Online (long-distance) relationships. Can THEY marionette out to become true love ?

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Do you understand the responsibility of online love's reality, how far would you go?

  • Yes, I understand online love's potential heartache and responsibility, I would go if God said 'go'

    Votes: 17 81.0%
  • Yes, I understand online love's potential heartache and resp., I would not go 1000+ miles even if Go

    Votes: 4 19.0%

  • Total voters
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chu_huifen

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#21
If God already choose spouse for us, no matter how far they are, I believe God will provide the way, cause relationship is based on faith and commitment :)
 
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GreenNnice

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#22
Love is not about distance but faithfulness and commitment :)
If God already choose spouse for us, no matter how far they are, I believe God will provide the way, cause relationship is based on faith and commitment :)
Here's how faith sounds to me: Together, girl , we can do anything, just you believe in me and know I believe unquestably in our living God who will see us through as we commit and believe in His ways for our life.

This situation would be AFTER marriage, because before marriage, I just think the girl MUST follow and seek God with all her heart as she desperately , crazily, impassionately follows the guy to the altar. The Lord leads.
 
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OFM

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#23
If God already choose spouse for us, no matter how far they are, I believe God will provide the way, cause relationship is based on faith and commitment :)

i fully totally
agree with this
this is so very much
alot spiritually true amen.
 
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#24
does anybody remember pagie on here we met here on cc 6 years ago and he came to canada from australia to meet me 3 years ago and he went home back to australia 7 months later it didn't work out and hes now engaged to be married and I'm happy for him. I wouldn't move to another country for a guy and leave all my friends family and my job. I'd rather find someone in Canada lol
 
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born2serve

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#25
hmm.. for me, long distance relationship is good if both of you are faithful and praying for the hope that you will meet and be together someday. A lot of foreign (Western) guys look and search for Asian women because they do believe that Asian women are better than the women in their country (no offense to the ladies.. it's what i got from the foreign guys). Many websites for dating Asian women are already seen in the internet.. And a lot of testimonies I have read that most of foreign guys who chose Asian women were happy in their marriage now. So I think long distance relationship really works.. :DDistance is just a number of how far you are both living.. but TRUE LOVE will find your ways to be together no matter how hard and what it cost you, if its God's will, He will brought you together.. Some of true to life Christian stories that I read and inspired me have been into a long distance relationship too.. I remember one said "the more you are both far from each other, the more your love and faithfulness will be tested and will keep your relationship stronger"...:p .. I go for it!
 
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Chrissy77

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#26
At the present time, I would not be able to move to marry a man from another country or state because of my children. They come first and whatever sacrifice I must make is well worth it. They deserve to have two parents even if we aren't in the same house.

Saying that though, I would get into a relationship with a man across the United States or from another country. I would be willing to travel to share the responsibility of visiting each other so that we can get to know one another better. I would be willing to be in a long term relationship and have them move to NY.
 
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AroseinGodsgarden

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#27
Love is not about distance but faithfulness and commitment :)
True love does not base on distance, age, ethnicity, financial instability, with or without job... It is based on the will of God. If God has meant for two persons to be together, He will have a way to make it happen despite all. From there, He will smoothen things out for the two He has united. If one or both don't want to get together, it easily means it is not His will because all is in His purposes, His control, He determines. [TABLE="class: mainbk, width: 100%, align: center"]
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Chrissy77

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#28
Why didn't someone point out I was responding to an old thread? I try to make sure that doesn't happen when people respond and make it hit the front page again. Where is Ugly when you need him to point these things out? Grrrrr.. That what I get for getting online when I am tired. lol
 
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kessy001

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#29
Long distance relationship do work but its for the Strong-willed. Its always best to count your cost before you start, less u start and then turn back...probably due to several discouraging factors. Be ready to go all the way...but also be prepared to get hurt, cos you will. Be sure God is leading you. Very importantly, work at making the long distance as short as possible at the fastest possible time.
 
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Samohito

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#30
my opinion : If God willing, everything will be possible! no matter what, how far your distance IF GOD says; he/she is your soul mate , your another half of your rib, your life partner, no one can STOP you to fall in love with her/him or separate you both.
 
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GreenNnice

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#31
21 for.
5 against.

I'm 'for,' by the way, I'm understanding, too, but wondering how 'the 5' could say no to God's leadinf them away? Is it because there is no way they are driving that far cuz they don't have a license , or, not liking plane'flying so not going or??


