sex before marriage??
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Sex before marriage is a sin. The Lord wants you to have the best becuase you are the best, His creation. When we have sex before marriage, we steal from ourselves. We let go of the blessing's the Lord has instore for us. He wants us to be united in the flesh husband and wife, and He is untied with us through His son Jesus.
When we have sex before marriage we are eating fruit we are not entitled to, we are enjoying the harvest after not having put the work in to deserve it.
Waiting for someone for your wedding night, tells that person that you valued them enough to wait, that you felt that they would be the only one to have you on a level nobody else was ever entitled to. It enhances your relationship, it means that when you start being intimate with your husband or wife, that you do not have baggage from a previous reltionship. There is no comparisson that takes place. When your husband say's private intimate thing's to you about your body, you believe them and don;t think they are just saying that because they love you. Because nobody else has said anything else to the contrary because you have never been intimate with someone else.
We all remember our first time, nobody ever forgets. I think that say's it all.
When we have sex before marriage we are eating fruit we are not entitled to, we are enjoying the harvest after not having put the work in to deserve it.
Waiting for someone for your wedding night, tells that person that you valued them enough to wait, that you felt that they would be the only one to have you on a level nobody else was ever entitled to. It enhances your relationship, it means that when you start being intimate with your husband or wife, that you do not have baggage from a previous reltionship. There is no comparisson that takes place. When your husband say's private intimate thing's to you about your body, you believe them and don;t think they are just saying that because they love you. Because nobody else has said anything else to the contrary because you have never been intimate with someone else.
We all remember our first time, nobody ever forgets. I think that say's it all.
C
Yeah it's a sin. To please God you will want to choose Him over this sin and stop. Tell your boyfriend that you have decided to wait until marriage. If he really loves you, of course he will respect that and wait with you.
Waiting till marriage is a great way to show self control and commitment to each other. The most important reason is to honor God and He will bless your decision and your future marriage.
If you are too scared that your boyfriend will think less of you for waiting, then you are choosing your boyfriend over God. If your boyfriend does think less of you, then he is not marriage material and if you marry him you will have to accept it however that marriage turns out cos you know you willingly went into it in disobedience to God.
If your boyfriend acts like he simply can't control himself, that he simply must have sex, and if he implies that 'if you don't give it to me then I'll get it from somewhere else!" as some boys do, then congratulations, you have discovered that your boyfriend is not marriage material after all. If a guy simply cannot control himself, then he will not be able to resist temptation when it comes along and you can virtually guarantee that adultery and/or pornography addiction will be a part of your future marriage- why would you expect him to have the self control on those issues if he can't even wait till marriage to have sex?
In my experience, choosing to wait has bought my girlfriend and I closer and it is a rock solid foundation for our marriage.
God bless
Waiting till marriage is a great way to show self control and commitment to each other. The most important reason is to honor God and He will bless your decision and your future marriage.
If you are too scared that your boyfriend will think less of you for waiting, then you are choosing your boyfriend over God. If your boyfriend does think less of you, then he is not marriage material and if you marry him you will have to accept it however that marriage turns out cos you know you willingly went into it in disobedience to God.
If your boyfriend acts like he simply can't control himself, that he simply must have sex, and if he implies that 'if you don't give it to me then I'll get it from somewhere else!" as some boys do, then congratulations, you have discovered that your boyfriend is not marriage material after all. If a guy simply cannot control himself, then he will not be able to resist temptation when it comes along and you can virtually guarantee that adultery and/or pornography addiction will be a part of your future marriage- why would you expect him to have the self control on those issues if he can't even wait till marriage to have sex?
In my experience, choosing to wait has bought my girlfriend and I closer and it is a rock solid foundation for our marriage.
God bless
S
Good Morning.
I know that sex before marriage is wrong but what if you have already started engaging in sex? is it too late to repent? and because me and my boyfriend are sexualy active already, would it be hard for us to stop? is oral sex also a sin or can we rather have oral sex instead of sex?
Stay Blessed
I know that sex before marriage is wrong but what if you have already started engaging in sex? is it too late to repent? and because me and my boyfriend are sexualy active already, would it be hard for us to stop? is oral sex also a sin or can we rather have oral sex instead of sex?
Stay Blessed
S
To respekt, i thought this site was for Christains so that we can be free to talk about anything and teach one another. And yes some of us signed up cause we want to learn the word of God and every1 has things that they are not certain off. the list you could have done was to answer the QUESTION and give me some scriptures to refer to.
Can people that want to help me have a better understanding about what i have just asked be so kind to answer me. thanks
God bless you.
Can people that want to help me have a better understanding about what i have just asked be so kind to answer me. thanks
God bless you.
