So you aren't allowed to vent???
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Well I see people hating on the fact that people vent on here about being single when this is a single forum. I don't go on other forums venting that or to my friends so the one people I thought I could talk to other then the suicide forum was this forum but I guess this is more of a troll forum if that is the case I know how it works on all those forums but I just thought this one would be different.
The fact that no one knows what you're talking about means it's actually not very clear. It's usually helpful, in that instance, to clarify what you mean, not attempt to be condescending.
Also, don't PM me about this response, either. Your last two rude PMs were reported. Probably a good idea not to send another one.
Also, don't PM me about this response, either. Your last two rude PMs were reported. Probably a good idea not to send another one.
Lol i'm lost too. I viewed it and didn't know what to post, so I just left. I thought it was just me. 
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Sometimes we get a little overly passionate about our opinions or things we care about. I am guilty of it, too. I vented in my blogs, however, rather than in the forums. I was still corrected there...but that's a whole different story.I think in order for the forums to be helpful, we need to be aware of our words and be careful how we say things, especially the things we're passionate about.
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Dude... You can't expect any of us to understand what you're talking about when you post a thread about something so random and vague. Be more specific with what's bothering you, and then you can get some good feedback.
I had no intention to upset you bro.
But yes, like the poster above me said, some people get carried away. I have gotten in a debate or two, we're only human. It happens.
I had no intention to upset you bro.
But yes, like the poster above me said, some people get carried away. I have gotten in a debate or two, we're only human. It happens.
Sorry I thought you were trying to be sarcastic or whatever. thanks for your response. Its just that no one wants to hear my problems so I thought this is a forum to post about stuff like that. Then I see some girl post a topic how she doesn't want to hear about our problems and everyone agreed. There are lots of forums to be heartless on I just was a little frustrated that this girl wast hating on similar stuff to what I've posted.
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You're new here. You don't know all the things people hear... and have to hear 1000 times. Mostly people exaggerating their issues, especially about being single. So perhaps, rather than judging the comments, with no information to go on, you should consider asking questions about what causes the person to feel this way. When every week it's a slew of new people, making the same comments and complaints as the people the week before that, and before that, and before that......... then yeah. It can get old. You may have been made aware of this if you hadn't blown up and started attacking people, and trolling around the forums going into other, unrelated threads, attacking people who tried to nicely help on this thread.
Well many people are similar and have similar problems just because you helped out someone before doesn't mean someone else doesn't need similar help and this is exactly what this forum is for so you are FLAT OUT WRONG and that is all there is to what you said. Why shouldn't I judge judgmental people?
I would say because two wrongs don't make a right and also because if you don't appreciate being judged, you shouldn't make others feel the way they made you feel.
Some people can be really, really harsh in their responses. Sometimes, I respond poorly in those cases, but of late, I have learned to respond differently. The Pastor's Wife at my church says, "Think of it like this: you have two buckets. One has gasoline and the other has water. Which one should you use?"
In truth, we should use water on the flames of irritation, anger or judgment, yet we use gasoline. This is a lesson I am still learning.
Some people can be really, really harsh in their responses. Sometimes, I respond poorly in those cases, but of late, I have learned to respond differently. The Pastor's Wife at my church says, "Think of it like this: you have two buckets. One has gasoline and the other has water. Which one should you use?"
In truth, we should use water on the flames of irritation, anger or judgment, yet we use gasoline. This is a lesson I am still learning.
I would say because two wrongs don't make a right and also because if you don't appreciate being judged, you shouldn't make others feel the way they made you feel.
Some people can be really, really harsh in their responses. Sometimes, I respond poorly in those cases, but of late, I have learned to respond differently. The Pastor's Wife at my church says, "Think of it like this: you have two buckets. One has gasoline and the other has water. Which one should you use?"
In truth, we should use water on the flames of irritation, anger or judgment, yet we use gasoline. This is a lesson I am still learning.
Some people can be really, really harsh in their responses. Sometimes, I respond poorly in those cases, but of late, I have learned to respond differently. The Pastor's Wife at my church says, "Think of it like this: you have two buckets. One has gasoline and the other has water. Which one should you use?"
In truth, we should use water on the flames of irritation, anger or judgment, yet we use gasoline. This is a lesson I am still learning.
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Hmm. Venting. Interesting. Let's review the title of the forum, and it's description.
Cut and pasted, directly from this very page (and enhanced for clarity):
[h=1]Christian Singles Forum[/h]Christian and single? Seek (or give) advice and encouragement here.
Seek advice and offer encouragement = venting?
That's not to say that one can't vent. But I think you miss the point that Emily was trying to make. As I pointed out in the very thread where this all blew up, Emily was pointing out that many of us are supposedly "dying of thirst" while standing knee deep in water! It's a serious point, and one with a great deal of merit. As members of the body of Christ, we are to be thankful and content in what God has given us. Especially in the Singles forum, we're a joyous bunch here...and a lot of that has to do with the fact that many of the veterans here are content in what the Lord provides. The love of Christ and the members of His body are our companionship, and we take joy in that, because that's what God expects of us. Do you honestly think that God would sacrifice His perfect, beloved Son for us so that we could spend our days complaining about being alone or how nobody loves us?
Nobody loves us?
CHRIST LOVES US! TO THE POINT OF ALLOWING HIMSELF TO BE SLAUGHTERED just so that we could share in the joy and glory of being called the children of the Most High God!
And we thank Him by sitting around a griping?
THIS is Emily's point. YOU made the assumption that she was "hating" on people. She didn't hate on anyone. She simply said she saw a lot of this particular behavior here.
