A "Nice Guys Finish Last" Thread

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
L

Lecrae

Guest
#241
#241
Are nice guys finishing last in the Christian culture?

Yes. Yes. And Yes. Happened to me four times (and counting).

Should they be finishing last with Christian women?

Not at all. Women shouldn't be looking for pure emotional excitement and stimulation. They should be looking for a life long partner that can upbring their children in the most Christ like way possible.

Why don't Christian women like nice guys?

The same reason non-Christian women don't like nice guys. They find them boring and unattractive.

If Christian women are not interested in nice guys, but their opposites, then who is to blame: the guys or the girls?

Neither, I guess. You can't choose who you're attracted to (for the most part). And you don't choose the nice guy life, the nice guy life chooses you. Was half way joking in that last sentence, because if I tried being a bad boy, it just won't happen. Nope nope nope. Never.

Are we "nice guys" because we are devoted to Jesus, and not in pleasing the feminine lusts of the flesh?

No, I wouldn't say that. I would consider myself before I chose Christ to be a nice guy. Same with my good friend who is an Atheist.
 
alexis

alexis

Banned by Admin Team (verified fraud)
#242
Dec 5, 2013
501
23
0
#242
@TaylorTG

Thank you for liking my apology!

God bless you,
also if you ever feel I am not being Christ like towards you please let me know...

Tons of love,
Lexi
 
S

ServantStrike

Guest
#243
#243
alexis said:
@TaylorTG

Thank you for liking my apology!

God bless you,
also if you ever feel I am not being Christ like towards you please let me know...

Tons of love,
Lexi
Click to expand...
I am glad there has been reconciliation. He and I have also talked via PM and I apologized to him if I had upset him.
 
S

ServantStrike

Guest
#244
#244
Lecrae said:
Are nice guys finishing last in the Christian culture?

Yes. Yes. And Yes. Happened to me four times (and counting).

No, I wouldn't say that. I would consider myself before I chose Christ to be a nice guy. Same with my good friend who is an Atheist.
Click to expand...
Law of averages.

Keep trying. Perhaps on the 5th time or the 6th time you'll get a different result.

If it continues to be a problem, remember that youth is a factor. Most guys and girls don't even know what they want at age 20. It may take a few years, and in a few years time you will look back at this and wonder about how different things feel versus the way they felt today.

Whatever you do, don't let yourself get bitter about it. It will not serve you well and it will steal your joy.
 
T

TaylorTG

Guest
#245
#245
alexis said:
@TaylorTG
Thank you for liking my apology!
God bless you,
also if you ever feel I am not being Christ like towards you please let me know...
Tons of love,
Lexi
Click to expand...
Uh.. I put you in a good mood simply because I liked your post?
OKAY, I get it. :) You're welcome.
 
alexis

alexis

Banned by Admin Team (verified fraud)
#246
Dec 5, 2013
501
23
0
#246
ServantStrike said:
I am glad there has been reconciliation. He and I have also talked via PM and I apologized to him if I had upset him.
Click to expand...
I feel horrible when I upset people or hurt their feelings.
Especially when I am just having fun...
That is good that we all can fix our differences and misunderstandings..

I think we all please Jesus in doing so
 
alexis

alexis

Banned by Admin Team (verified fraud)
#247
Dec 5, 2013
501
23
0
#247
TaylorTG said:
Uh.. I put you in a good mood simply because I liked your post?
OKAY, I get it. :) You're welcome.
Click to expand...
Of course you put me in a good mood... I care about you!
 
T

TaylorTG

Guest
#248
#248
@Alexis
Uhh..err...o_o..e_e.. You didn't upset me or "hurt my feelings", but thanks anyway. :)
And excuse me for being rude, but how can one truly care about someone if he/she never even met that someone, let alone saw that someone's face? I guess it's just an expression...

Regardless thanks for the kind words.
 
T

Tintin

Guest
#249
#249
No, it's not just an expression. It's quite possible to care for people you haven't met in real life. I've made some good friends here. Also, Alexis is being genuine. She's about as Christ-like as they come.
 
Praus

Praus

Banned
#250
Dec 21, 2012
2,982
40
0
#250
TaylorTG said:
And excuse me for being rude, but how can one truly care about someone if he/she never even met that someone, let alone saw that someone's face? I guess it's just an expression...
Click to expand...
Did Jesus Christ meet you before He went on the cross for you?

 cross-blood.jpg
 
T

TaylorTG

Guest
#251
#251
@Tintin
Yes, Alexis may seem Christ-like, but lets not forget this wise statement: "Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer."
The anti-Christ attempts to mix into our line of brothers and sisters...
I'm not saying (just implying) that Alexis could be the anti-Christ, I'm just trying to make a point of us not giving 100% trust to anyone, even our own families!
Wise statement: "Trust, but verify."
Who knows? Alexis could be the anti-Christ who is purposely intergrating herself into this website to spy for the devil. Satan actually works more around the church than anywhere else!
She could be a member of the anti-Christ, I could secretly be the anti-Christ, Nautilus could be a member of the anti-Christ, who knows? We just have to watch our backs, for the devil is like a snake, sneaky and stealthy!
And I'm not directly suggesting that Alexis is the anti-Christ, I'm just using her as an example!

We cannot, under no means suggest that everyone in this website is a geniune Christian, for Satan has eyes everywhere!

