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I am DEFINITELY curious as to how this poll turns out 
Thank you for making this thread, Arwen!!!
For me, personally, it doesn't matter if the guy doesn't have a high-paying job, or that he doesn't have titles attached to his name. Fortune, prestige, fame...that's all quite superficial. What matters to me is that he loves what he's doing, and quite passionate about it whether he's rolling in the dough, making just enough, or barely enough, but doing something that makes him sick and tired and angry, that's just sad and pitiful o.o;
However, i also consider what the guy would feel if i do make more money than he does. I don't like the idea of bruising a man's ego at all. If he's okay with me making more, and doesn't internally feel envious nor resent me for it, then all is well after all, if we do marry each other, what's mine is his, and vice versa i'm all about teamwork and partnership. Once we exchange vows and say "I do" for life, i stop being just me, and he, being just himself. We become one, and we will be sharing everything. He has my back, and i have his. And i don't want us to ever argue, specially about money. What matters to me more is that we grow strong and deep in our love and relationship with Christ, and then, with ours with GOD as our center, we'll get it right, no matter what happens. It's 'coz HE is the One who truly provides for both of us after all, out of HIS awesome love and grace i don't want us to ever lose sight of this truth.
Thank you for making this thread, Arwen!!!
For me, personally, it doesn't matter if the guy doesn't have a high-paying job, or that he doesn't have titles attached to his name. Fortune, prestige, fame...that's all quite superficial. What matters to me is that he loves what he's doing, and quite passionate about it
whether he's rolling in the dough, making just enough, or barely enough, but doing something that makes him sick and tired and angry, that's just sad and pitiful o.o;However, i also consider what the guy would feel if i do make more money than he does. I don't like the idea of bruising a man's ego at all. If he's okay with me making more, and doesn't internally feel envious nor resent me for it, then all is well
after all, if we do marry each other, what's mine is his, and vice versa i'm all about teamwork and partnership. Once we exchange vows and say "I do" for life, i stop being just me, and he, being just himself. We become one, and we will be sharing everything. He has my back, and i have his. And i don't want us to ever argue, specially about money. What matters to me more is that we grow strong and deep in our love and relationship with Christ, and then, with ours with GOD as our center, we'll get it right, no matter what happens. It's 'coz HE is the One who truly provides for both of us after all, out of HIS awesome love and grace i don't want us to ever lose sight of this truth.
More important to me than income is her outcome, how much is she spending her money on shoes? Is her favorite channel QVC? It doesn't matter if your income is a million dollars, if your outcome is 2 million dollars.
I need a financially conservative woman to help keep me in line because of my insatiable cookie buying habits.
I need a financially conservative woman to help keep me in line because of my insatiable cookie buying habits.
The amount of money a girl earns doesn't matter - although I will admit it can be intimidating if a Lady earns more than you, having said this, I don't think it should matter. You are one and a team as Azure said.
On the other hand, how a girl spends her money is important to me. I want a frugal wife, someone who is very careful with her money and wants to use it wisely and in good ways.
On the other hand, how a girl spends her money is important to me. I want a frugal wife, someone who is very careful with her money and wants to use it wisely and in good ways.
You're a horrible canadian! I'm disappointed in you miss arwen.
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I honestly don't see why it would be an issue, whether she has an inheritance, trust fund or job, or whatever. It's always helpful to have more money than less money. (No health and wealthers I'm not saying believers are entitled to more money.) A guy shouldn't choose a woman with more income just because it's more helpful to have more money than less money. I think I covered my disclaimers for the forum nuance pickers who may be hearing me saying things I'm not saying.
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I don't think it matters much. Personally, I just like to live simply. I'm not on some kind of kick type quest and I don't have some earth saving cause. I'm not that noble. I just think I am made in the image of God and He sustains me and I don't need much else. Sooo - I would value a woman who treasures what she has and needs and not what people are trying to sell her. Someone who delights in smaller things - a struggle overcome or a lost soul found.
She'd be pretty easy to spot i think. Probably someone who's increasingly hurt by disrespect of others or understanding of other's plight who are living on margins. Someone who's called to arms for some planet destructive thing. I'd probably need that kind of "force" because - like I said, I'm just not that noble - and I'm not sure one could necessarily buy that kind of thing with a proper salary.
She'd be pretty easy to spot i think. Probably someone who's increasingly hurt by disrespect of others or understanding of other's plight who are living on margins. Someone who's called to arms for some planet destructive thing. I'd probably need that kind of "force" because - like I said, I'm just not that noble - and I'm not sure one could necessarily buy that kind of thing with a proper salary.
First of all, thanks for making this poll, Arwen. I, too, am curious to see what the men have to say about this.
I went through a brief phase right around my high school graduation where I considered not going to college, and instead honing my "home economics" skills, because God put a desire in my heart to be a stay at home mother some day. I still want that someday, Lord willing, but thankfully my parents convinced me to at least pursue something that had, as you put it, income earning potential. They reminded me that my desire to be a stay at home mother was a very noble one, but that I should have the ability to make money just in case my family's financial situation demanded it. Those wise parents.
