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I am going to be 100% honest here... I would say for me personally it would interfere with my lust towards them...
I would not think man that chick is so smoking hot I want her as a girlfriend... I would think 'yah, shes just another girl'...
But after a while of getting to know her, her personality could show me that she is beyond beautiful... I have personally seen women I think nothing of at first, but when I get to know them I go man... She is kinda getting cute...
It's strange how it works like that but it really doesn't work the opposite way as much... Personally I become blinded by physical beauty when it comes to a really good looking girl... If I got to know her and she was a jerk, yah I might not like her as much. But if she were to come up to me and say 'want to go out' I would jump at the chance...
This is something I am needed strength from the lord on... I have read proverbs and I agree 100% but now I need to take practice into action...
So to answer your question... I have faith that I would date a girl who had this mentality God, People, Herself... In that order.
I would not think man that chick is so smoking hot I want her as a girlfriend... I would think 'yah, shes just another girl'...
But after a while of getting to know her, her personality could show me that she is beyond beautiful... I have personally seen women I think nothing of at first, but when I get to know them I go man... She is kinda getting cute...
It's strange how it works like that but it really doesn't work the opposite way as much... Personally I become blinded by physical beauty when it comes to a really good looking girl... If I got to know her and she was a jerk, yah I might not like her as much. But if she were to come up to me and say 'want to go out' I would jump at the chance...
This is something I am needed strength from the lord on... I have read proverbs and I agree 100% but now I need to take practice into action...
So to answer your question... I have faith that I would date a girl who had this mentality God, People, Herself... In that order.
M
I can't date a guy who is obese and physically lazy. Just doesn't work for me, I tried :/ It's true that I look at personality but everyone has flaws on the inside and on the outside.
I love people. I am patient, understanding and a great listener. I can take criticizum(sp). I always try to apply peoples suggestions to my life, but if it's something that isn't true or I don't know how to solve, I go berserk.
I have great hair, I'm tall, curvy and pretty attractive but I do have stretch marks (dry skin and from growing so fast :/)
Take the good with the bad. My fiance isn't the most attractive man...I will admit but I call him handsome everyday because I love him and he's drop-dead gorgeous to me!
I love people. I am patient, understanding and a great listener. I can take criticizum(sp). I always try to apply peoples suggestions to my life, but if it's something that isn't true or I don't know how to solve, I go berserk.
I have great hair, I'm tall, curvy and pretty attractive but I do have stretch marks (dry skin and from growing so fast :/)
Take the good with the bad. My fiance isn't the most attractive man...I will admit but I call him handsome everyday because I love him and he's drop-dead gorgeous to me!
L
Nobody is perfect,some flaws are much easier to spot,you have to consider if the flaws aren't going to be a issue to you.One very important thing are the personalities of two people,do you share things in common, enjoy activities together.does that person make you happy most of the time.Are you at least attracted to them enough to overlook the faults.Hey we all got something uncool about ourselves.Also do they share your values Christianity lets say.
C
I have standards... And physical stuff does matter to an extent, but it shouldn't be the most important thing. Also, what's attractive to someone may not be attractive to someone else. There's a perfect match for everyone.
When it comes to "physical flaws":
I mean I have seen some girls who have a little acne but are still really attractive. It's only if the acne is REALLY bad, then it's not that attractive. My sister just commented to me today, "I'm breaking out!!!" But it's only a few zits... She's overreacting.
Scars??? I guess that depends too. Most scars i've seen 'fade' to an extent. If it's so hideous that it's gross to look at, there might be a problem, but I don't think most scars are like that. While there might be a mark or something there forever, it doesn't look bad. A good example is like when a woman has a c-section. That doesn't look bad at all, in fact it makes the girl look cool because it looks like she was in a knife fight or something. Lol.
Obesity is where there's a limit for me... I'm not saying girls should have a perfect body, but they shouldn't be too overweight either... They definitely don't need a six pack or anything like that though. There are many girls who work out and try extra hard to stay fit, especially trying to get six packs. I find many girls attractive, and they don't have six packs... My sister wants perfect abs so bad, she works out and everything. Most girls can stay at a nice weight, and be healthy for that matter, by just jogging. Just my opinion.