I'm sorry for sounding like a prophet of doom and gloom, I'm just suggesting that we stay on guard, ladies and gentleman!

@Praus
No, Jesus was far before our times, sir.
Disturbing picture (Just the blood.) coming from a user with a disturbing avatar, sorry.

 
T

Tintin

Guest
#252
#252
TaylorTG said:
@Tintin
Yes, Alexis may seem Christ-like, but lets not forget this wise statement: "Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer."
The anti-Christ attempts to mix into our line of brothers and sisters...
I'm not saying (just implying) that Alexis could be the anti-Christ, I'm just trying to make a point of us not giving 100% trust to anyone, even our own families!
Wise statement: "Trust, but verify."
Who knows? Alexis could be the anti-Christ who is purposely intergrating herself into this website to spy for the devil. Satan actually works more around the church than anywhere else!
She could be a member of the anti-Christ, I could secretly be the anti-Christ, Nautilus could be a member of the anti-Christ, who knows? We just have to watch our backs, for the devil is like a snake, sneaky and stealthy!
And I'm not directly suggesting that Alexis is the anti-Christ, I'm just using her as an example!

We cannot, under no means suggest that everyone in this website is a geniune Christian, for Satan has eyes everywhere!

I'm sorry for sounding like a prophet of doom and gloom, I'm just suggesting that we stay on guard, ladies and gentleman!

@Praus
No, Jesus was far before our times, sir.
Disturbing picture (Just the blood.) coming from a user with a disturbing avatar, sorry.
Click to expand...
Wow, that just escalated!

I never assumed every member of CC was a Christian. I know for a fact there are atheists and agnostics on here, Muslims, Mormons and Jehovah's Witnesses etc. Oh, as well as Christians. But I think you went off the deep end with this last post of yours.
 
rachelsedge

rachelsedge

Senior Member
#253
Oct 15, 2012
3,659
81
48
34
#253
Are you serious right now, TaylorG? I wasn't going to get involved in this discussion any more, but I cannot stand by while you call out a sister in Christ in the way you just did. Saying that alexis "could be" the anti-Christ or a spy for Satan? "Who knows?" There are ways to know and test, and she has not exhibited any characteristics of someone anti-Christ.

Stop. Just stop.
 
T

TaylorTG

Guest
#254
#254
@Tintin
I think I did go off the deep end.

Sorry, guys...


 
Misty77

Misty77

Senior Member
#255
Aug 30, 2013
1,746
45
0
#255
TaylorTG said:
@Tintin
Yes, Alexis may seem Christ-like, but lets not forget this wise statement: "Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer."
The anti-Christ attempts to mix into our line of brothers and sisters...
I'm not saying (just implying) that Alexis could be the anti-Christ, I'm just trying to make a point of us not giving 100% trust to anyone, even our own families!
Wise statement: "Trust, but verify."
Who knows? Alexis could be the anti-Christ who is purposely intergrating herself into this website to spy for the devil. Satan actually works more around the church than anywhere else!
She could be a member of the anti-Christ, I could secretly be the anti-Christ, Nautilus could be a member of the anti-Christ, who knows? We just have to watch our backs, for the devil is like a snake, sneaky and stealthy!
And I'm not directly suggesting that Alexis is the anti-Christ, I'm just using her as an example!

We cannot, under no means suggest that everyone in this website is a geniune Christian, for Satan has eyes everywhere!

I'm sorry for sounding like a prophet of doom and gloom, I'm just suggesting that we stay on guard, ladies and gentleman!

@Praus
No, Jesus was far before our times, sir.
Disturbing picture (Just the blood.) coming from a user with a disturbing avatar, sorry.
Click to expand...
Dude, you're crazy.
 
T

TaylorTG

Guest
#256
#256
@Misty77

Lesson learned: never be too pessimistic.

Now please stop replyng to it. you're killing me in shame.

I can't edit it now, okay? Please... forget it.

 
T

TaylorTG

Guest
#257
#257
Don't say it. I know, I again ruined any chance of developing good relationships with people here. Don't say it. I learned my lesson.
 
rachelsedge

rachelsedge

Senior Member
#258
Oct 15, 2012
3,659
81
48
34
#258
TaylorTG said:
Lesson learned: never be too pessimistic.

Now please stop replyng to it. you're killing me in shame.

I can't edit it now, okay? Please... forget it.
Click to expand...
Here's the thing, brother, I actually get what your point is. We must test the words of those who speak to us to make sure that they align with God's word, because the devil is sneaky.

However...

This doesn't mean that we can't trust anyone. If anything, we need to trust our brothers and sisters in Christ and through Christ or else we will become paranoid and isolated.

The execution of your point wasn't great, as I'm sure you've seen now. If you're going to use an example, it's best not to use a CC member whom you have no right to use as such, especially when they have been nothing but kind. Just for future reference.
 
T

Tintin

Guest
#259
#259
TaylorTG said:
Don't say it. I know, I again ruined any chance of developing good relationships with people here. Don't say it. I learned my lesson.
Click to expand...
No one said anything. Before this goes any further, I suggest you go for a walk outside.
 
T

TaylorTG

Guest
#260
#260
@Rachelsedge
Thanks! We learn new things everyday!
 
You must log in or register to reply here.