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For me it all boils down to acceptance. When Bob realises that He is totally accepted by everyone's including himself then He will behave accordingly. He is very judgemental of himself, whether other's have seen it or not, and for this reason behaves that way towards other's too. Their opinions and not as important as his, and he knows better, because in reality he does not really feel this way about himself.

Sad really but we normally are in perception what we are not really in reality. Hope this makes sense.
 
I'd say it could be what Liamson said, that want for other people to see the joys of what they like, or it could be an insecurity issue like DuchessAimee said.

I have friends who try to "convert" me to like country music, and they get offended/mad when I tell them that will never happen. I also get flack because I love cheese pizza ("That's what 6 year olds like."). I've never really understood it. I've teased people jokingly on some thing (one of my friends doesn't like chocolate and my mind cannot wrap around that), but for people who get legitimately upset that I don't like what they like...it just isn't really necessary.
 
Liamson said:
I still don't see the problem, other than the fact that it annoys PopClick.


Pepperoni vs. Hawaiian = Pepperoni, because it tastes better.

Tennis vs Baseball = Tennis, because Baseball is barely a sport ;)

...well I'm starting to see where some of you are coming from but still.


I think its simply goading people to talk about something. Like when someone pulls moviefan's string and lets him talk about why Predator 1 was better than Terminator or something.
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You really are Bob, aren't you? Why didn't Pop just say so?
 
Liamson said:
I still don't see the problem, other than the fact that it annoys PopClick.


Pepperoni vs. Hawaiian = Pepperoni, because it tastes better.

Tennis vs Baseball = Tennis, because Baseball is barely a sport ;)

...well I'm starting to see where some of you are coming from but still.


I think its simply goading people to talk about something. Like when someone pulls moviefan's string and lets him talk about why Predator 1 was better than Terminator or something.
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*cuddles with her Joey Votto doll, glares @ Liamson and considers hitting him in the head with a soccer ball*
 
Being socially retarded doesn't = insecurity IMO....just because someone doesn't "get it" doesn't mean they're insecure :P
 
Donkeyfish07 said:
Being socially retarded doesn't = insecurity IMO....just because someone doesn't "get it" doesn't mean they're insecure :P
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Yeah, that's not exactly what I said. But, actually, most people who are "socially retarded" are very insecure about themselves.
 
DuchessAimee said:
Yeah, that's not exactly what I said. But, actually, most people who are "socially retarded" are very insecure about themselves.
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Yea that can certainly be true sometimes....but.....you can be socially retarded equally as both an extrovert and introvert.....I think chalking all instances of that as insecurity isn't very logical. You could just as easily be the type of person that has your own interests, you don't care about anyone else's, and you only wanna talk about you wanna talk about...24/7......without being insecure :P Can be either Arrogance, Insecurity, or just plain lack of social awareness
 
Bob called. He said he thinks psycho babble is stupid and we should all be playing soccer. Don't shoot the messenger. Bob said it.
 
Liamson said:
I still don't see the problem, other than the fact that it annoys PopClick.


Pepperoni vs. Hawaiian = Pepperoni, because it tastes better.

Tennis vs Baseball = Tennis, because Baseball is barely a sport ;)

...well I'm starting to see where some of you are coming from but still.


I think its simply goading people to talk about something. Like when someone pulls moviefan's string and lets him talk about why Predator 1 was better than Terminator or something.
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Really? That was just unnecessary. -_-

I vote insecurity also. I've been there and it's exactly why I put other things down while vaulting my own preferences. It's not about having a preference, it's about completely (and seriously) bashing another person's preference when it differs from your own in order to not only make yours look better, but in a sense validate it. No good.
 
Catlynn said:
Really? That was just unnecessary. -_-

I vote insecurity also. I've been there and it's exactly why I put other things down while vaulting my own preferences. It's not about having a preference, it's about completely (and seriously) bashing another person's preference when it differs from your own in order to not only make yours look better, but in a sense validate it. No good.
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Perhaps it's just a guy thing....All the guys get where he's coming from but none of the girls seem to....lol
 
I don't like people like Bob who thinks that something (in this case-soccer) is 'better' than something else (in this case-volleyball) for everyone. You can do or play whatever you want-but don't tell me what is worth or not worth - MY TIME.
 
I think the ladies of the Forum here are taking this stuff WAY too seriously.

I'm sure Bob doesn't really care about whatever it is as much as you think he does. If Bob gets Free Tickets to something he said he hates, like a MLS soccer game in (Insert City near him) he will probably go. Because at the end of the Day, he isn't doing it to express principles but to extract an exchange from you. (Conversation)


But mostly he wants an Engaging plugged in discussion about something. I think most women don't get it because they see it as conflict. (booo) and Most women simply don't have a horse in any race.

Whats your favorite (Thing)? She says, "Wellll......... um I don't really... BLAH BLAH BLAH... yadda yadda yadda."

What she means is, "I think that (Thing)'s are silly, but, I'm not going to hurt yer feelers so, I'll just play dumb and pretend I don't really know or haven't really thought about it, when the Truth is that I simply don't care."

Because in all honesty, they are tolerating this exchange in conversation. They don't REALLY care about what you might be interested in. They are waiting for the lead in the conversation so they can talk about whatever they care about. BUT Bob likes talking to women, but probably hates talking about Women-y stuff, so he becomes Troll Bob and picks on random things. HOPING to stir the Passionate side out of a woman, about something they can mutually get on board with.



The Irony is that men handle not caring about what women are talking about, very different than women. We simply tune out or, "Oh look a bird!" OR we throw you for a loop by doing some research and then POW! hit you with all kind of forbidden knowledge. But Women, pretend to care just enough, to throw us for a loop.

Which if you are Clutching a Joey Votto doll, this clearly doesn't apply to you concerning baseball.
 
Liamson said:
I think the ladies of the Forum here are taking this stuff WAY too seriously.

I'm sure Bob doesn't really care about whatever it is as much as you think he does. If Bob gets Free Tickets to something he said he hates, like a MLS soccer game in (Insert City near him) he will probably go. Because at the end of the Day, he isn't doing it to express principles but to extract an exchange from you. (Conversation)
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That about does it right there. :)
 
If Bob puts down what others enjoy he's being rude and I think Cat hearder should tell him that. Also Bob seems a bit self centered.
 
PopClick said:
So there's this guy I'll call Bob. Bob, like every other human being on the planet, has preferences about the kinds of things he likes to do for fun. For the purpose of illustration, I'll say that Bob enjoys soccer but not volleyball. There is, of course, nothing wrong with that. But he never misses an opportunity to talk about how silly volleyball is, and how boring, and what a waste of time it is.

Now, another person ("Sally") likes volleyball, but doesn't enjoy soccer. She, however, sees nothing to be gained by telling Bob what she thinks about soccer. When Bob invites her to a game, she simply says no thank you, but that she hopes Bob has fun. Because she does hope he has fun.

My question is, why does Bob feel the need to do this? Why would he try to "convert" other people over such a trivial issue (if that is, in fact, what he's doing)? Does he think that liking soccer makes him a better, more enlightened person?
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...I'd say 'bob' lacked empathy for others and was full of himself; when making such a derogatory assessment of what is just another preference, being neither 'good nor bad' ..., however, if it was something truly 'bad' in truth, he might be justified, but in this instance - no - ... 'bob' sounds like an ignorant self-centred person ..., who has a narrow field of vision that only seems to include himself...
 
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