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I 'liked' your post, and while I do agree with it... it also condemns me. Y_Y
I was 'banking' on this:
1 Corinthians 7
New International Version (NIV)
Concerning Married Life
7 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt youbecause of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
8 Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
...but this: ...makes a lot of sense, too. -_- Alas! To suffer the slings and arrows of an outrageous misfortune created solely by the tangled webs we, ourselves, weave. Perhaps then, the curse is mine to bear, should I lose in reprieve of my nature and fail what plans laid made better hence. The prison, then as now, has always been of our own making, and therein...many of us stay.
The 'motto' of many addiction breaking agencies: "Some may find freedom through the Power of a relationship with Christ." ...and history has shown it true. Not all, not most, not many, but some...
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J
I guess it was a misunderstanding then. I thought you meant what ugly said when I saw it. And I'm not offended even if you did have that opinion. I just disagree. 
I like shy men.
And I hope I wasn't offensive somehow. You brought up a lot of other good points in the OP...
I like shy men. And I hope I wasn't offensive somehow. You brought up a lot of other good points in the OP...
You know I don't have a problem with people disagreeing with me. I appreciate folks who have their own mind and are not afraid to speak it. To be perfectly honest with you, I spent most of the day discussing a couple of violent crimes against children investigations, was pretty ticked off by my lunch break and should not have posted when I was in that frame of mind.
I need to work on my sensitivity, but some days are far easier than others to accomplish that.
Sorry about that. The drive home helped me calm my mind and find a little peace.Be blessed!
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I just thought one thing got misinterpreted here...
Meeting a lady you would like to ask out does not correlate to approaching someone randomly and asking them out. If the lady gives him ample opportunity to ask, like Julianna said, and the man feels led by God to ask her out, he'd better do it. Otherwise he will miss out. God's not going to ask her for you. Asking someone else to ask her if you can go somewhere together officially becomes passe in middle school.
Meeting a lady you would like to ask out does not correlate to approaching someone randomly and asking them out. If the lady gives him ample opportunity to ask, like Julianna said, and the man feels led by God to ask her out, he'd better do it. Otherwise he will miss out. God's not going to ask her for you. Asking someone else to ask her if you can go somewhere together officially becomes passe in middle school.
J
Forgive me if I'm misinterpreting any of this to in any way mean that you took from my posts that I either said or believe that any woman, anywhere, any time deserves to be raped for any reason. If you in any way took that from what I said, you are highly in error, as I have spent the last 18 years of my life assisting women, children AND men who were rape victims.
My job, wherever I am, is to encourage men and women to learn how to protect themselves. Period.
My job, wherever I am, is to encourage men and women to learn how to protect themselves. Period.
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as for "the man asking"
not me, I wont do it. if by some odd chance some woman wanted something to do with me, they can just tell me strait up. otherwise its not worth my time.
why put yourself though getting rejected 500 million times, get told you ain't good enough, or you are to ugly, or you dont have enough material things. nope. not worth it. if I am going to gamble and lose ill go to the casino and gamble at least there sometimes I actually win
not me, I wont do it. if by some odd chance some woman wanted something to do with me, they can just tell me strait up. otherwise its not worth my time.
why put yourself though getting rejected 500 million times, get told you ain't good enough, or you are to ugly, or you dont have enough material things. nope. not worth it. if I am going to gamble and lose ill go to the casino and gamble at least there sometimes I actually win
J
There are a lot of good women out there who have been told they were too old, ugly, too fat, too thin, have the wrong hair color/length, are not good enough, don't have a degree, don't have a good enough job, don't come from a good enough family, don't dress right, etc. as well. Women know a little something about rejection too. Just sayin'.
A lot of them have given up on love as well.
A lot of them have given up on love as well.
J
Exactly. Thank you, Jim. I am not promoting walking up to some random woman on the street and asking her out. Whether man or woman, I should think it would go without saying in a Christian forum that we should prayerfully consider and observe someone we are interested in dating prior to taking action thereon.
Seems like doing that would give you a fairly good expectation of how she might answer. If you think a woman is going to be nasty to you in some way for asking her out, why would you be asking her out in the first place?
Thank you, Jim. I am not promoting walking up to some random woman on the street and asking her out. Whether man or woman, I should think it would go without saying in a Christian forum that we should prayerfully consider and observe someone we are interested in dating prior to taking action thereon.Seems like doing that would give you a fairly good expectation of how she might answer. If you think a woman is going to be nasty to you in some way for asking her out, why would you be asking her out in the first place?
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