts about the child's future. I think they may be forcing the child into a more complicated religious path, and unavoidably so.

It doesn't seem right to deny such an adoption for two responsible parents. But I would never wish a non-christian, or especially a controversial christian, childhood on anyone. I guess in many cases it is probably the "lesser of two evils".

In the end, God is the one with the power and understanding, I do believe that He can use any situation, but I don't think that makes it ideal still.
 
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LiseStubbs

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My religious upbringing was precarious to say the least. I was christened before my first surgery and I went to a jehovahs witness church because the choir director was a friend of my mothers and wanted me to sing. My maternal grandmother was Anglican and my maternal Grandfather was of Jewish heritage. I believe there was some christian influence on my father's side, as my P-Grandmother gave me a children's bed time story bible when I was little.
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My belief in the Bible and it's teaching aren't as historical fact, I'm not orthodox or evangelical in the least. It's more of moral teaching and lifestyle lessons to live by.

If two people, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, religion or culture, want to adopt a child and will provide a stable, caring and structured home; then by all means do so. Someone else's religious or cultural beliefs should not dictate who is capable to providing for a child.
 
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This is quite a difficult topic to pinpoint. So really, my opinion is split. I know that homosexuality is a sin, but I don't know whether it would be the worst thing if a gay couple were to adopt. I mean, we all sin so, why is it specifically homosexuals who are in question? Should a person who drinks excessively be allowed to adopt? What about someone who has been divorced? Those are sins as well, that could make an impression on the child. I think that any person who is fit to be a parent, who acts like a parent, who wants to have a child for the right reasons, and so on should be able to adopt. What about all of the straight women and men out there who only adopt for the money? Granted, homosexuals may do this as well, so really are you winning either way if we discriminate against one? There are too many children who are left without homes, parents, and a childhood. Just the other day, I read a woman left seven kids at her home and never returned. Their ages ranged from 3 to 12. If you were to tell me that there was a homosexual couple out there who could provide them with a home, love, and a good upbringing, why wouldn't we say yes?

Now on the other side, I agree with Lightening. The way our parents act is most likely going to make the biggest impression on us while we're children. I am not saying that 'gay is contagious' by any means. However, it could be more accepted and normal for the child since they were raised with two same-sex parents. When we think things are okay or accepted, we're more likely to try it. Now, that doesn't mean that they'll automatically be homosexual. I do believe it may be slightly confusing to the child, if they were raised to be Christian and knowing that being homosexual is a sin, yet their parents are doing it.
I guess there has to be a point with every individual where they make the choice, regardless if their parents are of the same sex or not. Could it be influenced by that, possibly. Though, I believe once we grow up, there is a point where we can rightfully decide for ourselves.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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It's weird.

And yes, you can quote me on that ;)
 
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Such an act( Homosexuality) is evil and for a child to be brought up in such an environment will be catastrophic to the child growth and behavior. I totality disagree for gay couples to adopt children.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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The primary focus of my concern, however, is the unavoidable affects of growing up in such an environment. I have some questions and some doubts about the child's future...
Aye, I empathize with this concern also.

Such an act( Homosexuality) is evil and for a child to be brought up in such an environment will be catastrophic to the child growth and behavior. I totality disagree for gay couples to adopt children.
Be careful about broad brushing things; there are heterosexual couples wrought with their own sin that are no more fit for parenting than a homosexual couple is, as lookwhatthelordhasdone threw out there. The exception may not be the rule, but on the same token, I think umbrella condemnation can be unwise.
 
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flight316

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Gay this, gay that, gay, gay,gay. The answer is no. God hasn't changed the rules. Man is trying to change God's rules. God doesn't want you to be gay let alone being gay and raising children.
 
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It's really hard to figure out the majority christian perspective on this issue because it's so divisive. The mood here tends to be much more conservative. It really depends on what denomination/sect you ask, and even then it can vary between congregations. For example, an ELCA Lutheran is much more likely to not have any problem with gay marriage, gay adoption or gays in general, whereas a Missouri Synod is more likely to have the opposite view. But I know Missouri Synod Lutherans who have no problem with it at all. Age is also a huge factor.

Basically all I'm saying is that watch for biases! It's hard to get a general picture especially with a limited data set, so make sure you note any shifts in your data. Though I'm sure since your majoring in sociology, you already knew this :p Good luck!
 
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My inner pharisee wants peace. My earthly self couldn't care less.

 
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Jodyjo42

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Well first and foremost, the bible condones homosexuality. Therefore it is sin. Anything that is sin is not pleasing in the eyes of God. For two gay people to adopt, I believe that they know what they are doing is wrong so in order to make it seem like homosexuality is okay, they decide to adopt. The bible says “Train up a child in the way they should go and then they will not depart"(paraphrasing here). A child will become confused if they have two moms/dads.
 
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Sideburns

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Romans 1:18-32

King James Version (KJV)

[SUP]18 [/SUP]For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold the truth in unrighteousness;
[SUP]19 [/SUP]Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them.
[SUP]20 [/SUP]For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse:
[SUP]21 [/SUP]Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.
[SUP]22 [/SUP]Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools,
[SUP]23 [/SUP]And changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and fourfooted beasts, and creeping things.
[SUP]24 [/SUP]Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:
[SUP]25 [/SUP]Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.
[SUP]26 [/SUP]For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
[SUP]27 [/SUP]And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.
[SUP]28 [/SUP]And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;
[SUP]29 [/SUP]Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
[SUP]30 [/SUP]Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
[SUP]31 [/SUP]Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
[SUP]32 [/SUP]Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.


Jude 1:7-8"
Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.","Likewise also these filthy dreamers defile the flesh, despise dominion, and speak evil of dignities"
 

Nautilus

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Well first and foremost, the bible condones homosexuality. Therefore it is sin. Anything that is sin is not pleasing in the eyes of God. For two gay people to adopt, I believe that they know what they are doing is wrong so in order to make it seem like homosexuality is okay, they decide to adopt. The bible says “Train up a child in the way they should go and then they will not depart"(paraphrasing here). A child will become confused if they have two moms/dads.
I know plenty of people who grew up with either 2 moms or 2 dads. theyve said it really wasnt a big deal. Certainly not confusing.
 
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Kisses1990

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Gay couples should absolutely be allowed to adopt! Those deemed most fit for the job are the best candidates. If a gay couple happen to be successful, loving, and not abusive, then perhaps they would be a far superior choice for a parent than a straight couple. Sexual preference has nothing to do with being a kind, loving, and devoted parent. Some christians seem to not realize this.
 
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MissCris

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This whole topic...

No. Just no.
 
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livingepistle

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My name is Jamie, I am in College majoring In social behavior. For one of my classes im doing a big research report about people's opinion on gay couples adopting children. I have chosen the Christian community because of the stereotypical views A majority of people have. I'm also interviewing the gay communities so I can get two different sides of the argument. Please leave your opinion or directly email me at [email protected]. Thank you for your time!
You opened this thread somewhere else in the CC. Now I am curious, are you a "Christian"?