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TDWPChristianMetalhead777

TDWPChristianMetalhead777

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My 17 year old son is dating a 15 yr old.for the past 7 months.she is not saved...he is and we are..she is very world and very possessive of my son, MY HUSBAND AND I BOTH ARE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THIS RELATIONSHIP.
recently I saw an advertisement of the sexual explicit nature on her FacebooK PAGE..kUST ANOTHER REASON WHY WE WANT THEM TO PART WAYS ..WHAT WOULD U DO? ITS BEEN 7 MONTHS..:(
 
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Richie_2uk

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As Much as you are not happy about the relationship, your 17 yr old son needs to see the wrong by himself. Maybe have a quiet chat with him, not to point finger to say you want them to split. Just air your concerns thru the love of Christ. then at least you did your part as a parent and Christian to advise him. then its up to him then to see it for himself, as young as they are, love can blind them and can lead them the wrong way. In the mean time pray get God's Will as to what to do and at least you are involving God in the matter. God will intervene and will help in that situation. God Bless
 
T_Laurich

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please notice I have never been in your situation, nor your sons (since I am new to Christianity).

First off I would show your son a verse 2 Corinthians 6:14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

And explain to him, the purpose of dating is to find a wife... And the purpose of a wife is to help you focus and love more on God...

Also maybe show him the parable of the seeds being planted in soil... And show him the one of the weeds choking out the good plant... And explain to him the old saying 'your are your friends'.

And I agree with Richie, do not be overbearing on him... yes you need to stress your opinion and what the Word says... But on the same hand, don't just let him run free... :)
 
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tdrew777

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You are 26 and your son is 17? Something there does not add up.
One thing is rules, another thing is relationships.
Your son, living in your house, needs to follow your rules. Rules would normally address things like drug/alcohol abuse and church attendance. I assume he is breaking no rules in this relationship. If he is in violation, those things need to be first addressed.

The most important result is the relationship you maintain with your son. Do you spend time with your son? Can you spend time with his "girl friend"? Though there are no formulas to live by, the purpose of the entire "girlfriend/boyfriend" dynamic escapes me. Choosing a mate, in my culture, is a family affair, not an individual one. When teenagers, or even adults, are having a serious relationship with someone of the opposite sex that does not contemplate marriage as the end, I wonder what the purpose of the relationship might be. Do you share this point of view? If not, can you articulate your point of view?
Then, can you articulate your point of view to your son? (This would be relational sharing, not setting new rules). Then, can you articulate your point of view to your son's girlfriend?
 
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Richie_2uk

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26? hmm that does not add up lol
 
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colalella2891

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This is a tough one... I mean you can't just flat out tell your son that he can't see her anymore, because that will just make him mad. I guess I would just have a talk with him, and let him know how you feel, in a respectful and loving way. Also, you can pray about this and ask for God to give you wisdom and insight on this matter. He can tell you exactly what to do.

But yeah, just don't flat out tell him he can't see her anymore. My sister's friend, John, is also a christian and he was in love with this girl. I believe she was a christian too, so this situation was a bit different. John's parents felt like he was too young to be dating, so they told him he and this other girl couldn't see each other anymore. He then began to sneak out and see the girl behind his parents' backs. So if you tell him how you feel in the wrong way, it won't solve the problem.

Just tell him how you feel, but don't order him not to see this girl. Hope this helps. :)
 
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woka

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Acceptance, acceptance, acceptance for me is the absolute key thing to do. When she is completely accepted by you then she will be able to see the Lord in you, do you ever discuss the Lord with her? Not on the basis of what she should and should not be doing but about what He did for her. Do you know what her desire's are, do you know where she want's to go in life, does she feel important in your home?

You see when my son has dated I have made an absolute effort to get to know the girl, we have often sat and had tea, I have told them thing's like, I love you because the Lord first loved you, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Because when they are accepted it allows them to allow you into their space, it makes it easier to talk about thing's, some of my son't girlfriends have told me thing;s they have never told their parents even. I try very hard not to judge and try to see them as the Lord does, this then allows everyone to feel like they can share what their concerns are etc. Nobody feels judged and the relationship for what it is can go further or end.

