I agree that God shapes our paths and even forcefully dictates what we do sometimes. Such an example of this being true would be Romans 9:15-26 Whether or not this means he controls every miniscule detail of our own will (if in fact it exists), I am not sure.
As far as willing outside of who we are, then no, we cannot. We are not manifold creations individually. We have one spirit, one consciousness, one mind, one body, and of course we can't deviate from this without divine interference such as the indwelling Spirit of God. That obviously raises a lot of question, such as are we really ever in control and is our will primarily an illusion.
I'm not sure if God created us as individual prototypes that were given the ability to learn and to be shaped, but if so, then who we are is dependent not just on how he created us, but the life he allowed us to be brought up in, the people we were around, how we were raised, and even that draws even more question such as, did God shape that path and that upbringing to shape us into the individual he wanted us to be? My answer to the latter would be yes. We are all known to him and placed where we are in life at the right time and place for his reasons alone to work for his ends.
The no will whatsoever argument has evidence in the bible, as does us having some type of freedom of will. I think they can co-exist with God still being in complete control. If God knows everything, he would be able to see infinite outcomes for whatever choice he allows us to make, therefore altering his plans for us (from the very beginning of time so it wasn't ever altered at all). I also know that God exists inside of the eternal and our timeline is not an issue for him. He can see from start to finish and rearrange past, history, and future (all from the very beginning of time therefore making it no change at all) without us every knowing anything had happened to dictate the outcome of our own present and future.
I don't think there will ever be a way to prove or disprove any freewill or lack of free will arguments - ever. I am a firm believer though (not for human pride reasons) that God does allow us freedom of will within His confines, and him being God can still determine and dictate an outcome that is acceptable to him and still remains within his own will.