Anyway, the Lord leads, we should follow Him.'

For me the desire to go would be great, distinct signs, I don't want to say I would be 'doubting Thomas' otherwise, but, I have no doubt, I would.
 
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Powemm

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#32
Me and the man God has intended?

Oh you can bet .. God in us are gonna move mountains , I
Mean they'll be moving before we even take a step..
I'm That confident in My God :)
 
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Sarah1979

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#33
Hi :) All in all, yes. I met my ex husband (him being now an ex has nothing to do with us meeting online). Long story short: We met on a Christian website 13 years ago. He was in the States, I was in Finland. We chatted a lot, for hours a day and got along really well. Then we started to call each other on the phone (there was no Skype at the time) and chatted on msn, every day. We fell in love and talked about getting married. We knew each other this way for just over a year when I finally graduated from college and went to the Stated to meet him face to face. He was just like I knew him to be and he thought the same of me. We married 6 months later. We were happily married for years. If you love the person, distance is just something to travel to get to the other person :) I think at the end of the day, it doesn't matter or make a big difference if you travel to another state or to another country, just takes longer :)
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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#34
Well speaking as one who went through this..they can work out..but it is incredibly hard. I met my (now ex-wife) through a few mutual friends..we spent nearly a year and a half talking on the phone & online. She lived in England. I finally went to see her & was there a few months,then came back home to the U.S. durring that time we'd made plans to get married. I was going to relocate over there,but she decided she wanted to come here,which I found odd,as she had all her family & friends she'd be leaving behind,and have to sell her home & some of her things..but she insisted that's what she wanted to do. We spent thousands of dollars between lawyers & paperwork fees,background checks..you name it..we did it all by the book..this was all fresh on the heels of the aftermath of 9-11 mind you. So I went back to the UK & we got married over there. Then came the hard part...2 weeks after the wedding,I come back to the U.S. alone,because by law we had to wait 6 months I think it was before she could physically come over..mean time she was waiting on the sale of her home..giving stuff away she didn't/couldn't bring..etc..etc... So we spent nearly the 1st year of our marriage APART,talking on the phone & internet again,until she could get here. Then of course..we were married for 9 years,until she asked for a divorce. She hated it her,wasn't in love with me anymore...missed her fam & friends..etc... They visited 2 or 3 times a year,plus she'd go back there randomly..but it wasn't enough. And to top it all off,she was for the most part an Atheist. So...being married to a an unbeliever,it was pretty much destined for failure...but still..even if you find mr. or mrs. "right"..the ideal christian match...be prepared to make many many sacrifices,financially and emotionally even more so if they live overseas.
 
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I just liked to congrats those who voted positively! It is risky, but safe if compared to "the risk" some have found meeting people same corner or state... I have traveled to meet someone abroad, and YOUR experience would help others, as well as you.
 
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@Itorethesky! Wow! It is amazing! Your story looks like mine, but i spent less and suffered less... Allow me to copy it! I thought MINE was "unbearable", but I see YOU ARE STRONGER than me. Congrats! You are really big.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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@Itorethesky! Wow! It is amazing! Your story looks like mine, but i spent less and suffered less... Allow me to copy it! I thought MINE was "unbearable", but I see YOU ARE STRONGER than me. Congrats! You are really big.
LOL...not sure why you'd want to copy it,but whatever floats yer' boat. I'm hardly a stronger person,I just realized there's nothing I can do. I'm pretty pathetic & worthless without God,and he's the only one who can redeem all the stupid things I've done in my life to myself & others. I realize that I may never be given the chance again to be with someone due to my poor choices & where I've put myself in life,but I still Love God & I certainly don't blame him for the how's or the why's of things. Who am I to question The Living God or dare hold Him accountable for my failures. He is merciful beyond words,indeed.
 
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Powemm

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#38
All I see now is going over hurdles .. Not letting them stop me.. With God all things are possible :)
 

Fenner

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I I was involved with 2 long distance relationships, not at the same time. Both where 2 hours away, I wasn't right for them and they weren't right for me. My husband and I were a long distance for a while, but his family and friends lived here. So eventually he moved here. It can work if there is a plan. It was lonely and hard though.

If I was single I wouldn't do it again. It's way to hard.