I definitely think I have physical flaws too, that i'm nervous about my future partner seeing... Everyone has things they don't like about themselves. The bottom line is, everyone has that perfect person for them that will look passed them.
God made us a certain way for a reason.
When it comes to "physical flaws":
I mean I have seen some girls who have a little acne but are still really attractive. It's only if the acne is REALLY bad, then it's not that attractive. My sister just commented to me today, "I'm breaking out!!!" But it's only a few zits... She's overreacting.
Scars??? I guess that depends too. Most scars i've seen 'fade' to an extent. If it's so hideous that it's gross to look at, there might be a problem, but I don't think most scars are like that. While there might be a mark or something there forever, it doesn't look bad. A good example is like when a woman has a c-section. That doesn't look bad at all, in fact it makes the girl look cool because it looks like she was in a knife fight or something. Lol.
Obesity is where there's a limit for me... I'm not saying girls should have a perfect body, but they shouldn't be too overweight either... They definitely don't need a six pack or anything like that though. There are many girls who work out and try extra hard to stay fit, especially trying to get six packs. I find many girls attractive, and they don't have six packs... My sister wants perfect abs so bad, she works out and everything. Most girls can stay at a nice weight, and be healthy for that matter, by just jogging. Just my opinion.
I definitely think I have physical flaws too, that i'm nervous about my future partner seeing... Everyone has things they don't like about themselves. The bottom line is, everyone has that perfect person for them that will look passed them.
God made us a certain way for a reason.
This is an odd question.
We all have flaws... but we also all have "preferences" about what we're attracted to.
It's okay for each of us to have preferences... just things we find attractive, and things we don't.
Most of us don't expect a girl to be a supermodel - truth is, even supermodels don't really look like supermodels...
not without airbrushing, lol.
I expect God to bring me a nice Christian girl who is "beautiful to me."
What does "beautiful to me" mean?
It means just what it says... to me she has to be beautiful... doesn't matter how she seems to anyone else.
Does this mean she'll have fantastic looks, or a fantastic personality, or a fantastic intellect, or what?
I dunno.
Doesn't matter.
It only matters that God brings me someone that "fits" me... and if she "fits" me...
she'll be "beautiful to me."
All of that said, when it comes to physical looks, our body is our "gift" to our future spouse.
I do my best to take care of my body, and stay in shape, because once I am married,
my body will be the only male body my wife will get, lol.
So I'm going to take care of this body the best I can... it may be a poor gift, but it will still be my gift to her.
For a woman, it is the same thing... her body, after marriage, is her special gift to her husband.
A woman should try to take care of herself, as much as she's able, because that is a gift to her husband.
In a nutshell, I try to take care of myself, because one day, my body will be a special gift for my wife...
and good or bad, I only have one body to give her.
Also, I don't pray for a supermodel, but rather I pray for the girl who is "right for me"...
I'll let God figure out the details.
We all have flaws... but we also all have "preferences" about what we're attracted to.
It's okay for each of us to have preferences... just things we find attractive, and things we don't.
Most of us don't expect a girl to be a supermodel - truth is, even supermodels don't really look like supermodels...
not without airbrushing, lol.
I expect God to bring me a nice Christian girl who is "beautiful to me."
What does "beautiful to me" mean?
It means just what it says... to me she has to be beautiful... doesn't matter how she seems to anyone else.
Does this mean she'll have fantastic looks, or a fantastic personality, or a fantastic intellect, or what?
I dunno.
Doesn't matter.
It only matters that God brings me someone that "fits" me... and if she "fits" me...
she'll be "beautiful to me."
All of that said, when it comes to physical looks, our body is our "gift" to our future spouse.
I do my best to take care of my body, and stay in shape, because once I am married,
my body will be the only male body my wife will get, lol.
So I'm going to take care of this body the best I can... it may be a poor gift, but it will still be my gift to her.
For a woman, it is the same thing... her body, after marriage, is her special gift to her husband.
A woman should try to take care of herself, as much as she's able, because that is a gift to her husband.
In a nutshell, I try to take care of myself, because one day, my body will be a special gift for my wife...
and good or bad, I only have one body to give her.