I went through a brief phase right around my high school graduation where I considered not going to college, and instead honing my "home economics" skills, because God put a desire in my heart to be a stay at home mother some day. I still want that someday, Lord willing, but thankfully my parents convinced me to at least pursue something that had, as you put it, income earning potential. They reminded me that my desire to be a stay at home mother was a very noble one, but that I should have the ability to make money just in case my family's financial situation demanded it. Those wise parents.
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It may depend on the individual and how they are with money.
If a man marries a woman who does not make money but may be a "gold digger" or monett in bad context and she is a greedy with your money while you are sober with it then that is not nice.
She might spend your money without concent and it all disappears.
Have heard of woman trick wealthy men and it is not marriage for love they are experts at these things as awfle as it sounds and the men are some times fooled and sometimes they make arrangements that they get sex and the outer appearance of a perfect marriage.
It may not matter at all what or how much money they make depending on who they are and their relationship with and to money.
Would not be nice be married to someone greedy who shoppaholic on your money while you work .
One man was very wealthy and his lady of interest was not wealthy at all but years later he met her and she was making more than him which pleased him as he felt they were same level with finances or similar level anyway as he saw how she handled and used her money and investments and she saw likewise.
Maybe it was a joyous deep foundation to marriage .
He knew she did not marry him for money and they had prenuptual agreement anyway.
Some spouses are jealous or competitive of each other.
Depends on what type relationship you have with one another and as many posters have written they speak of joking and talking openly with spouse about these things.
It is some thing one should talk about and it is important.
Good communication and prenups.
If a man marries a woman who does not make money but may be a "gold digger" or monett in bad context and she is a greedy with your money while you are sober with it then that is not nice.
She might spend your money without concent and it all disappears.
Have heard of woman trick wealthy men and it is not marriage for love they are experts at these things as awfle as it sounds and the men are some times fooled and sometimes they make arrangements that they get sex and the outer appearance of a perfect marriage.
It may not matter at all what or how much money they make depending on who they are and their relationship with and to money.
Would not be nice be married to someone greedy who shoppaholic on your money while you work .
One man was very wealthy and his lady of interest was not wealthy at all but years later he met her and she was making more than him which pleased him as he felt they were same level with finances or similar level anyway as he saw how she handled and used her money and investments and she saw likewise.
Maybe it was a joyous deep foundation to marriage .
He knew she did not marry him for money and they had prenuptual agreement anyway.
Some spouses are jealous or competitive of each other.
Depends on what type relationship you have with one another and as many posters have written they speak of joking and talking openly with spouse about these things.
It is some thing one should talk about and it is important.
Good communication and prenups.
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A woman from another culture may choose to be helped by a professional maiden to perform her work.
The professional woman would then pay the professional maiden and it can work out beautifully.
That way a woman can work even in a culture that may operate a bit differently and she may not be discriminated but explain to the people she work with and for.
A professional maiden is beautiful and is not for sale but her professional work is for sale.
This can help a woman make money and work and interact in society .
Have heard true horror stories regarding insurance fraud and widowers and murder and ...amazing the bad things people do born again still same.
Just try make sure we know who we marry and can trust them and have prenup and have been clever and smart about protecting assets , money and so forth from someone who married for money or that and other worse reasons.
The professional woman would then pay the professional maiden and it can work out beautifully.
That way a woman can work even in a culture that may operate a bit differently and she may not be discriminated but explain to the people she work with and for.
A professional maiden is beautiful and is not for sale but her professional work is for sale.
This can help a woman make money and work and interact in society .
Have heard true horror stories regarding insurance fraud and widowers and murder and ...amazing the bad things people do born again still same.
Just try make sure we know who we marry and can trust them and have prenup and have been clever and smart about protecting assets , money and so forth from someone who married for money or that and other worse reasons.
This is an interesting thread. to me, it matters more to me HOW he makes his money work for him or how he budgets it. I'm not into him for his money. I'm into him for his character. Now, a good medical insurance plan, that's another ball game lol, just kidding. But in all honesty, I don't make much, but I budget, save a little, and i plan to invest soon. i also do a lot of side jobs to pay the bills. My medical bills, and my dogs medical bills siphon my money. But I am content to be honest. I don't need a lot of money to be happy
lol, just kidding. But in all honesty, I don't make much, but I budget, save a little, and i plan to invest soon. i also do a lot of side jobs to pay the bills. My medical bills, and my dogs medical bills siphon my money. But I am content to be honest. I don't need a lot of money to be happy I would honestly love to be a housewife, but I would always feel guilty not bringing home some sort of income. Not to mention I would feel weird about him paying medical bills. .. I would get bored too XD you can only vaccume the carpet so many times. I have already come to the decision that I don't want to have children. So I couldn't really justify staying home If I ha no kids to raise.
