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Being "dumped" is a really hard thing to get over, but at the same time, it can open up many more doors for you. There are so many things that you can do as a single person that you can't do married. So take this chapter in your life, that seems to be sad, and thank God that He is giving you a chance to serve Him undistracted.
H
Well, no matter if your dumped or with the one God has for you, always remember that Jesus is your husband! the bible says that hes our bridegroom and we are married to him! 
find your confidence and identity in the Lord and may he be your number one and he will then give you the desires of your heart!
find your confidence and identity in the Lord and may he be your number one and he will then give you the desires of your heart!
S
Hello sister:
I understand what you are going through...it is soo easy to give advice when we are not into the pain ....my boyfriend just dumped last december...but he told me:"I was too good for him", and i think he is right.
Friend i believe the ONE that God has for us will not break our heart.Just keep reading the bible and pray, ask God to heal your heart and that HE may help you to forgive your ex....believe that YOU DESERVE BETTER AND TO BE HAPPY.BELIEVE that you can find better.
Today i woke up pretty blue and down...it hurts to be alone again and don't see any available men on sight...but i am praising Him for all the blessings He gave me.You can count on me for prayers, if you want to chat send private message ok?GOd bless you!
I understand what you are going through...it is soo easy to give advice when we are not into the pain ....my boyfriend just dumped last december...but he told me:"I was too good for him", and i think he is right.
Friend i believe the ONE that God has for us will not break our heart.Just keep reading the bible and pray, ask God to heal your heart and that HE may help you to forgive your ex....believe that YOU DESERVE BETTER AND TO BE HAPPY.BELIEVE that you can find better.
Today i woke up pretty blue and down...it hurts to be alone again and don't see any available men on sight...but i am praising Him for all the blessings He gave me.You can count on me for prayers, if you want to chat send private message ok?GOd bless you!
M
hey cindy,
i read through the replies so far to your post and as a person who's recently been dumped, those posts don't quite hit the deepness of my pain. or yours, i'm sure. i know that everyone is well meaning and the statements are true. i have my own set of questions -- like, what happens if i do devote my life to God and follow Him and i never get married? then what? and what about the agonizing feeling of losing a relationship here on earth? sometimes, in my weakness, that spiritual relationship doesn't seem to make up for the lack of a tangible one. God can't go to the movies with me on the weekend, you know? and, why does this keep happening to me? i've been through 3 other terrible break-ups, one of them was 3 months before my would-be wedding.and now i'm on #4. in hindsight i know exactly why each one went wrong and i in some ways, that is helpful to know -- those relationships would have been equally as painful as the break up was if they had continued and the pain would've drug out for a much longer time.
i know so far i seem to be a downer, cindy and i don't mean to be. let me tell you my perspective. break-up #1 happened 6 or so months in (in fact, they all happened that early except for the time i was engaged) and it seemed completely out of the blue. nothing was wrong in our relationship but he blamed it on me. it took 6 months after that for him to admit that he had a porn problem and that's why he ended it. it's a legit reason. but during those 6 months and even after i was in the deepest pit of depression. the only thing that brought me through was God. . .and i wrestled with Him the whole way. i questioned His goodness and love and faithfulness and reasons. but, in that wrestling He gave me intense peace and strength. and at the end of that dark time i feel that my faith came out so much stronger. so unshakeable b/c of my trial. so, yes, what everyone wrote is true. rely on God -- but just know that it's okay to wrestle, too. check out Psalm 56:8 if you have the time, too. i hope this is both encouraging and realistic.
i read through the replies so far to your post and as a person who's recently been dumped, those posts don't quite hit the deepness of my pain. or yours, i'm sure. i know that everyone is well meaning and the statements are true. i have my own set of questions -- like, what happens if i do devote my life to God and follow Him and i never get married? then what? and what about the agonizing feeling of losing a relationship here on earth? sometimes, in my weakness, that spiritual relationship doesn't seem to make up for the lack of a tangible one. God can't go to the movies with me on the weekend, you know? and, why does this keep happening to me? i've been through 3 other terrible break-ups, one of them was 3 months before my would-be wedding.and now i'm on #4. in hindsight i know exactly why each one went wrong and i in some ways, that is helpful to know -- those relationships would have been equally as painful as the break up was if they had continued and the pain would've drug out for a much longer time.
i know so far i seem to be a downer, cindy and i don't mean to be. let me tell you my perspective. break-up #1 happened 6 or so months in (in fact, they all happened that early except for the time i was engaged) and it seemed completely out of the blue. nothing was wrong in our relationship but he blamed it on me. it took 6 months after that for him to admit that he had a porn problem and that's why he ended it. it's a legit reason. but during those 6 months and even after i was in the deepest pit of depression. the only thing that brought me through was God. . .and i wrestled with Him the whole way. i questioned His goodness and love and faithfulness and reasons. but, in that wrestling He gave me intense peace and strength. and at the end of that dark time i feel that my faith came out so much stronger. so unshakeable b/c of my trial. so, yes, what everyone wrote is true. rely on God -- but just know that it's okay to wrestle, too. check out Psalm 56:8 if you have the time, too. i hope this is both encouraging and realistic.
C
Dear Maia,
you hit the nail on the spot. Thanks so much for your sharing your experience. At first it is such a depressing moment, but sure enough when we look back and see, we realise we have not lost anything. If something is meant to be, it shall be.
I read every word you wrote and i appreciate. Tonite i will read Psalm 56:8, God bless you and I wish you happiness in abundany.
Take care
Cindy
you hit the nail on the spot. Thanks so much for your sharing your experience. At first it is such a depressing moment, but sure enough when we look back and see, we realise we have not lost anything. If something is meant to be, it shall be.
I read every word you wrote and i appreciate. Tonite i will read Psalm 56:8, God bless you and I wish you happiness in abundany.
Take care
Cindy
R
For every door that the Lord closes, another is opened. One must be attuned to the stillness that is God, and know for certain what direction he is leading us. It is not enought to try and figure this out on your own, nor is it correct to look for random answers in a forum such as this. Only God can truly lead you to the truth of the matter, especially when it comes to the heart. I wish I could lead you to the place you so desire to be. Psalm 46:10 says, Be still and know that I am God. So be still and lean not on your own understanding when it comes to matters of the heart. He is here. Reach out to Him. Anytime you need to discuss matters that concern the Providence of God I will be more than glad to fellowsip with. On any matter. Always in Christ, Robert Fiore [email protected]