Also, I don't pray for a supermodel, but rather I pray for the girl who is "right for me"...
I'll let God figure out the details.
I am not particular on looks I think like most people are, Maybe it's because I feel like I've been judged most of my life for one reason or another as a girl based on this: to tall, to short, to big, to small, not enough make-up, to much make up, to boyish, to prissy, acne, a funny laugh, to obstinate, to independent, to giving, to trusting, not trusting enough, to blah blah blah blah.
I think you need to wear the look and the look you have needs to not wear you. YOU show who you are. So I like just about all styles for one reason or another. I want a guy who is close to my height or taller, since I am 5'10" and don't want to feel like a giant next to the guy I'm with. But it's not a "defect" if someone is not that for me. I like a guy who is alive can laugh and joke and isn't always so serious and image driven i feel like crap if I don't live up to his image. What i'm most attracted to is his smile and eyes and HOW HE TREATS OTHERS. These are the things that matter to me most... oh... and hygiene- no matter how you look you can take care of yourself!
Body type? I have struggled my whole life with weight up and down and down and up and so on. I don't judge someone because they are bigger. I think the only killer for me would be is if they are lazy- but i have met skinny guys as equally lazy as big guys and the same with girls... lazy is not always told by ones size- it's a disease of the personality. Because I'm active I want a guy I can share that time with- walking, canoeing, hiking, horse riding, trying new activities etc.
I think attraction is necessary between two people who enter a relationship so the idea that "beauty is only internal" is mostly bogus- as much as I would like it to not be. Even in movies with the ugly girl or guy getting the prince or princess, the honest truth is they pick these fabulously gorgeous actors and actresses to play the part and leave features shining through in full effect coupled with HOT BODIES, lol. In time this allows you to move past the makeup and "love" them with these "flaws". It's all so fake.
There does have to be SOME level of attraction- even if they don't think you are the hottest person there has to be something they find aesthetically pleasing about you and not detestable. For everyone this is different though and EVERYONE, in my opinion, is beautiful in some way. THEY JUST HAVE TO WEAR THAT. It does not mean I am defective though or that a guy is defective if there isn't an attraction in his direction either. It just means we are not attracted to one another. IT sucks to be the one liking someone you think you have everything in common with and have it not reciprocated, but what can we do?
I think you need to wear the look and the look you have needs to not wear you. YOU show who you are. So I like just about all styles for one reason or another. I want a guy who is close to my height or taller, since I am 5'10" and don't want to feel like a giant next to the guy I'm with. But it's not a "defect" if someone is not that for me. I like a guy who is alive can laugh and joke and isn't always so serious and image driven i feel like crap if I don't live up to his image. What i'm most attracted to is his smile and eyes and HOW HE TREATS OTHERS. These are the things that matter to me most... oh... and hygiene- no matter how you look you can take care of yourself!
Body type? I have struggled my whole life with weight up and down and down and up and so on. I don't judge someone because they are bigger. I think the only killer for me would be is if they are lazy- but i have met skinny guys as equally lazy as big guys and the same with girls... lazy is not always told by ones size- it's a disease of the personality. Because I'm active I want a guy I can share that time with- walking, canoeing, hiking, horse riding, trying new activities etc.
I think attraction is necessary between two people who enter a relationship so the idea that "beauty is only internal" is mostly bogus- as much as I would like it to not be. Even in movies with the ugly girl or guy getting the prince or princess, the honest truth is they pick these fabulously gorgeous actors and actresses to play the part and leave features shining through in full effect coupled with HOT BODIES, lol. In time this allows you to move past the makeup and "love" them with these "flaws". It's all so fake.
There does have to be SOME level of attraction- even if they don't think you are the hottest person there has to be something they find aesthetically pleasing about you and not detestable. For everyone this is different though and EVERYONE, in my opinion, is beautiful in some way. THEY JUST HAVE TO WEAR THAT. It does not mean I am defective though or that a guy is defective if there isn't an attraction in his direction either. It just means we are not attracted to one another. IT sucks to be the one liking someone you think you have everything in common with and have it not reciprocated, but what can we do?
