TURNOFFS

[ptlman]

What r the things that drive u crazy about the opposite sex or the things that is a deal breaker in a relationship?For me it's smoking, drinking, and pride.

 

[Searching4Truth]

Purple people.

 

[Nuns_n_roses]

I'll take it up a notch and say one-eyed one-horned flying purple people eaters.

 

[CatHerder]

What r the things that drive u crazy about the opposite sex or the things that is a deal breaker in a relationship?For me it's smoking, drinking, and pride.

1. Pride - I'm with you on this one.

2. Swearing - An occasional four letter word is one thing - in a weird way, I may even appreciate it from a brother or sister in Christ every now and again because I feel that they trust that I am open enough for them to feel that they can be "real" around me, but dropping the f-bomb every other word is just plain low class. I also cringe inside whenever I hear "God" as a swear word.

3. ummmmm.......I can't think of a third one. I guess I'm pretty easy going......maybe women who scrapbook.....or vegetarians.

 

[jeremyd]

If a woman gets in the way between me and God.
If a woman gets in the way between me and my life.

I try not to let them get that far. I'm pretty successful.

 

[CatHerder]

.......oh, and women who chew gum with their mouths open, or making that crackling sound when they chew gum. I don't know why they do that. I have never heard a man do that when they chew gum.

 

[T_Laurich]

When a girl tells you, " It's not nagging, it's just your life on auto-correct".

 

[Exoaria]

I don't think I could date a girl that goes out partying all night, and actively flirts with other boys.
That's basically an instant deal breaker, not because I think they're sinful or anything like that. It's just that I'm too anxious about these things and I like a girl that just wants to settle down and enjoy me and remain faithful to me.
I guess they also have to have some kind of interest in video games as well.

 

[isaria]

If he is involved with the people I am in process removing from me and in court about restrainingorder upon then I would not be very keen on meeting him regardless of how attracted i may be to him or how much i may love his ways and nature.

smoking, drugs, drinking as he would be encouraging me by doing so around me i may fall temptation and think "oh once a month ok with a whisky" ?
(better encourage and inspire to good living )

If he dictator, hateful, bully , criminal, abusive, etc
those things dont want dont need
No.

if he ignores me and does not give me affection and love and intimacy. I take great offence to such.
The islam scriptures says if a woman does not obey her husband then the husband should ignore her and not make love with her or sleep with her and he should ignore her and if she still dis obeys him he may strike /hit her.
I do not agree.
Dont ignore me.
I need love, love bomb me for golli sake i been ignored, abused etc enough in da history book so to say....................


you can get away with socks in sandals and drinking from milk bottle, snoring......... just dont emotionally abuse me /neglect me.

if he cheats on me and sleeps around with many horrid woman or hangs with people i do not like that would be turn off.
He should not cheat/adultery and he should be with a good people i like
if we have different taste in the matter it may be problem as i am very tolerant and forgiving buuuuuuuuut........(this one was first on list)

 

[Catlynn]

I'll take it up a notch and say one-eyed one-horned flying purple people eaters.

Now, is the people eater purple? Or does it only eat purple people? Hmmm

 

[zaoman32]

Smoking, manipulation (be it me or others), vegan, unshowered stank, more interested in changing my behavior than loving who I am.

 

[Powemm]

More focused on what im doing instead of what theyre doing.. their lead is not who im following..

 

[twill]

How aboooout… boring? I COULD NEVER DATE A BORING PERSON. EVER.
Also, I think dating a mime would be interesting.

 

[Jullianna]

.......oh, and women who chew gum with their mouths open, or making that crackling sound when they chew gum. I don't know why they do that. I have never heard a man do that when they chew gum.

Reminds me of the "Cell Block Tango" song from Chicago -

"You know how people have these little habits
That get you down like Ernie
Ernie like to chew gum, no, not chew, Pop
Like, I come home this one day and there's Ernie
Layin' on the couch chewin', no, not chewin', poppin'
So, I said to him, I said "Ernie, you pop that gum one more time" and he did
So I took the shotgun off the wall
And I fired two warning shots into his head"

Smoking, manipulation (be it me or others), vegan, unshowered stank, more interested in changing my behavior than loving who I am.

Bahahahahaha @ "unshowered stank"
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Mine:
Rudeness
Vanity
Selfishness
Bad personal hygiene (totally agree with zaoman on the stank thing..)
Gets man manicures (it's just...creepy)
Couch potato
No interest in his health
Doesn't like music
Doesn't like trying/learning new things

 

[CatHerder]

Reminds me of the "Cell Block Tango" song from Chicago -

"You know how people have these little habits
That get you down like Ernie
Ernie like to chew gum, no, not chew, Pop
Like, I come home this one day and there's Ernie
Layin' on the couch chewin', no, not chewin', poppin'
So, I said to him, I said "Ernie, you pop that gum one more time" and he did
So I took the shotgun off the wall
And I fired two warning shots into his head"




Bahahahahaha @ "unshowered stank"
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Mine:
Rudeness
Vanity
Selfishness
Bad personal hygiene (totally agree with zaoman on the stank thing..)
Gets man manicures (it's just...creepy)
Couch potato
No interest in his health
Doesn't like music
Doesn't like trying/learning new things

Now I have to see Chicago.

 

[PopClick]

Zaoman stole my answer. I was going to say manipulation.

 

[Catlynn]

Um.....um....really poor hygiene and laziness are pretty big turn-offs for me. Those are surface level things of course. Manipulation and pride are pretty high on the list of characteristics without quality in my book. :/

 

[Liamson]

TURNOFFS...

Striving to fit into a Traditional mold or struggling to conform to social obligations or keeping up with the Jones.

Inability to think Independently for themselves or reason or choose what is in their own best interest.

When they don't know why they believe what they believe or where it came from.

Superstitious/Paranoid beliefs, like Obama is the AntiChrist, a quarter lands face up it must be a sign from God, or a bird on a branch or flower in the garden, etc.

Anti-social behavior, or social anxiety or Paranoia concerning what other people think.

Getting caught up in people's appearance or hung up on keeping up with fashion and clothing styles.

Manipulation, Guilt Trips, Needy behavior, Substance Abuse, Dependency or being a Workaholic. (Same problem to me)

 

[ijustwanttheTruth]

i think for me the number one thing is how does he communicate with me.
so many guys say they're listening and they nod and give these one word agreements as if they're participating in a conversation. but there's no back and forth and there's no connection.

i think the number one deal breaker for me is 'verbally unresponsive'
i don't care how much they think they appreciate me as a person and how much they say they value me or they watch and study my person. i don't wanna be watched. i don't want them to study my person. i want them to PARTICIPATE actively in who i am.

that, smoking, and tattoos are like blech. for me.

 

[rachelsedge]

- Smoking. I enjoy the occasional cigar, so that doesn't bother me, but cigarette smoke does
- Pride and arrogance
- Manipulative
- Rude
- Drama King
- Bad personal hygiene
- Overly competitive
- Cussing like a sailor. I'm with CatHerder on this, that sometimes is okay, but not every other word.
- Indecisive
- Lacking in leadership skills. I'm strong in my faith so it will take someone just as strong for me to be willing to be lead by them.