I hope this helps you a bit, I have had little sleep so my brain is still a big foggy.
 
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Richie_2uk

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ooops is someone telling porkies about there age? lol I'm Joking with you, it's none of my or anyone's business what info you share on a Christian site. but I agree with TDrew777 also T_Laurich. Hope you sort it out before it goes out of your reach as a very young parent,
 
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Richie_2uk

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Hmm quiet goes the thread. lol one wonders why? were the appreciation gone these days, lol people ask questions, and in fairness they take time to answer, and the original op, just qoes quiet, no thanks, no oh ok, or some acknowledgement. Just quiet. Its no biggie, but a response wouldn't take that much time from your life now would it? God bless.
 
Violet1993

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maybe God is using ur son to show her Christian way into her life?
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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Your 17 year old son? You and your husband?

Your profile says your a 26 year old man. Ummm how did anyone not notice this?

They really need to restrict internet access to the crazies
 
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Richie_2uk

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NodMyHeadLikeYeah said:
Your 17 year old son? You and your husband?

Your profile says your a 26 year old man. Ummm how did anyone not notice this?

They really need to restrict internet access to the crazies
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Yep look up a few posts Nodmyheadlikeyeah. lol
 
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Richie_2uk

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ooops I think some is telling porkies lol
 
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BigCarta94

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I'm 19 years old and just went through "hell" with the 19 year old girl who I thought was the love of my life. I was with her on and off for 8 and a half months, we were going to get married even though I knew she was unstable. We planned on having a child and a month ago we succeeded and thus she was pregnant. Yesterday she had the child aborted :( out of pure craziness and anger. I was really looking forward to being a father, I am taking this abortion extremely hard.
 
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AgeofKnowledge

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Be careful with that one. I had a friend who was in ministry and his 17 year old son disappeared. Literally disappeared. The father and mother were besides themselves and filed police reports and a private investigator. Several months later they were able to track their son down and finally bring him home.

What had happened was he had started dating a 16 year old girl at his high school and "fallen in love." Well, her mother was a Wiccan and filled both their heads with a bunch of antichristian nonsense and told them you can live your lives together. So the boy simply moved in with the mother and daughter and stopped going to school and didn't tell his parents because they would have intervened. Of course they were fornicating.

It wasn't until a couple months after the dad and authorities finally found and removed the son and brought him back home that he realized and admitted he had fallen under their spell.

The mother was brought up on several felony charges.

Your situation might be different but... well... who knows right?


TDWPChristianMetalhead777 said:
My 17 year old son is dating a 15 yr old.for the past 7 months.she is not saved...he is and we are..she is very world and very possessive of my son, MY HUSBAND AND I BOTH ARE UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THIS RELATIONSHIP.
recently I saw an advertisement of the sexual explicit nature on her FacebooK PAGE..kUST ANOTHER REASON WHY WE WANT THEM TO PART WAYS ..WHAT WOULD U DO? ITS BEEN 7 MONTHS..:(
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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Richie_2uk said:
Its ok Nod, I wont hold you to it hehe. Well no response from the OP< so make will of this thread lol
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People are still replying like this is legit.... should we tell them it's probably not?? ;)
 
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hope36523

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The one thing you dont want to do is forbid them to see each other it will just want them to see one another more,set the both of them with the girls parents and have a famly decussion about whats expected on there relatiomship while they live under parents roof mabye this will help i am just gettng there with teens i got a 17 yr old son with autism who hasnt dated and a 14 yr old who just started being inteested in girls and has had girl friends we sat down and had our talks about abstanence and how to treat girls with respect and havent had any problems with any dateing issues yet he even broke up with a girl for geting upset cause he didnt want to make out so from te experince i have had be open and talk and listen,sometimes the talks are embaressing but they do help
 
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hope36523

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i will keep you in my prayers raising teens is had
 
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