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"I don't care what they think/say" may be the most destructive thing to think/say
In general, we should not care what people think or say. That should not be a prime motivator for our behavior.
On the other hand, I have noticed often times, when people play the, "I don't care what they say/think." card, they are engaged in behaviors that are wrong or self destructive.
This card is played as sort of a mental escape, so emphasis can be taken off of one's own behavior, and put onto someone/someones else.
Someone may engage in "fill in the blank" wrong/destructive behavior. As a way to deflect the wrongness of their behavior away from their conscience, they may say, "Well I don't live caring about what people think or say about me."
This little mental tactic allows a person to make "the other people" the issue. You know, "those other people" who are thinking and saying things contrary to your destructive/wrong behavior.
People making use of this escapist tactic should be warned. Your tactic is only a momentary escape to avoid the trap your own actions have set for yourself.
In general, we should not care what people think or say. That should not be a prime motivator for our behavior.
On the other hand, I have noticed often times, when people play the, "I don't care what they say/think." card, they are engaged in behaviors that are wrong or self destructive.
This card is played as sort of a mental escape, so emphasis can be taken off of one's own behavior, and put onto someone/someones else.
Someone may engage in "fill in the blank" wrong/destructive behavior. As a way to deflect the wrongness of their behavior away from their conscience, they may say, "Well I don't live caring about what people think or say about me."
This little mental tactic allows a person to make "the other people" the issue. You know, "those other people" who are thinking and saying things contrary to your destructive/wrong behavior.
People making use of this escapist tactic should be warned. Your tactic is only a momentary escape to avoid the trap your own actions have set for yourself.
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