Living a pure life after living a life of sin

[Valzz]

Hi guys, I'd firstly like to say I'm so greatful to have come accross this site and forums!!

I'm currently struggling in my walk with Christ and everyday it just criples me inside. I grew up in a Christian home, like many, going to church every Sunday with my family, but Salvation was never a personal decision I made. I decided to become a Christian in 2009 after a life of much sin, even so I've been living a life of compromise and being a lukewarm Christian. I still continued living in fornication among other things. I'm at a point where I want to leave it all and puruse a life of purity and the righteousness of God.

What makes it harder for me personally is not having Christian friends, but my old friends that I used to drink and party with. Sometimes it seems like the worldy life was more fun, I know its not supposed to be like that, I'll be at my place as bored as ever because of trying to avoid partying and all, then find myself so tempted to go out with them because I'm just so bored!

Can you guys please advise me on how to fight that? I'm no longer in a relationship, because I'm trying to live a life that pleases God... Will it have any meaning for me to now step back and say I want to refrain from sex until I get married?

 

[jonrambo]

ive been through all of that and always happy to chat. i still dont have christian friends. but being a strong christian is about being close with God not friends. its great to find the right church but also esy to get mislead if you go to the wrong one. just work on yourself for now. God always frogive those who love him repent and flee their sin. Your doing well. chin up!

 

[Colinde]

I don't have a solution for you unfortunately but I really understand what you're going through. I completely understand since I feel the same way. Christianity wasn't improtant for me for about 10 years or so, and now I have God in my heart again, it makes me feeling kind of lonely with these feelings. I have no Christian friends, the only person I can talk about God is my mother. And now, fortunately, the people on this website. And I completely agree with the comment from jonrambo: YOU'RE DOING WELL!! Really. Bless you.

Edit:
It's hard to avoid partying, it's a big part of 'society' and we people don't want to be 'out of society'. Maybe it will work for you to find other people around you? Which doesn't mean you have to break with your old friends. But it can be easier for you to be surrounded by people who feel and know what you feel and know.

 

[shae0104]

I started dinner parties with themes specific times sometimes no alcohol sometimes with I also volunteer and then I prayed to have the desire to want to pray for tgw sin that I struggled with. I'm waiting as u are. I still have fun. I just do things differently
I also have a group I am close with at church if u don't have one do a guess who's coming to dinner Party and invite random people from church

 

[JimJimmers]

Valzz, I just want to say that it absolutely does mean something to abstain, no matter from what point. Just because you have sinned doesn't mean it has a hold on you. God bless! -JIM

 

[lan12]

Hmmmm. First i will like to say that seek ye first the kingdom of God and all his righteousness will be added unto you. No one can tell you how to live but I can share my experience with you . What I started to do was to have a renewed mindset I decided to submit it all no matter what and God did the rest. When i became a christian all the bad stuff didnt immediately go awy only when i obey the prompting of the holy spirit and truly believe Changes staarted to be made through the holy spirit. Becoming a christian is a daily walk of growing and learning hun.......Daily reading of the bible .continous praying and fasting ,fellowshiping with brothers and sisters in christ then I saw God removing those who not adding to my life he separated them and brought christian friends all my friends are christians now and those who are not after talking with me soon after gave their lifes to God . What I can suggest is to find your self in church a good bible teaching church .Sin is sweet you have to ask yourself the question is this kind of temporal happiness i want or an everlasting joy of pleasing God.....Girl the days are counting down and I personally want to serve God with all my heart and soul because I cannot give life to a devil who only is seeking to kill and destroy but a God who is going to giv eme life and life abundantly his love is unconditional he also said he will never leave us nor forsake us ......

