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Guys are always asking what women want. While there are some women on the planet who want materialistic things or the Barble life, a good woman wants this, NO MATTER HOW STRONG SHE MAY SEEM TO YOU ----->
TO BE CHERISHED
We talk a lot as Christians about a woman's "place" in a relationship, but very little is said about how God (the One who created the heart of a woman) instructs a man to deal with a woman (Ephesians 5)
A woman who is going to stand by you for a lifetime does not care about your job, education, possessions, who you once were, blah, blah, blah. She wants to know that, second only to God, she has your heart. If she knows that, she will trust you with hers. If not...good luck.
I know a lot Christians who would love to toss the idea of romance out the window (and bombard us with "love" definitions), but that could be the reason that divorce stats among Christians are no better than those among non-Christians, couldn't it? What is it that bothers people about expending a little effort and taking the time to touch the heart of the person you claim to love? If you truly love someone, why would they not be worth it?
I have even heard guys say that their ladies will be angry if they don't get something for Valentine's Day (Please save the Valentine's Day arguments. Not the topic of this thread )
. Here's the thing... If that is your attitude, you probably are not equipped for a relationship. It's not the day that means anything to the lady. It's not candy or flowers that mean anything to her. It is ANY gesture, ANY day that touches her heart. But it won't mean a thing if it is obligatory. If it doesn't come from your heart, save it. It's worthless and empty. It's not anger you are hearing from her, it's pain that comes from not receiving what she needs from you..to know that you cherish her. BUT, if you are truly sharing your heart with your lady, she'll be like.."Oh! It was Valentine's Day??? *shrug*"
Take a hint, guys: When a woman asks you what you are thinking, she doesn't mean that she wants your opinions on the NBA draft picks. She wants to know what is in your heart. Why make her guess?
Bottomline: If a woman does not feel cherished, one day you may look up and she'll be gone.
Ponder this for a moment - Yes, "romantic" gestures might seem silly to you, but think about how silly men look with all of the spitting and scratching at baseball games. It might even be unpleasant to some guys to express their love to their lady, but guess what? Washing your dirty underwear isn't the joy of a lifetime either, but we do it for love.
THIS guy gets it and he knows where to go to learn how:
[video=youtube;yLr6G8Xy5uc]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLr6G8Xy5uc[/video]
This is something that was on my heart this morning. Not sure why. Maybe someone is having relationship issues and needed to read it. If that's not you, keep walking, but it might come in handy down the road.
P.S. - Remember that love is not an "if, then" kinda thing. Just do it.
TO BE CHERISHED
We talk a lot as Christians about a woman's "place" in a relationship, but very little is said about how God (the One who created the heart of a woman) instructs a man to deal with a woman (Ephesians 5)
A woman who is going to stand by you for a lifetime does not care about your job, education, possessions, who you once were, blah, blah, blah. She wants to know that, second only to God, she has your heart. If she knows that, she will trust you with hers. If not...good luck.
I know a lot Christians who would love to toss the idea of romance out the window (and bombard us with "love" definitions), but that could be the reason that divorce stats among Christians are no better than those among non-Christians, couldn't it? What is it that bothers people about expending a little effort and taking the time to touch the heart of the person you claim to love? If you truly love someone, why would they not be worth it?
I have even heard guys say that their ladies will be angry if they don't get something for Valentine's Day (Please save the Valentine's Day arguments. Not the topic of this thread )
. Here's the thing... If that is your attitude, you probably are not equipped for a relationship. It's not the day that means anything to the lady. It's not candy or flowers that mean anything to her. It is ANY gesture, ANY day that touches her heart. But it won't mean a thing if it is obligatory. If it doesn't come from your heart, save it. It's worthless and empty. It's not anger you are hearing from her, it's pain that comes from not receiving what she needs from you..to know that you cherish her. BUT, if you are truly sharing your heart with your lady, she'll be like.."Oh! It was Valentine's Day??? *shrug*"Take a hint, guys: When a woman asks you what you are thinking, she doesn't mean that she wants your opinions on the NBA draft picks. She wants to know what is in your heart. Why make her guess?
Bottomline: If a woman does not feel cherished, one day you may look up and she'll be gone.
Ponder this for a moment - Yes, "romantic" gestures might seem silly to you, but think about how silly men look with all of the spitting and scratching at baseball games. It might even be unpleasant to some guys to express their love to their lady, but guess what? Washing your dirty underwear isn't the joy of a lifetime either, but we do it for love.
THIS guy gets it and he knows where to go to learn how:
[video=youtube;yLr6G8Xy5uc]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLr6G8Xy5uc[/video]
This is something that was on my heart this morning. Not sure why. Maybe someone is having relationship issues and needed to read it. If that's not you, keep walking, but it might come in handy down the road.
P.S. - Remember that love is not an "if, then" kinda thing. Just do it.
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