Pre nups

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Many prenups are made by agreement with both parties. Prenups are not about trust but about having an arrangement to fall back on if things don't go to plan. Just like a will or insurance. Many countries have dowry's to ensure the husband treats his wife properly etc. It's no different really.
 
MahogonySnail said:
Many prenups are made by agreement with both parties. Prenups are not about trust but about having an arrangement to fall back on if things don't go to plan. Just like a will or insurance. Many countries have dowry's to ensure the husband treats his wife properly etc. It's no different really.
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Basically these people are going into the marriage with anticipation of it failing.
 
Compassion said:
Basically these people are going into the marriage with anticipation of it failing.
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i have to disagree with that, you never know what may happen in your marriage. You can expect the best and your husband may have an affair and leave you, or even die. For me having a pre nup like snail said is like having insurance, because in life... thousands of things go wrong all the time, you just really never know.
 
Compassion-I love that quote at the bottom of your post! It says it so well, where our priorities need to be. Thanks girl!

MSnail-Glad I had some positive influence on you. Hehe! Really, I'm sure you're a great guy. I understand why you would think about a prenup when commitment in this day and age can be really scary. But I think if we really seek God's direction for the right one and do our part to be the best spouse we can be, with God's strength and love, we can trust Him to take care of the rest. Not to say that then nothing difficult could happen in a marriage. We each have our own free will. But He's faithful. He'll take care of our needs. But then if a person has a lot of money, this could be a real concern. Then I ask, is that person's money one of the things they need to surrender/entrust to God? Okay, I'll shut-up now. Just love these thought provoking discussions. Bless you all! :)
 
Twilight said:
Compassion-I love that quote at the bottom of your post! It says it so well, where our priorities need to be. Thanks girl!
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sorry to barge in here but thanks Twilight for pointing that out......guess what my daughter will be hearing for a very long time!:)
 
No prob! But really, thank Compassion. What a great message for a young girl to hear from her Dad. I also think a great influence on a young woman's approach to relationships is how her father treats her. If he treats her like a princess, not spoiled, but valuable and beautiful, she will have high standards and look for a man who will treat her the same. Just a thought. Bet you're a great dad! :)
 
Twilight said:
No prob! But really, thank Compassion. What a great message for a young girl to hear from her Dad. I also think a great influence on a young woman's approach to relationships is how her father treats her. If he treats her like a princess, not spoiled, but valuable and beautiful, she will have high standards and look for a man who will treat her the same. Just a thought. Bet you're a great dad! :)
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i agree....
 
I dont see what's wrong with signing a pre-nup. You may say it's a symbol for a failed marriage, but in reality if someone signed it and they lived happily ever after it didn't matter anyway. Why not prevent a possible mistake? We're living in an age when Christians divorce too (some with good reason).
 
Compassion said:
Basically these people are going into the marriage with anticipation of it failing.
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Do you sign up for the $5 rental van insurance with the anticipation of crashing your UHaul? What about signing a waiver when you go skydiving? Does that mean you're anticipating becoming a pancake? Methinks not.

- Topher
 
I wouldn't sign a prenuptial agreement form, because it would -to me- symbolize that my marriage was not God's will. If I was marrying the man God wanted me to, there would be no chance of divorce.
 
If you are willing to sign a prenup, would you be willing to get( and share the results of) a test for sexually transmitted diseases? What about sharing credit histories and all outstanding debts(school loans etc.)?

After all the two shall become one....
 
If my future-husband has been sexually active, I'm going to ask him to get tested regardless.
 
Kyra said:
If you are willing to sign a prenup, would you be willing to get( and share the results of) a test for sexually transmitted diseases? What about sharing credit histories and all outstanding debts(school loans etc.)?

After all the two shall become one....
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100% willing, and planning on it. It's only practical. Heck, I know a guy who caught an STD from being covered in Iraqi blood moving wounded people after an explosion. He could have unknowingly transmitted it to his wife had he not undergone a routine military STD/blood test. People also sometimes have their credit histories jacked up by identity theft, unknowingly.

I guess my point is that anybody's future spouse could have an STD and a jacked up credit history, through no fault of their own, and not know it. Tests and checks are a must!

- Topher
 
I do agree with the sexually transmitted disease test. But it is making sure nothing in the past causes harm in the future, but a prenup is planning for a failed marriage in the future. I really feel if this is your attitude going into a marriage, then when times get tough, which they will, you will be more apt to throw in the towel than if your attitude is, "Hey, I made a commitment to you, so I am willing to do whatever it takes to work it out." That's what love is all about. And I believe if you really allow God to direct in the choice of who to marry, then it is a matter of trusting Him with this part of your life. Later,

T
 
"and the two shall become one"...so if you had 100 bucks and spouse 10 bucks then because you have now become one, then collectively you both have 110 bucks, now you get divorced so each gets 55 bucks..period!
if you want to hang on to your possessions/hard earned cash and not share with your partner equally, then why did you get married in the first place? Marriage is a merger of two "companies" who become a brand new "company" with ALL being as ONE!...
 
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Could you ask for body part if they cheated on you? lol....if they loved you shouldnt be a problem right?
 
Could you ask for body part if they cheated on you? lol....if they loved you shouldnt be a problem right?
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Well apparently, you're supposed to give the other person your heart :S.
 
MahogonySnail said:
Well apparently, you're supposed to give the other person your heart :S.
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I have often prayed about all of that..i am a 150% kind of person, and would trust absolutly if lead by God to marry, and if something like that happened I think I would want to know he'd rather be dead than hurt me like that, I know I would. I pray God would never let me get married, before he allowed that to happen, so asking for an arm or a leg shouldn't be a big deal :)....
 
MahogonySnail said:
Well apparently, you're supposed to give the other person your heart :S.
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Your heart per say. Its really just endophins in your body that you give to the other person. However if you could get that in a prenup that would be awesome. I Would like my pre nup to read somethin like this



If in the event of an adulterous affair, you will be subjected to running a gauntlet. If you fail, you will then proceed to have your head split open and your brain removed for further inspection.
 
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