I'm not an effusive person. But when I meet someone who is, it's hard not to feel like I have to "return" compliments. The thing is, if I only said something because I felt like I had to, then it would be fake, you know? So here's a question for the effusive people. When you're talking to someone who isn't returning your compliments, do you just assume that they aren't effusive, or do you think that they're purposefully taking compliments and never repaying them?
Just to clarify, I'm not the type to fish for compliments (unless they're for my goldfish
). And, for the sake of discussion, I'm not talking about flatterers or manipulators who say things that they don't really mean. I'm talking about people who are being genuine.
I think, you owe me some compliments, popclickety. 'Likes' are always acceptable trade value too
Seriously, nah, I don't think about that stuff, especiallly, not that I need a 'like' but, sometimes, OK, maybe, often, someone says something they are expecting me to respond to or compliment them back and I don't even know they have said anything to me because I misss it. Giving me a 'like' if you compliment me and not just do a post writing compliment will get me to click on the post more likely than not and respond.
Gotta remember, this is a social network and things are always moving, so, are our lives, which are in REAL TIME and christianchat.com , unless you are in the chatroom or PMing with someone, is not real time in the forums.
So, people got to realize we are not in real-time here and so when you compliment someone, who knows, maybe, they have to go to work right after you post, or, church, or , eat dinner, or, who knows, worst case scenario would be they are going somewhere where there is no internet ,like camping or, maybe, they lose power in there area for a day or two. like if you were in, think it was Louisville, on Sunday, people were taking a boat through that town because of the flooding and worrying about the christianchat.com experience was likely not high on their agenda .