 

[lan12]

If you want christian friend s girl ask God to send them ...........God siad you have not because you ask not.being a christian is a holy praise annoitng party ........I go to parties but christian concerts , birthday parties and we sing and praise with our worship songs why do ppl think when u become a christian ur life is boring not at all.........i wish u guys were here.lol lovoing Jesus is awesome

 

[Blessedandhighlyfavoured]

Hi Valzz! Blessings to you. We ∕̴ƖLL may have fallen short, but God is good. My story is much similar to yours! I too have been trying to rededicated my life to God. I am still trying to get out of my past 5 month relationship with my non- Christian boyfriend. But trust me, it has not been easy. I have left him- believe it or not, just lasr night. And although I miss him, I tell myself God has something much greater in store for me- this, too, shall pass. And besides, God does not want for us to compramise our Salvation. He is coming soon, and I Definitely don't wanna be left behind. So, as a young Christian, its better to walk in the way of the Lord, my friend. You made the right choice! And God Bless you... Seeing that we are both on the same page, we can definitely embrace our new transition with each other's help! U can pm me, or feel free to connect with me on bb: 282A74FA. Anything to help another sister in Christ. We need to be strongly untiied, against a world of sin. God Bless you, again.

 

[Valzz]

Thank you so much to everyone for their words of encouragement and advise. Atleast now I know that abstinence won't be in vain, its one of the things I was really not sure about, I always felt like it was a kind of stigma over my head to purse purity after the life I've lived.

I really appreciate all you guys have said. I did find a great spirit filled and Bible based church in 2011, I was put into leadership and this month asked to be taken out because I really can't give what I don't have and couldn't continue facing people in such hypocrisy.

Shae, thanks for the ideas! ... I've been looking for an orphanage to volunteer at, lol I doubt I make a good host for the get togthers.

Ian, don't worry! Soon I'll be joining you on that level of joy!! It is what I truly and deeply desire! It was a reality in my life when my life still gloried God, I miss it so much, but now no turning back! I'm chasing rightouesness and His Kingdom like never before

Blessed, thank you so much for the support sister. I will definitely connect with you. Pls be encouraged! God bless.

 

[ifgodbeforus]

Hello I was just passing by when I saw this msg. Will the bible made me to understand if we confuse our sins and forsake them we are a new creature old things has pasts away all things becomes new. Bear it I mind that nothing good comes easy so u have to be strong and stand firm for him, Tell him to come into ur life nd take control of ever off ur activities. Make new friends that have the fear of God in them. Have a nice Day.

 

[Nuns_n_roses]

One of the greatest joys of being a Christian is you are cleansed from your past!

A woman who was going to be stoned for committing adultery with a man other than her husband was shown mercy by Jesus. Jesus let her go! He hung out with prostitutes and all sorts of people with awful reputations... As such he will forgive all who have committed sin but come to him! You are free, and yes abstaining has a lot of value. Anyone who tries to tell you different is not of the Lord!

God bless you sister! For how the Heavens rejoice at the lost lamb finding it's way home!

 

[flight316]

Pray to God. He will give you the desires of your heart. Change your environment. Be social, just don't get drunk.adapt to walking with Christ. Understand the journey. You can't do what everybody elsse does when you represent the kingdom.hold on tight. The journey gets rough sometime. You'll be fine.

 

[annelie]

Wouw the response isn't only for you, I'm also touched by the words of wisdom, leading to the way the truth and the life, though I'm not coming from a sin but I find myself backsliding and asking God somany questions Y but I'm uplifted, stay blessed!

 

[secularhermit]

Uff! Imagine how John The Baptist lived or Jesus. Sansom enjoyed "life" and he was "Nazarean"... I rather like being this urban hermit. Je! Je!

 

[notconformed2theworld]

I was the same way...I would party Saturday and "praise" God Sunday...I would sin and then act holy...I felt so convicted.I was to the point where I thought I could not live holy, stop drinking, smoking weed, cursing, stealing lying cheating doing other crazy stuff. I was like "well nothing I can do, I'll just die and go to hell" its like I almost gave up, well I did, satan had me so confused but thats his job. but one day God paid me a visit and quickend my spirit. u must realize that we humans can't do it on our own and it takes a supernatural regeneration of our soul to change. What I did was pray...continue to go to church and continue to read the Bible. There is power in the word of God as long as its mixed with faith. So much power that it can and will changed a person overnight just as Paul was changed (Acts 9) and just like I was changed. I left work one Friday stoned, came back Monday preaching the word of God to my co workers. I let go a lot of friends...turned my phone off for like 2 months and became dedicated to a church and most of all to God. I take no credit to my change because I tried on my own and each time I failed. All credit goes directly to God and his son for saving us. It seems u posted this thread because u may feel convicted and u feel u can't do it on your own but you want to live for God. Well God is just and will never forsake you, he knows our heart and will not suffer his children to be cast away. The number one thing that people don't have is a desire to serve God and that's why some people will never be saved. But I have that desire and u do to so your change will come in due time. But for the time being humble yourself to God...set aside times to pray and read the Bible (maybe when u get bored) go to church every time the church is open. And make sure u go to a church that preaches convicting messages ( like against sin) as much as people don't want to hear about the wrong they do its truly for the good of your soul. Don't be fake with God but tell him exactly how u feel like as if your talking to someone face to face about your problems...and cry out to him don't hold any tears back.

