Hi Grace, sorry I'm a bit late to answer your thread.
And here's where I can be called out as a total hypocrite. I always complain about older guys hitting on me; but every now and then, a younger guy will try to talk to me, and I'm much more attracted to younger (depending!) than older. This will sound strange, but I feel safer around someone younger or about my age. Because I look younger than I am, older people often dismiss me as a cute kid and talk down to me. Younger people talk to me on a more even level.
Actually, I always feel in-between. I'm not a parent which I find is rare in most places at my age. Without a family, sometimes I feel frozen in time. I'm still in that stage of trying to figure out my life and what God wants me to do with it, whereas someone with a family or established career already has a fairly clear direction.
Over the past 3 years, at different times, I've been asked out by guys who were 21, 22, and 26 (not at the same time, of course!) Nothing worked because of things that could happen with anyone (one was into drugs, another, alcohol, and the third had too much going on to ever be available) but we were also at very different stages of life.
I try to be open-minded about a person as an individual rather than age... but like anyone else, I have preferences, too. I could easily see marrying someone, say, 5 years older or younger... But beyond that, I actually prefer younger, but probably not quite 21!! LOL!!
And here's where I can be called out as a total hypocrite. I always complain about older guys hitting on me; but every now and then, a younger guy will try to talk to me, and I'm much more attracted to younger (depending!) than older. This will sound strange, but I feel safer around someone younger or about my age. Because I look younger than I am, older people often dismiss me as a cute kid and talk down to me. Younger people talk to me on a more even level.
Actually, I always feel in-between. I'm not a parent which I find is rare in most places at my age. Without a family, sometimes I feel frozen in time. I'm still in that stage of trying to figure out my life and what God wants me to do with it, whereas someone with a family or established career already has a fairly clear direction.
Over the past 3 years, at different times, I've been asked out by guys who were 21, 22, and 26 (not at the same time, of course!) Nothing worked because of things that could happen with anyone (one was into drugs, another, alcohol, and the third had too much going on to ever be available) but we were also at very different stages of life.
I try to be open-minded about a person as an individual rather than age... but like anyone else, I have preferences, too. I could easily see marrying someone, say, 5 years older or younger... But beyond that, I actually prefer younger, but probably not quite 21!! LOL!!