THE One or A One?

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I believe that...

  • There is only ONE right person for me

    Votes: 6 31.6%

  • There's any number of 'right' people for me

    Votes: 12 63.2%

  • Other (please specify)

    Votes: 1 5.3%
  • Total voters
    19
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JennJA1985

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#21
#21
This concept is something I am struggling with. I dated a guy about 6 months ago... we talked marriage and I love you's...it seemed like he was 'the one.' I had been proposed to previously by other guys, but it never felt right. He felt right... then he sends the break up text: 'Jenn your not into me...your just in love with the idea of me...I think we should go our separate ways...' The finality of the text...the excluding me from that decision was heart breaking. I became closer to God after this. God kept speaking his words 'Be still and know that I am God....Take heart and strength in me...WAIT ON ME'. Then out of nowhere he messages me about 2 months ago and starts talking to me, we were just friends. We hung out, everything was great then he says Jenn I love you. Which, I was ecstatic at… my one just said I LOVE YOU…then he starts talking marriage again…he came down spent the day with my Friday and everything was going great. Next day…communication halts….no more I love you’s…barely two words…and its like a repeat process...though I haven't recieved a breakup text... I'm just confused...I don't understand what the catch is...either way I have to believe that God has a plan for me...and he knows who my one is...and he placed this guy in my life for a reason even if it turns out he isn't my one. He asked me when my next doc appointment is with my breast mass...it's not cancer... or they aren't saying it is...but I'm like you knew about this before you started dating me again...what's the deal? *so freaking concerned and annoyed and don't understand whats going on...i'm having to rely on God's understanding not my own.
 
maxwel

maxwel

Senior Member
#22
Apr 18, 2013
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#22
I think the question has a faulty premise.

I think we need to put God back into the question.
So the question isn't, "Is there one right person for you?", but rather
"Does God have someone planned for you?"

If God has someone planned for you, then clearly that is the "right" person for you.
If God does NOT have someone planned for you, then God must not be active in your life...
and this raises a lot of theological questions.

I think putting God back into our questions often gives us the answer to our questions.
 
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Liamson

Liamson

Senior Member
#23
Feb 3, 2010
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#23
I believe that God can help us find someone to marry.

I don't believe that He has designated someone for whom we are to be Wed from the foundations of the world and throughout the ages of time. My wife is not NEO and my Marriage is not the Matrix. I don't believe in Marital Predestination either, that I should fall in love and be married to someone whether I had any say in it or not.
 
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OceanGrl

Guest
#24
#24
Liamson said:
I believe that God can help us find someone to marry.

I don't believe that He has designated someone for whom we are to be Wed from the foundations of the world and throughout the ages of time. My wife is not NEO and my Marriage is not the Matrix. I don't believe in Marital Predestination either, that I should fall in love and be married to someone whether I had any say in it or not.
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I agree, I don't think that there is just one person out there that is the only person we are meant to be with. I think there could be multiple options and it is up to us to decide who best fits. There was a great sermon by James McDonald I listened once, where he was trying to argue the fact that not everything is predestined. Some people think that if A does not lead to B, that they missed out on something and screwed up their whole life trajectory, but that is not the case.
 
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