Men: Does a lady's income count?

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Does it matter to you how much money a lady makes?

  • Making LESS than my income is fine

    Votes: 3 13.6%

  • Making MORE than my income is fine

    Votes: 1 4.5%

  • She must make atleast EQUAL to my income

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • More money= success. Her financial success matters to me

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • The Christian Answer (yes, yes ideally money shouldn't matter)

    Votes: 13 59.1%

  • Other:

    Votes: 5 22.7%
  • Total voters
    22
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arwen83

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Wait for the poll..

Question for the men... A girls income. Does that matter to you? If she worked at Starbucks, bringing home little dough? Or is a business profession salary more attractive? How important is how much money a girl makes to you? If you make good cash, and she doesn't, is that unattractive? Or would it be weird if she made more money than you?

(yes, alot of questions)
(yes, pun intended)
 
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1still_waters

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A woman with less income can make a good sandwich, and a woman with more income can hire it catered gourmet.
Either way it's a win win.
 
Nautilus

Nautilus

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Jun 29, 2012
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I honestly dont care how much she makes, as long as its something to help out
 
JimJimmers

JimJimmers

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Apr 26, 2012
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I voted does not matter. Also, working at Starbucks doesn't mean her income potential is not higher than mine, naturally. She may have an MBA in a poor market, for instance.
 
LightningClap0002

LightningClap0002

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I truly have no desire for money. I'm not just answering as such because the church told me to. God has blessed me with far more than I need.
 
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Catlynn

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*grabs popcorn and sits back to watch* o_o I'm so glad you made this thread. I've been wondering how finances and formal education play into the appeal of a woman.
 
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Hellooo

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If you're intimidated by a lady's income and education....
step your game up and own who you are
OR move on to the next lady if it really bothers you.

A lot of times when people are insecure about things like that, they're underestimating their own value.
 
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flight316

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#8
Not really, what counts is if she is willing to share in the financial responsibilities of the relationship.
 
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Ariel82

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#9
<pass the popcorn, please> <sits back and waits to see where this goes>

I just had a conversation with my husband about if I should get a job, yesterday.

He told me he was okay with our current arrangement: I do most of the cooking, cleaning and childcare, while he brings home the income.

I can work part time or not at all and spend the extra time volunteering with various projects in the community (PTA, tutoring, visiting nursing homes, Habitat for Humanity, etc.)

I joked with him about making crafts and selling them at the farmer's market and he gave me a look of pure horror. He told me he could image the space such an endeavor would take and the mess. lol.

:)

I think different men have different preferences. I've seen some who don't want women to work outside the home at all.

My husband told me if I get a job that paid more than his does, he would stay at home and take care of the kids and let me work.

I don't think how much money either of us makes matters. We just want enough to live on and take care of those God has entrusted us with. When I married him we were living off a thousand dollar a month paycheck while he finished up his college degree.

<ok now stuffing my face full of popcorn, now that you have more information than you probably wanted. lol>
 
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PANCAKES

PANCAKES

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Apr 26, 2009
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There's no reason to have both parents working if one can adequately provide for the family. Unless you are a money hungry monkey potato bean curd of a fella/gal.

Both my parents worked 24/7, both made GOOD money. Both fought constantly because they couldn't handle us kids (Gee, I wonder why) and eventually both divorced.
 
AsifinPassing

AsifinPassing

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Jul 13, 2010
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What's wrong with working at Starbucks?? (*Is a barista/partner...* ^_~)


No, whether she's rich or poor, the money a person makes is definitely on the least of my concerns, let alone of factor of my attraction to them....
 
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arwen83

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AsifinPassing said:
What's wrong with working at Starbucks?? (*Is a barista/partner...* ^_~)


No, whether she's rich or poor, the money a person makes is definitely on the least of my concerns, let alone of factor of my attraction to them....
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Oh no, nothing wrong with baristas. I just know that they are underpaid for the work that they do.
 
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MissCris

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My husband jokes that he should have married an independently wealthy woman so he could stay at home and learn to knit and run up insane credit card bills and drink icy beverages with little umbrellas in them while sitting by the pool.

I told him I'm very sorry to have killed his dream.

And then we laugh, and he heads off to work, and I start my non-paying job around here.

But really, I'm curious too guys, is it intimidating at all if a woman makes more money than you? Does how you feel about her income depend on the type of job/career she's in?
 
dliz

dliz

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Hmmm... Let's be more practical, nowadays, you cant soley rely on your husband in everything because what if in the long run your husband will be diagnosed with a terminal disease? Or encountered an accident that would prohibit him from going to work? So mostly like you'll need to find a work to support your family financially but then again it's so hard to find a work when you don't have any experience. What i'm meaning to say is that it's very essential to have a back-up plan.:)
 
David_1

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I was 23 when I fell in love with my then wife who was 21. I had butterflies in my stomach for a week after meeting her. I was having physical anxiety I was smitten so much.

And it wasn't about her bank balance.

She was still a university student and worked part time as a teller.

Last year my wife made 4 times my salary.

I was over the moon, I love her success. She deserves it...and the funny thing about being married, more money for her, equals more money for us!!
 
zeroturbulence

zeroturbulence

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To quote comedian Chris Rock:

"A guy will never turn a woman down because she's broke."

Unfortunately, it doesn't work the other way around. :rolleyes:
 
Liamson

Liamson

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I've dated a few women who made more money than I did.

I didn't really think about it.

To be honest, I didn't really care. They were willing to do cool stuff and slum it occasionally too. And thats what all of it boils down to.

Do I trust this person, when I am poor as well as when I am rich. Would they still be who they are if they didn't have stuff and monies? Depends on the person.


I think a person should feel good about what they do. I don't want to be with someone who is going to moan and complain about their job every day.
 
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GreenNnice

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arwen83 said:
Wait for the poll..

Question for the men... A girls income. Does that matter to you? If she worked at Starbucks, bringing home little dough? Or is a business profession salary more attractive? How important is how much money a girl makes to you? If you make good cash, and she doesn't, is that unattractive? Or would it be weird if she made more money than you?

(yes, alot of questions)
(yes, pun intended)
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Where's the pun ?


I dunno, the Lord leads, something I've never thought of, but, I would be fine with her working or not , it depends on what's needed to make our lives go best, the Lord leads.
 
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