Death of a long distant friend...

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Katy-follower

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A long distant friend died recently. According to the coroner's report it was ruled a suicide in the bath tub. I think she may have been intoxicated, while others think there may have been foul play.

I'm both sad and stunned by this terrible news and it's been on my mind all day today. I knew her for 6 years, though we lost contact last year.

She wasn't born again. I didn't lead her to Christ :(

I can't help but blame myself. There's a reason we meet the people we do. She must have been put in my life for a reason.

Prayers and strength needed for her family..

:(
 
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jb800m

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standing with you in your prayers
 

loveme1

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In my prayers you shall be my friend.

Peace and Blessings in the name of Yahvah GOD and Yahshua the Messiah.
 
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melodiemix

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A long distant friend died recently. According to the coroner's report it was ruled a suicide in the bath tub. I think she may have been intoxicated, while others think there may have been foul play.

I'm both sad and stunned by this terrible news and it's been on my mind all day today. I knew her for 6 years, though we lost contact last year.


Dear Lord,


She wasn't born again. I didn't lead her to Christ :(

I can't help but blame myself. There's a reason we meet the people we do. She must have been put in my life for a reason.

Prayers and strength needed for her family..

:(
Dear Lord,

Thank you Lord for whom you are. Lord we lift up the family of this loved one to you and all family and friends that knew her. We pray that your love would surround the person whom is writing this post and Lord let her know that shes not to blame but to cherish ways of remembering there time precious together. May you be the tower of strength, and prince of peace to all involved. Thank you Lord amen.
 
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CHRISTENE

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Prayed.

Thanks and glory be to God.
 

Katy-follower

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Today I'm feeling terrible and so sad. Please pray for me :( :(

I can't help but feel like this is my fault because I wasn't there for her and I never shared Christ with her.

Today I found an unread email from her where she had reached out to me and wanted to talk. It was from late last year and I didn't read it until today.

I don't think I can forgive myself for this :(
 

pickles

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Praying for her, her family and you also in Jesus's name.

Huge hugs and God bless
pickles
 

ChosenbyHim

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Hi there Katy, I am praying for you friend. And also the family and relatives of your friend which has passed away.

Hang in there dear friend.
 
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v2jo

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Hi,

Whatever the reason is for not reading her emails is past, and believe me your friend never want you to feel upset and guilty. As a friend she will want you to stay strong and happy for the rest of your life, and remember her as the one who both of you've for the 5 years of precious times together.

Will pray for you and your friend too.

Best regards,
J

PS: Experiencing the situation of someone who I regard her as a dearest sis of mine, and even though she ignored my messages or emails to her, I've never blamed her for not being with me during weeks of me feeling fear with those thing who are not meant to be given to me by God. Till now my thought and feeling toward her is "Sis sis can stay happy, healthy and blessed by God." .... Don't blame yourself and there a reason for God to bring to person together, and has the person to be taken away from us. Trust in Him and stay strong.

Today I'm feeling terrible and so sad. Please pray for me :( :(

I can't help but feel like this is my fault because I wasn't there for her and I never shared Christ with her.

Today I found an unread email from her where she had reached out to me and wanted to talk. It was from late last year and I didn't read it until today.

I don't think I can forgive myself for this :(
 
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psychomom

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Today I'm feeling terrible and so sad. Please pray for me :( :(

I can't help but feel like this is my fault because I wasn't there for her and I never shared Christ with her.

Today I found an unread email from her where she had reached out to me and wanted to talk. It was from late last year and I didn't read it until today.

I don't think I can forgive myself for this :(
I began to pray for you the moment I read your first post, Katy dearest.
Take that guilt and condemnation to the Cross.
Our God has many ways to reach a person, and we r-e-a-l-l-y don't know for sure He didn't. <3

You are in shock
(who wouldn't be!) but in time your Father will show you what He wants you to learn from this.
Meanwhile I pray you receive comfort, and the assurance of God's great love for you.

i love you,
ellie
 
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I will pray for you, Katy. Please don't take this guilt upon yourself. It is too heavy for you to bear. The decision was hers to make, and her's alone. There is no guarantee that what you would have said would have made any difference.