Z
physical flaws aren't to much of an issue for me. A lot of it is in the face...which sounds weird and cliche, but I look at the facial features for the most part, and in some cases I think scars can actually add to a persons physical beauty, and in a lot of cases I think weight and things like that just make that person who they are.
I wouldn't mind too much if a guy I liked had some kind of scar or acne. It's just life...we get cuts or require surgery, and we get broke out on our face. Not our fault, just life. I think it'd be terrible to hold that against someone. I mean, I wouldn't like it if there were like, huge zits EVERYWHERE on him or something. And far as obesity goes, I've never been attracted to someone who was overweight. No idea why.
I'm overweight myself and have acne, and I'd feel horrible if someone held that against me (but I'm thinking it's not so much their weight). I also have flat feet/collapsed arch/collapsed in ankles (Google them if you're curious. But they're not very attractive). And surgery is an option, but I'd be trading bad ankles for bad surgery scars (plus I've never had surgery before, and I want to keep it that way).
I'm overweight myself and have acne, and I'd feel horrible if someone held that against me (but I'm thinking it's not so much their weight). I also have flat feet/collapsed arch/collapsed in ankles (Google them if you're curious. But they're not very attractive). And surgery is an option, but I'd be trading bad ankles for bad surgery scars (plus I've never had surgery before, and I want to keep it that way).
K
Why look at the flaws of a person? I truly don't let looks get in the way of getting to know people. As long as a person loves the Lord and has a good heart, that's all I care about Of course I'd want them to be proactive in being healthy, but it wouldn't matter about how they look.
Personality "flaws" are what would deter me
Of course I'd want them to be proactive in being healthy, but it wouldn't matter about how they look.Personality "flaws" are what would deter me
This is the thing. Beauty is a physical state that can be wiped away in seconds by a horrific accident or over a time frame by debilitating disease, but one thing is sure that beauty WILL fade with age regardless. Scars and other blemishes are a fact of life, we all end up with them one way or another.
My lady has a lengthy scar on her abdomen from an old surgery and is becoming overweight and developing stretch mark type blemishes due to medications she has to take. None of this changes who she is or why I love her. He (or she) who marries for beauty is for a horrific shock as life transpires.
My lady has a lengthy scar on her abdomen from an old surgery and is becoming overweight and developing stretch mark type blemishes due to medications she has to take. None of this changes who she is or why I love her. He (or she) who marries for beauty is for a horrific shock as life transpires.
I agree Oncefallen...you think a hot wife or husband will look so hot at 60 or 70 ? Without plastic surgery, probably not. Not saying you can't or won't have decent looks or won't be beautiful or attractive then. But it'll be in your personality and the way you treat people, I think. Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting. Make sense? I hope so.
C
Although of course I want to be attracted to my future spouse, I still want to love her unconditionally. There's also loving yourself... I have issues with this, i've always had confidence issues. But the thing is you can't love anyone until you love yourself.
I want to see my spouse as God sees her, just like I want to see myself as God sees me. I don't even want to think about tying the knot until I know I will love her in that way.
I want to see my spouse as God sees her, just like I want to see myself as God sees me. I don't even want to think about tying the knot until I know I will love her in that way.
I just think this is so true.. I think it's important to have a physical attraction but it shouldn't be the most important thing. I think it's human nature to see someone and automatically see them as 'attractive' or 'unattractive', but I find that once I get to know someone their spirit lights up and radiates onto their appearance almost.. and they become beautiful in my eyes.
I must admit, I think that's kinda awesome how that happens.. how God allows us to see the person for who they TRULY are... this body is merely a shell around who we truly are, and I think it's important to be able to see someone beyond just the outward appearance.
However I really like this quote above. When we're married, our bodies become our spouses. Once you get married, your body belongs to the other person.. a gift. In this I think looking after yourself is a nice gesture for your future spouse
I must admit, I think that's kinda awesome how that happens.. how God allows us to see the person for who they TRULY are... this body is merely a shell around who we truly are, and I think it's important to be able to see someone beyond just the outward appearance.
However I really like this quote above. When we're married, our bodies become our spouses. Once you get married, your body belongs to the other person.. a gift. In this I think looking after yourself is a nice gesture for your future spouse