Why and How Single Christian Women Should Start Pursuing Men

[mystdancer50]

I disagree. When Boaz sees Ruth working in his field, he doesn't ask about her just because of her work. He was definitely attracted to her. He didn't invite any of the other women to sit and have lunch with him. Just Ruth.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Scripture simply isn't clear about what Boaz felt for Ruth before finding her at the foot of his bed. I think we must all agree though, that she was bold and brave for approaching him that way, even if she did sense romantic interest.

 

[Rockbysea]

I disagree. When Boaz sees Ruth working in his field, he doesn't ask about her just because of her work. He was definitely attracted to her. He didn't invite any of the other women to sit and have lunch with him. Just Ruth.

I appreciate your view but I see nothing in the scriptures that definitively indicates that Boaz initially had romantic interests in Ruth. But I do understand your assumptions based on the fact that older men most always find younger beautiful women attractive and they’re always considering the possibility of a dream come true. But I will not assume without printed proof that Boaz had those intentions.

 

[mystdancer50]

I appreciate your view but I see nothing in the scriptures that definitively indicates that Boaz initially had romantic interests in Ruth. But I do understand your assumptions based on the fact that older men most always find younger beautiful women attractive and they’re always considering the possibility of a dream come true. But I will not assume without printed proof that Boaz had those intentions.

Really? You can see inside my head and know why I interpret Scripture that way? Good to know.

It has nothing to do with "older" and "younger". It has to do with this:

5 Boaz asked his young servant who was foreman over the farm hands, “Who is this young woman? Where did she come from?”6-7 The foreman said, “Why, that’s the Moabite girl, the one who came with Naomi from the country of Moab. She asked permission. ‘Let me glean,’ she said, ‘and gather among the sheaves following after your harvesters.’ She’s been at it steady ever since, from early morning until now, without so much as a break.”
8-9 Then Boaz spoke to Ruth: “Listen, my daughter. From now on don’t go to any other field to glean—stay right here in this one. And stay close to my young women. Watch where they are harvesting and follow them. And don’t worry about a thing; I’ve given orders to my servants not to harass you. When you get thirsty, feel free to go and drink from the water buckets that the servants have filled.”
10 She dropped to her knees, then bowed her face to the ground. “How does this happen that you should pick me out and treat me so kindly—me, a foreigner?”
11-12 Boaz answered her, “I’ve heard all about you—heard about the way you treated your mother-in-law after the death of her husband, and how you left your father and mother and the land of your birth and have come to live among a bunch of total strangers. God reward you well for what you’ve done—and with a generous bonus besides from God, to whom you’ve come seeking protection under his wings.”
13 She said, “Oh sir, such grace, such kindness—I don’t deserve it. You’ve touched my heart, treated me like one of your own. And I don’t even belong here!”
14 At the lunch break, Boaz said to her, “Come over here; eat some bread. Dip it in the wine.”
So she joined the harvesters. Boaz passed the roasted grain to her. She ate her fill and even had some left over.
15-16 When she got up to go back to work, Boaz ordered his servants: “Let her glean where there’s still plenty of grain on the ground—make it easy for her. Better yet, pull some of the good stuff out and leave it for her to glean. Give her special treatment.”
17-18 Ruth gleaned in the field until evening. When she threshed out what she had gathered, she ended up with nearly a full sack of barley! She gathered up her gleanings, went back to town, and showed her mother-in-law the results of her day’s work; she also gave her the leftovers from her lunch.

Why only Ruth? Other women were working in his field. Other women had been working in his field forever. And, why did he invite her to have lunch with him and leave all the others out? Why did he give her special treatment? Later, he makes a reference to her purity and how he knows that she hasn't pursued younger men: why would he even care if she was looking at other men?

 

[Rockbysea]

Boaz asked his young servant who was foreman over the farm hands, “Who is this young woman? Where did she come from?”6-7 The foreman said, “Why, that’s the Moabite girl, the one who came with Naomi from the country of Moab. She asked permission. ‘Let me glean,’ she said, ‘and gather among the sheaves following after your harvesters.’ She’s been at it steady ever since, from early morning until now, without so much as a break.”
8-9 Then Boaz spoke to Ruth: “Listen, my daughter.