I am sorry for your loss and I'm sure that your friend would not want you to carry that burden around either, so please don't let it bring your own spirit down. Instead, the life that she would have wanted you to and honor her memory that way. God bless you.
 
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...p.s., I know how you feel about certain teachings but I am going to go ahead and pray for your friend's soul anyway, as well as for you and her family.

God bless.
 
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Gail421

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I feel certain that you friend is in a place now where she has complete understanding and is no longer bound by earthly judgements and hurts. And she probably wants you to be at peace. (The Bible says that God won't let even one of his sheep go missing. I believe that. She is with Him, I am sure.)

I pray for you, for peace and clarity, and comfort. God Bless. Gail
 
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xAlphaOmega

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You have a great heart I will tell you that. I will also tell you what everyone else has been saying. That whats done is done and dont let your past hold you back. Coulda shoulda woulda, if we live in that mentality we will drive ourselves crazy. Please, live in the now and use this as a wake up call to be a light unto others for Christ. Dont waste moments on what should have happened or what could have been. Start now, be an example to those around you. Who knows, maybe God is using this to call you to reach out to a multitude of lives around you.

Praying for you
 

Angela53510

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Praying for you and the family.

I think we can all learn a lesson from this tragedy. We need to be prepared to share Christ, even if it is embarrassing or we might lose the person as a friend.

I do not believe you can be held solely responsible. Every Christian she ever met needed to share the gospel with her. We always want the preacher or the evangelist to be the one who leads people to Christ. But being bold and having someone accept Christ is the BEST experience a Christian can have. Jesus tells us that WE are to make disciples! The pastors and evangelists are just there to teach us how to do it!

"He handed out gifts of apostle, prophet, evangelist, and pastor-teacher to train Christ’s followers in skilled servant work, working within Christ’s body, the church," Eph. 4:11-12 The Message

I do not have the gift of evangelism, but I try very hard to share Christ with people. You never know when life will end, and we cannot assume that someone else will have done the job!
 

Katy-follower

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Thanks for all your prayers. I really appreciate it.

Today someone shared one of her emails with me. I won't post it all as it's long and sad, but here's a snippet...

"...I am trying to figure out the right way to survive but I keep getting confused, either from my own fear to take a risk or by people pushing me to do "the right thing" in their perception...... My main focus is to figure out my life before I go insane and end up like Camile Claudel.."


I do share Christ with others. I witnessed to someone last month and spent 2 hours talking with him. He wanted what I had and wanted to know how to be saved. I even update my facebook page regularly with scriptures, I put God first, risking being alienated in my career through being open about my faith, but I trust God. With this situation I just lost contact with her last year, though she had been on my mind lately. She just slipped through my fingers. Though some good has come out of it... there's a friend of hers who is incredibly sad right now, so I'm sending him a christian bereavement book and sharing Christ with him.

Life is short and no one knows when their last breath will be. We do need to witness to everyone we know. We're called to share the gospel. The lost are out in the world, so we need to reach out to them.

Since my last post, something interesting happened. Several months ago I had asked members on here to pray for someone who I had a strong conviction was meant to be saved. Then just a couple of days ago I received an email from a woman asking me to remember to pray for that individual. It came at the right time. I felt like God was telling me to not dwell on the death of my friend, but to focus on the living now, the lost that don't know Christ yet.... and my prayer life has been terrible lately, so this was a way of encouraging me to pray for someone else. She led me to a website where other believers have that same strong conviction to pray for this individual.

This song will always remind me of her. It's been a favorite of mine for several months and just so happened that shortly before her death she commented on how much she loved it. The title is "Summertime Sadness" and the lyrics seem to match with what was about to happen to her. I keep hearing this song all around me and this morning I woke up and when I turned on the radio this was the first track I heard again.

Thanks again for all the prayers. They mean a lot :)

[video=youtube_share;akhmS1D2Ce4]http://youtu.be/akhmS1D2Ce4[/video]
 
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pickles

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Continueing to pray for you in Jesus, that the work of God Our Father will be glorified!

God bless
pickles