i dont know what a perfect moment is.. but whatever it is, im sure it is a very brief moment.
my best moment of my life was when the judge granted me emergency custody ( which turned out to be the 1st day of custody ) after not seeing her for 4 months and just all the trouble and drama i went through with her mother and her whole family for those couple years i was with her... that moment she said, "i grant you emergency custody", lasted for about 2 seconds, but it felt like an eternity and it was much more than just those words. i really cant even explain everything it meant to me. i had to hold back some tears of joy, tho.. it was great, and i knew God was behind the whole thing. if it wasnt for God, i wouldnt have her today, and i also more than likely wouldnt have my sanity.
that whole day was amazing, tho. she was 8 months old, and the last time i saw her before that, she was 4 months, she looked like this
my little fatty when i use to call her JaJa... but she outgrew that, now i just call her by her full name. Jahiya.
then when i was granted custody, she was 8 months, january 8, 2010. for some reason, when the cops served the court order, they didnt want her mother to know i was there, so they had me stand back. so i follow them up to the 3rd floor, im standing by the stairs out of site.
they knock, "open up, its the police!", she opens the door and they show her the court order and tell her that they have to take jahiya because court granted me emergency custody. she tried to play dumb like she couldnt make it, blah blah... then reality set it, she wasnt getting what she wanted.. she couldnt get her way.. so she let out a big burst and started crying, weeping.. fake? maybe.. exaggerated? most definitely. i just remember being so anxious, nervous, it was surreal. i was shaking.
so the cop goes in the apartment and helps gathering her things, then he brings her out. he motions me to go downstairs so he doesnt have to stop and make it obvious im there.. so i meet him on the 1st floor... shes in her carrier.. finally!! i got my baby!! i go outside, turn her around and lift up the blanket covering her face because it was cold outside. after 4 months of not seeing me, you know what she said when she 1st saw me? 1st thing she did was smile and says, "daddy!"... that was a perfect moment. i didnt think she was even going to remember me! not only did she remember me, but she even knew who i was and called me daddy! thats how i knew God was with me and this was meant to happen. only God can make something so beautiful out of a situation so ugly.
all the drama, and BS i went through in the couple years i was with her mother ( i wish i could share every crazy story but i dont think i would ever stop typing ), every second of the craziness was WELL worth it and wouldnt trade it for anything because it brought me my lovely, beautiful daughter.
when she was born, i felt like a young man.. but when i got custody of her? when i got custody of her, i felt like a grown ass man on top of the world. excuse my language. i was 22 lol. couldnt tell me nothing.
i enjoyed sharing this story. i think this is the 1st time i actually shared this story.. at least in this way.
but that was a perfect situation. i dont know if it was a "perfect moment".