Premarital sex is sinful and Christians are instructed to avoid such, the bible is clear on this. "For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication" (1 Thessalonians 4:3). You can still receive the gift of God's forgiveness if you repent. The scripture says this: "He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy" (Proverbs 28:13). "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9).
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Hi Mistryrain You know after I first came to Jesus,I sure did not think so either!! But I soon found out different.Allow me to show you through the Word why this is.1 cor 6:17 says But the one who joins himself( or herself) to the Lord is ONE spirit with him. Ok so far so good right? It is verse 18-20 that is the kicker sis!
You see by having sex before getting married, we are joining the Lord to it!! That is why it is a sin against our own body. We sin against our own body by doing this. I was so mad when I found this out sis!!!But Lord I love her!! Then Holy Spirit replied to me!!( matt 10:37-39!!) I had to stop after that sis. I repented, and the Lord honored and rewarded me because of this later.
I know our feeling play a large role in this sis! I really do not like to bring you news like this,but if i do not, and I know your question is sincere, then I would have to answer for it! One of the toughest parts about being a believer to me sis,is once we find out the truth about any area of our life,we now become accountable,and I have found dear sister not only in word but also deed.( matt 10:36) blessing to you!
You see by having sex before getting married, we are joining the Lord to it!! That is why it is a sin against our own body. We sin against our own body by doing this. I was so mad when I found this out sis!!!But Lord I love her!! Then Holy Spirit replied to me!!( matt 10:37-39!!) I had to stop after that sis. I repented, and the Lord honored and rewarded me because of this later.
I know our feeling play a large role in this sis! I really do not like to bring you news like this,but if i do not, and I know your question is sincere, then I would have to answer for it! One of the toughest parts about being a believer to me sis,is once we find out the truth about any area of our life,we now become accountable,and I have found dear sister not only in word but also deed.( matt 10:36) blessing to you!
It's never too late. If you committed that you would stop it, then do it. And if your boyfriend could not accept your decision. Then, break up with him before it would go worse in further.
Oral sex is sex. No excuse. It's sex. And yeah, it's sin if you did that before marriage.
My advice, you have to stop it asap
Oral sex is sex. No excuse. It's sex. And yeah, it's sin if you did that before marriage.
My advice, you have to stop it asap
L
I dated my husband for eight years before we got married, and it was hard to not have sex. We messed up now and then and eventually told our youth pastor so he could keep us accountable because we did want to wait for marriage. I can say that God wants us to wait not because it's some dumb rule, but because it's for our own good, seriously.
We're married now, and I can tell you that we kind of messed ourselves over by having sex before we were married. We created some unrealistic expectations. I'm believing that God restores and can help us have a great sex life now, but we're working through a few things because of what we did before.
Stay strong! Don't allow yourselves to even get in a situation in which you might give in. It's so easy to just do it in the moment and forget why it's so important to wait. Tell someone you really look up to so they can keep you accountable.
We're married now, and I can tell you that we kind of messed ourselves over by having sex before we were married. We created some unrealistic expectations. I'm believing that God restores and can help us have a great sex life now, but we're working through a few things because of what we did before.
Stay strong! Don't allow yourselves to even get in a situation in which you might give in. It's so easy to just do it in the moment and forget why it's so important to wait. Tell someone you really look up to so they can keep you accountable.
D
Is sex before marriage a sin? If you are in a long term relationship even? I have been in a serious relationship for more than four years and this is something I have been wondering about for a while...I don't want to go against God
Yes, you have to realize that " sex " is the seal of marriage. It's a blood covenant. That's why most virgins bleed the first time a man enters into them. This blood represents the wedding night's blood covenant of marriage between a virgin man and his virgin wife for life until death separates them.
According to the Lord's Word, all laws are based on the Golden Rule, so when someone gives his/her virginity to someone who is not his/her spouse, this is an act of defrauding his/her future spouse...
That's why when a virgin man enters into a virgin woman for the first time and they are singles and not married, the man is required to ask her hand in marriage to her father, and if the father accepts, they get married. So that no one defrauds the spouse of another one, and everybody is happy...
Marriage would have a very high rate of success if things were done that way.
Well, if you already slept with that man whereas you and him are singles and not married, according to the Scriptures, he must ask your hand in marriage to your father, and if your father accepts your union, you and him get married.
Because intimacy was designed by the Lord to belong to marriage only.
And also fornication equals to a great lack of respect towards future spouses, resulting in many future conjugal problems and a very high rate of divorce...
The narrow way is never the most popular one among this generation of sinners...
but the narrow way is always the best one to choose...you choose...
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