I love it when people reply to things I write. Let's me know I'm not just some crazy person talking to myself and being ignored by the rest of e-society.
Just remember, the girls who don't take their time to dress up for you.. etc.. may be in their baggy sweats and tshirts all the time when they are married to you.. just saying (big complaint of alot of married men.. my wife just doesn't take care of herself anymore..and i say, then you should have picked someone who took more time on their appearance before
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I see where you're going with this, and can appreciate that aspect.
I think what I was trying to say is more along the lines of a girl being comfortable in her skin, and not finding need to impress anyone in particular. I find that, personally, very attractive, and I believe that confident comfort would also appeal to many other men. As a few examples off the top of my head, John Mayer wrote a song called 'Comfortable' about this, and a song called "Duet" by Penny & Sparrow, though referencing both guy and girl dressing well, made point of the personality and behavior which made it all the more attractive. There are several other pop references, as well as personal, but I've made my point there.
Apart from that, I think we do (especially in Western Society) tend to put too great an emphasis or importance on appearance. I know some pretty lousy people who dress and look wonderful all the time, and adversely, some of the most beautiful souls who are more than a little lacking in appearances. It's just something to think about. The old 'don't judge a book by its cover' adage.
Similarly, though I don't entirely agree with EVERYTHING contained in scripture, let alone from an extreme literal view, there are some notes I tend to see and relate to on this subject with different writers:
In Matthew 6, among other great topics, Jesus speaks on not worrying about the clothes one wears (or anything else, really).
Peter, in his first letter around the 3rd chapter, also talks about not letting adornment be your judge of beauty. While he goes on to some, what I believe are cultural, views I don't necessarily agree with, I do resonate with his warning of what could become vanity on our part.
Similarly, in the OT, we see passages such as 1 Samuel 16:7, commenting that the outward appearance is not enough. Men (humankind to be better inclusive and gender neutral) judge based on the way things look, but God can see into the very heart or inmost depth of people, situations, or the like.
Now, I don't say this at all to try and shame or dissuade anyone from taking pride in how they dress, as I said I understand that viewpoint. I just also wanted to illustrate that there are other viewpoints, and more than 1 can be 'right' in its own respect. More food for thought...
When I'm working, I will usually look a lot like this woman, but not QUITE as unapproachable. 
Maybe a little more like this (minus the sissy purse):
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for several reasons:
- Most people, men especially, tend to treat you the way you dress in the work place. If you want to be taken seriously, it's important to dress accordingly.
- And, you are right, there are times when a certain amount of intimidation is not a bad thing, such as a deposition, interrogation or testimony in court.
- Pants hide ankle holsters well.
Off the clock, I like to dress more like this :
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Jules, I love ya, but I think you know as well as I that your INFJ PoliceBatSuperWoman powers can not only intimidate but PWN anyone whom you choose to cast them upon. ^_~ Otherwise, you're very endearing, so no worries.
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