James 4:10 KJV
Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.

 

[ANEESHGALES]

U are a winner in Christ now. His abundant eternal grace is sufficient to sustain U. Just trust in Him completely !
'' NO TURNING BACK "

 

[Kisses1990]

What does "partying" consist of in your opinion? I think it's perfectly possible to go out with your worldly friends and party and not sin.

 

[prodigaldaughter]

I just came across your post. I would like to say that there is nothing dull about being a Christian it is the opposite especially when you can see evidence of God working in your life and the life of others. This is why it is important to share testimonies. You need to have Christian friends and sometimes choosing God will mean loosing your associations with those whose lives are not aligned with the Word. I am not saying that you stop talking to them as how else will they come to know Christ? Fellowshipping is very important as a Christian as it allows you to bond with other Christians. Plan activities with other Christians. It can be anything from a hike, a picnic, a sporting activity, a movie night (clean movies). You can have a party with nice food and music there are a lot of nice Christian music around. You can play a game of biblical sherades where you try to guess a character or an event from the bible.

Ask God to send His people into your life. Ask Him to remove the things that He wants you to get out of and fill the gap with wholesome Christian activities. God is an awesome God and He is not limited to our abilities He is beyond that.

It takes awhile at first to see the full effect at least that is how it was for me. In fact it is still in the process. What will happen is people who knew you one way would have problems believing that you have changed. If you compromise they will throw in your face that you are not real that you are fooling yourself. It is important that we live a transform life. We may be able to fool people but God sees everything He knows us more than we would have others see. Eventually one by one will see that you are serious about your faith walk, in other words they would see that you are consistent.

 

[TomH]

I just came across your post. I would like to say that there is nothing dull about being a Christian it is the opposite especially when you can see evidence of God working in your life and the life of others. This is why it is important to share testimonies. You need to have Christian friends and sometimes choosing God will mean loosing your associations with those whose lives are not aligned with the Word. I am not saying that you stop talking to them as how else will they come to know Christ? Fellowshipping is very important as a Christian as it allows you to bond with other Christians. Plan activities with other Christians. It can be anything from a hike, a picnic, a sporting activity, a movie night (clean movies). You can have a party with nice food and music there are a lot of nice Christian music around. You can play a game of biblical sherades where you try to guess a character or an event from the bible.

Ask God to send His people into your life. Ask Him to remove the things that He wants you to get out of and fill the gap with wholesome Christian activities. God is an awesome God and He is not limited to our abilities He is beyond that.

It takes awhile at first to see the full effect at least that is how it was for me. In fact it is still in the process. What will happen is people who knew you one way would have problems believing that you have changed. If you compromise they will throw in your face that you are not real that you are fooling yourself. It is important that we live a transform life. We may be able to fool people but God sees everything He knows us more than we would have others see. Eventually one by one will see that you are serious about your faith walk, in other words they would see that you are consistent.

Amen, sister. There's nothing dull about experiencing God's love. It is way more exciting than anything the world has to offer. I thank God I was led here to this site recently to share God's love with my brothers and sisters in Christ, and I know folks that have known me in the past can see a change in my life that is only because of God's saving grace.

 

[willfollowsGod]

When the term partying is used in Christian contexts and in usual talks, it involves drinking alcohol and becoming drunk because of too much consumption and other activities that the Bible warns about. But if it is a party where people are drinking but are not getting drunk and not engaged in the activities that are associated with drunkenness. Then it is ok. But the problem is that partying always gets connected because that is usually what it entails and is usually never positive at all. For someone leaving that lifestyle and atmosphere, it can be tough but it is worth it in the end!