Physical flaws in a relationship between a man and a woman, and the effect of those flaws on 'love', seem really to be love-stage dependant in my view. Consider...
A couple who are each in their late 70's or 80's, and who have been together for 50+ years, are almost certain to be 'in love'; even if that love is expressed only as a deep abiding commitment to each other, and to the Lord. Almost certainly each in that situation would have some sort of physical flaw which either might have considered a 'deal breaker' when they first met...
When two people meet initially however, (in my opinion) physical flaws become magnified in importance in relation to how 'selfish' are the motives of each person who is contemplating entry into a relationship.
Let's all face it, for the most part in our culture today, we DO begin our relationships with a pretty high degree of selfishness. We tend to look at whether another person is 'right for us' rather than whether or not we might be right for them, or right for God, by entering into a potential relationship. Perhaps this is a function of our romantic relationships being far less a matter of mutual material need today (such as a woman who needs a man to hunt for her, and a man who needs a woman to care for his home as he spends all waking hours working for the couple's mutual survival), so I hesitate to indict (some) minor selfish concerns when seeking a relationship partner. But if one totally bases a decision to pursue a relationship upon an aritrary standard pf physical 'perfection', and only considers partners who crosses a certain minimum standard set in relation to that, we can perhaps be passing up many partners who might be hugely edifying in our lives, and we might be passing up relationships which might be greatly edifying to God.
When we all are thinking of embarking upon a romantic relationship, I think we would all do well to remember:
1 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
2 And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
3 If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant
5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.
7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
[h=3]1 Corinthians 13:1-7 (ESV)[/h]
what do you think?