Dating sites: your thoughts on them..and would you pay?

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Chey60

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LightningClap0002 said:
For me, I think that God has not called me to look for a wife. In general, I think that there are very few people who sign up for dating sites because they are led by God there. I'm sure that God might lead some people to them, but I can't think of anyone off the top of my head.
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If you are praying, listening to and seeking the voice and wisdom of God? He doesn't always tell you where He's leading you..you just walk in faith and He opens or closes doors.
On the other hand I am sure there are times He actually shows you where you are going and where He is leading :)
I am not saying God DOES lead people to dating sites...but in our walking and living for and trusting God, even if we venture into that world.. He goes with us :) as long as it's not sinful and you know the difference..
 
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Chey60

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Jullianna said:
I checked out one site out of curiosity a couple of years ago. I never logged in again. Not my thing (too impersonal), but it works for some people I hear. Or at least they think it does.
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yes while I haven't found my mate online.. I know lots of other couples who have marriages that are lasting and whole , healthy and Christ like.. at least for them, they are equally yoked..
 
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I was on a Christian Singles site once, but I left because I had way too many women flirting with me at the same time and I couldn't decide which one to pick.

Who needs that kind of stress in their life???
 
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Chey60

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Descyple said:
I was on a Christian Singles site once, but I left because I had way too many women flirting with me at the same time and I couldn't decide which one to pick.

Who needs that kind of stress in their life???
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Bahahaha! wait.. .did that really happen? :p
 
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Chey60 said:
Bahahaha! wait.. .did that really happen? :p
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Chey60, you must realize that I never joke about women flirting with me (I may lie about it, but I NEVER joke about it!!!).
 
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I tried ChristianMingle, most here know about my experience with it: Not good.

It also made me realize that with my personality and...hmm, issues I guess one could say, I really need to already know the person in real life beforehand before I pursue a relationship with that person. I wouldn't be 100% opposed to something online, but it'd take a lot.
 
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jay9993

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I don't have anything against these websites or people who use them, but I think that us as Christians should wait in God for true love because if he gives us something it'll be perfect, but if we go choose on our on will things will sadly not turn out that good
 
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KeeganGentle

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Dating sites? You have to pay for those? You pay to meet people, I guess the corporates find a way to milk money everywhere.

Why? When there's a perfectly good real world outside:confused: I find dating sites sad, and worse the more people on the sites the less people outside for me to meet, seriously. Take a walk smile at people, eventually you can work your way up to a friendly hello.
 
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Chey60

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KeeganGentle said:
Dating sites? You have to pay for those? You pay to meet people, I guess the corporates find a way to milk money everywhere.

Why? When there's a perfectly good real world outside:confused: I find dating sites sad, and worse the more people on the sites the less people outside for me to meet, seriously. Take a walk smile at people, eventually you can work your way up to a friendly hello.
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Trust me when I say that first, men outnumber women and second..christian men are even fewer and harder to find..
I mean TRUE walk the walk christian men!
And btw, being on a dating site is no different than going into a grocery store...
you are going to meet people somewhere so if God can bring them into a grocery store He can bring them on the site..

I am just not convinced that it's not trusting God..
but then... I don't ever start romance online :) friendships yes..romance no :)
that happens after meeting if it gets that far...and so far it only has with one person as I had said before, in 5 years :)
AFTER the intial meeting on line..which turned into "hey I had no idea you even existed" cause we didn't move in the same circles as he lived 45 minutes away..
 
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Chey60

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Descyple said:
Chey60, you must realize that I never joke about women flirting with me (I may lie about it, but I NEVER joke about it!!!).
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TBH it could have happened that you had all kinds of women after you..
just from what I know of you on this site so far.. I am not sure if I should take what you say with some wheat?
or believe it :) and you can call me Chey :) you don't have to add my birthdate :) haha
 
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Ugly

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I can't imagine bothering with one. I like to notice someone and observe and interact with them i without expectations on either of our parts. Its easy to find someone who matches a checklist, but still be exactly what you don't want. Though i do find i prefer meeting people online. I think i get judged less for my appearance and people get to know me first. I have always had really bad luck getting women to notice me offline.
 
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Chey60 said:
TBH it could have happened that you had all kinds of women after you..
just from what I know of you on this site so far.. I am not sure if I should take what you say with some wheat?
or believe it :) and you can call me Chey :) you don't have to add my birthdate :) haha
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Thank you for the compliment Chey.

And you should definitely take everything I say not only with some wheat, but with a grain of salt (actually make that a pound of salt, just to make sure my words don't cause indigestion!!!).
 
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Chey60

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Oh man.. I forgot it was brain of salt.. And I substituted wheat for grain thinking I was being clever and I was just being weird or blonde lol
 
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Chey60 said:
Oh man.. I forgot it was brain of salt.. And I substituted wheat for grain thinking I was being clever and I was just being weird or blonde lol
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A "Brain of Salt" Chey???

Wow, you must really be blonde - lol.
 
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Chey60

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Man!! The typos on my tablet are awful!! Lol
 
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Chey60

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And I really am,. Dying my hair dark doesn't fix that lol
 
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JoyofLord

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Ugly said:
I can't imagine bothering with one. I like to notice someone and observe and interact with them i without expectations on either of our parts. Its easy to find someone who matches a checklist, but still be exactly what you don't want. Though i do find i prefer meeting people online. I think i get judged less for my appearance and people get to know me first. I have always had really bad luck getting women to notice me offline.
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I have been wanting to say this to you for a while, maybe you should change your online name? When you call yourself ugly that is what you will feel. Good looking would be so much better, hey good looking :)
 
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JoyofLord said:
I have been wanting to say this to you for a while, maybe you should change your online name? When you call yourself ugly that is what you will feel. Good looking would be so much better, hey good looking :)
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Let's just all start calling him Handsome. That's my new name for you, Ugly. I mean, Handsome. ;)
 
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Tintin

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Grace-Like-Rain said:
Let's just all start calling him Handsome. That's my new name for you, Ugly. I mean, Handsome. ;)
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That's going to get super-awkward for us guys. Hey there, Handsome! *giggle*

Edited to correct apostrophe placement.
 
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