Yes… and when Boaz found out that she was the woman from Moab that he heard reports about her loyalty to Naomi, a very close relative, he in turn showed her special favor based upon that. There is no definitive statements that he showed her favor because of romantic interests.

And take note: Boaz called Ruth his “daughter”…. That implied the relationship he wanted to establish with someone who was kind to his close relative… Boaz would not give the signal of romantic intentions towards someone he calls his daughter.

 

[Liamson]

Forget Boaz and Ruth, lets rent an apartment in Vietnam!!

 

[Chey60]

Its a cultural thing here locally in Idaho. For men to simply take a woman by the hand and lead them from first meeting all the way to the finish line. And it sort of leaves women on Autopilot. Also labels are big here too.
I want to find a woman who will be my favorite human being in the whole wide world. I want us to fall in love and never be parted. I want to be captivated by her thoughts, her imagination, her beauty, her curiosity, and her wisdom. I want to write to her. I want to sing about her. I want to dance at the thought of who she is to me. I want to run with her. I want to swim beside her. I want to challenge her. I want to learn from her. I want to laugh until we think we pass out. I want to cry, until there are no more tears left. I want to live out the rest of my days, not bound by anything greater than the love we have for each other.

If she is as common as you suggest, than I am blind, deaf, immune to her charms, and utterly oblivious.

wow.. like i said before, wish you were 20 years older..
just like you have a hard time finding women like what I have suggested, the women I know that are single are waiting for someone like you! If a woman isn't right for you, she isn't right for you..God gave you desires and that is who you are and that is the one you hold out for..she's out there!
Do what I did, write a list after prayer of the desires you have in a wife and then put it in your bible or journal..
take it out every now and again and pray.
I have been friends on facebook with a young christian guy for a long time.. we used to talk about and pray about the woman he was waiting for..he met her two years ago finally!! (It took about 2 years from the time I met him and he had some near hits..he was very picky..)
and married her this year. There were even times during their courtship he wasn't sure she was the one..
but those times were growth for him..and he married her I am so happy for them!

And to that end, for you, she just hasn't appeared...you have to just immerse yourself in God's kingdom like I assume you are already doing... serve in your local church, let them minister to you and you minister to them..and I have to believe this breath of fresh air, this sunrise will come into your sites soon!
you actually got me teary eyed here..

Father...in Jesus name.. first we thank you for the gift of YOU!, for dying for us, for living for us, through us, for allowing us to know you and to be loved by you! Lord I thank you that you pursued us when we were sinners and soooo undeserving of your grace.. we thank you that though we still are so undeserving that you see us through YOUR eyes and not ours.
Lord you say in scripture where two or more are gathered in your name you are in their midst.. I consider this gathered in your name..you also say that where two or more agree as touching anything on this earth they shall have it.. so Father in the name of JESUS I pray that you will touch this man's life...that you hear his heart, know his desires that your desires for a woman in his life, a wife become his desires... Lord I pray that you will give him a heart that trusts in you, a servant's heart and heart that desires to become the man of God that you have purposed him to be, not just for the church, but for his wife, his family, his church and the world.. I pray that you make him a world changer Lord!! That he will walk, live, speak , think and love in his purpose!! We again thank you for having created us, formed us, knitted us from before time began and that you are now molding us into your likeness!!! Now we praise you for the answer to these requests!! We praise you for keeping us content where we are, we praise you for the people whose lives we touch and we praise you that we could freely speak your name over one another in power and love ..!! in Jesus name!


Believe and receive your blessings my brother

 

[mystdancer50]

The use of 'daughter' in those days meant more than just one thing.

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   1. 1. as personification
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[mystdancer50]

We can bat around if Boaz found Ruth attractive or not until we die, but the point of this thread is not that at all, but rather the fact that the speaker in the video in the OP uses Ruth as a reason for permitting and encouraging women to initiate relationships with men. He states that he meant 'friendships' because men marry their best friends, which time has shown us is not the case, unless you're watching Hollywood movies.

So, his statement that Ruth initiated the relationship with Boaz is false, making his justification incorrect, and that is the whole reason the Boaz and Ruth thing came up. Regardless of how we feel his feelings were, he, himself, initiated the relationship, not Ruth, which is what I stated originally before the great derailment. I refer you to page one of this thread. Watch the video, see the whole point of bringing Ruth and Boaz and their relationship up in the first place, and we'll bring this whole thread back into context, which is, should women be forward and initiate relationships? I say no and despite the video speaker's attempt to justify it using Ruth, it shows plainly that Ruth was only responding to a relationship that Boaz began, beit romantic or friendly.