Thought experiment. I live in El Paso, a border town. I walk into a restaurant, I look around, and I simply state, "There sure seem to be a lot of Mexicans here." Is your first instinct to jump up and say, "Hey, stop hating on Mexican people!" Or is your reaction to also look around the restaurant, and notice that the place is INDEED populated by Latin-Americans who identify as Mexican? I didn't hate. I just simply pointed something out.
So now that we've clarified Emily's motivation, let's take a look at how you've responded.
Someone makes a joke, not even directed at you. You call him a coward in response.
Because that's how Christ wants us to be, right? Spiteful and vindictive towards each other. Hate thy neighbor more than thou love thyself? Actually WISH that someone, a sister in Christ, no less...be sent to Hell, all because of a misunderstanding?
More personal attacks. As I've pointed out earlier in this very post - Emily knows precisely what the forum's purpose is. It is you, my friend, who have misinterpreted the purpose of this place.
Let's run another thought experiment. A man walks into a Sunday school class of single people. He doesn't know any of them, it's his first time there. But many of the people in the room have been friends for quite a while - months, years even. He comes in to the room, and introduces himself by yelling, "Being single sucks! God needs to fix this, and all you guys do is sit around making fun of people, because that's all I've seen in the whole two minutes I've been here!"
A nineteen year-old girl in the group looks up and says, "Being single in Christ doesn't suck. It's a blessing."
The new man responds by saying, "Well you're stupid! Why don't you go back to your stupid Pokemon game!"
A guy in a hat says, "Whoa man, where's all this coming from?"
New guy: "Your hat must be cutting off circulation to your brain! Nobody is listening to me!"
Someone else says, "You're being kind of rude."
New guy points at the girl. "SHE INSULTED ME! SHE STARTED IT FIRST!"
Keep in mind that this class has been meeting together for a while. Some of them think of each other like family. So I pose two questions in this thought experiment. One: if you were a member of that family, how would YOU react if some new person came rolling in like that and suddenly went off on one of the younger members of the group, someone you maybe considered a little sister? Two: which party seems to be acting more unreasonable, the new person, or the people who were just chilling out and minding their own business?
Cut and pasted, directly from this very page (and enhanced for clarity):
[h=1]Christian Singles Forum[/h]Christian and single? Seek (or give) advice and encouragement here.
Seek advice and offer encouragement = venting?
That's not to say that one can't vent. But I think you miss the point that Emily was trying to make. As I pointed out in the very thread where this all blew up, Emily was pointing out that many of us are supposedly "dying of thirst" while standing knee deep in water! It's a serious point, and one with a great deal of merit. As members of the body of Christ, we are to be thankful and content in what God has given us. Especially in the Singles forum, we're a joyous bunch here...and a lot of that has to do with the fact that many of the veterans here are content in what the Lord provides. The love of Christ and the members of His body are our companionship, and we take joy in that, because that's what God expects of us. Do you honestly think that God would sacrifice His perfect, beloved Son for us so that we could spend our days complaining about being alone or how nobody loves us?
Nobody loves us?
CHRIST LOVES US! TO THE POINT OF ALLOWING HIMSELF TO BE SLAUGHTERED just so that we could share in the joy and glory of being called the children of the Most High God!
And we thank Him by sitting around a griping?
THIS is Emily's point. YOU made the assumption that she was "hating" on people. She didn't hate on anyone. She simply said she saw a lot of this particular behavior here.
Thought experiment. I live in El Paso, a border town. I walk into a restaurant, I look around, and I simply state, "There sure seem to be a lot of Mexicans here." Is your first instinct to jump up and say, "Hey, stop hating on Mexican people!" Or is your reaction to also look around the restaurant, and notice that the place is INDEED populated by Latin-Americans who identify as Mexican? I didn't hate. I just simply pointed something out.
So now that we've clarified Emily's motivation, let's take a look at how you've responded.
Someone makes a joke, not even directed at you. You call him a coward in response.
Because that's how Christ wants us to be, right? Spiteful and vindictive towards each other. Hate thy neighbor more than thou love thyself? Actually WISH that someone, a sister in Christ, no less...be sent to Hell, all because of a misunderstanding?
More personal attacks. As I've pointed out earlier in this very post - Emily knows precisely what the forum's purpose is. It is you, my friend, who have misinterpreted the purpose of this place.
Let's run another thought experiment. A man walks into a Sunday school class of single people. He doesn't know any of them, it's his first time there. But many of the people in the room have been friends for quite a while - months, years even. He comes in to the room, and introduces himself by yelling, "Being single sucks! God needs to fix this, and all you guys do is sit around making fun of people, because that's all I've seen in the whole two minutes I've been here!"
A nineteen year-old girl in the group looks up and says, "Being single in Christ doesn't suck. It's a blessing."
The new man responds by saying, "Well you're stupid! Why don't you go back to your stupid Pokemon game!"
A guy in a hat says, "Whoa man, where's all this coming from?"
New guy: "Your hat must be cutting off circulation to your brain! Nobody is listening to me!"
Someone else says, "You're being kind of rude."
New guy points at the girl. "SHE INSULTED ME! SHE STARTED IT FIRST!"
Keep in mind that this class has been meeting together for a while. Some of them think of each other like family. So I pose two questions in this thought experiment. One: if you were a member of that family, how would YOU react if some new person came rolling in like that and suddenly went off on one of the younger members of the group, someone you maybe considered a little sister? Two: which party seems to be acting more unreasonable, the new person, or the people who were just chilling out and minding their own business?