I am not innocent in feeding into the derailment, I am just weary of skidding off the tracks.

 

[Chey60]

Yes… and when Boaz found out that she was the woman from Moab that he heard reports about her loyalty to Naomi, a very close relative, he in turn showed her special favor based upon that. There is no definitive statements that he showed her favor because of romantic interests.

And take note: Boaz called Ruth his “daughter”…. That implied the relationship he wanted to establish with someone who was kind to his close relative… Boaz would not give the signal of romantic intentions towards someone he calls his daughter.

See Myst's answer it's a good one..
also, Boaz would have not married and had children with a woman he saw as his daughter either..;/

 

[Liamson]

wow.. like i said before, wish you were 20 years older..
just like you have a hard time finding women like what I have suggested, the women I know that are single are waiting for someone like you! If a woman isn't right for you, she isn't right for you..God gave you desires and that is who you are and that is the one you hold out for..she's out there!
Do what I did, write a list after prayer of the desires you have in a wife and then put it in your bible or journal..
take it out every now and again and pray.

Im not going to make a list. And to be honest I'm really not that picky about attributes.

Because the things I really really care about aren't going be things like whether or not she smokes or has tattoos. What kind of church she goes to or how much money she makes.

Its more like, is she living her life to meet everyone's expectations or is she thinking for herself about what is truly right, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

I won't date a woman who has a lack of respect for her father. For some reason, when a woman is her father's buddy, we get along really well and everything else works. But when that is missing, eventually she is going to hate me for the same reasons that she hates him, because maybe I start to sound like him or whatever. It just doesn't work.

And I'm not going to limit what God can do in this department by giving him a list.


To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under heaven.

 

[Chey60]

Im not going to make a list. And to be honest I'm really not that picky about attributes.

Because the things I really really care about aren't going be things like whether or not she smokes or has tattoos. What kind of church she goes to or how much money she makes.

Its more like, is she living her life to meet everyone's expectations or is she thinking for herself about what is truly right, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

I won't date a woman who has a lack of respect for her father. For some reason, when a woman is her father's buddy, we get along really well and everything else works. But when that is missing, eventually she is going to hate me for the same reasons that she hates him, because maybe I start to sound like him or whatever. It just doesn't work.

And I'm not going to limit what God can do in this department by giving him a list.


To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under heaven.

Actually if you read it right.. I never really meant that you would give God YOUR List, I meant that when you pray He gives you His
what you might want or think you need, God knows better...

BTW..if a girl hates her father there is a sure bet that He isn't replicating God's love to her..and maybe, just maybe.. she could benefit from some unconditional love from someone instead of romance anyway..
is she ready for a relationship if she has not yet resolved that? no..
but instead of just saying if a girl has a lack of respect for her father I won't date her..say.. I hope you would say you won't date her but you will pray for her as a christian sister..due to the above reasons..I was in those shoes once.. and needed alot of prayer!! (Praise God for a praying Auntie

and btw, you're welcome

 

[sunnysky31]

Why and How Single Christian Women Should Start Pursuing Men!

by Lester Barrie, Christian minister and comedian -> Lester Barrie Enterprises — Blog


[video=youtube;TWEZQ-yl8Ok]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TWEZQ-yl8Ok[/video]

The day that I chase or pursue a man will be the day that pigs fly.

*Looks out the window to check for flying pigs*

I don't see any pigs flying around in the sky today... so it's not my day to chase a man.

Sunny

 

[Descyple]

The only time I would pursue a woman is if she was wearing chocolate-scented perfume, she was the same height as me (I care deeply about equality), and she speaks a different language than me (that way when I'm not in the mood to talk, I don't have to pretend not to understand her!!!).

 

[Chey60]

The only time I would pursue a woman is if she was wearing chocolate-scented perfume, she was the same height as me (I care deeply about equality), and she speaks a different language than me (that way when I'm not in the mood to talk, I don't have to pretend not to understand her!!!).

You can remove your tongue from your cheek now hehe!

 

[Kia123]

By making threads about it